From Broken To Blessed

About halfway through series called with Robert sharing the secret to having a happy family are. We're in a series called blessed families, and this we talked about the broken family. I believe we talked about the blessed marriage last weekend. This weekend I want to talk about from broken blessed and I want to remind you that we all came from a broken family adamantly and again not referring to divorce, referring to the brokenness of sale right. I want to show you four stages that we all go through to go from broken blessed because were all born broken were born broken so will talk about how to go from broken websites so these are the four stages.

They all have two words point in the second word is me in every point. So it's it's really helpful you can remember these four points like number one this stage is give me give me this is where we all start every person, every baby every spiritual baby every marriage we all start would give me I'm a show to you in the prodigal son Luke 15 verse 12 and the younger of them said to his father.

Father give me give me the portion of goods that falls to me and let me say this again. Every baby starts here. Every baby starts give me every child starts here we we desire as parents for our children to grow out of the give me stage would generate some of us are they good. Now I got a 27-year-old still in the give me stage so we might think I got a 45-year-old married to Mike. Let's not talk about that. I know we all start here we also start here spiritually.

Maybe you never thought about this book we are born again. So we are spiritual babies and I want you understand.does it resent that that were in the give me stage as spiritual babies. He doesn't resent it. You don't resent it when your newborn baby wants a bottle. You don't resent that baby because you're not expecting any more out of that baby just be a newborn baby in the same way, God's not upset because we start out in the give me stage if you think about it. Many of us could say out of selfishness. What you like about it.

We could say because we don't want to go to hell. We get saved because we want God to clean up the mess that we might we just save you times out of a give me mentality.

In other words many times we don't get say they will not give their lives to Jesus so they could do something for God so God can do something for us right and again I'm trying to tell you it's not upset about this. He understands he does want us to grow up.

All had direct address this to the church in Corinth and say you're still babies. By now you gotta be teachers, yada grow up. You do need to grow up, but we start with the give me stage effects.

Same with marriages, marriages start in the give me stage the husband wants the wife to meet his gaze and the wife wants the husband to meet our needs. Now there are some means that God's design. The husband can meet in the wife some means that God is assigned that a wife can meet in the husband. But you have to understand, there are some means that only God can make a major working for your spouse to meet the needs that only God could meet you're going to be disappointed. This give the spirit you can see it throughout the Scriptures want to show you another famous give me in one of the disciples that you know about the one who betrayed Jesus. Matthew 2614 and 50, then one of the 12 called Judas Iscariot went to the chief priests and he said what are you willing to give me if I deliver him to you and accounted to him 30 pieces of silver give me that's where we all start no way Debbie and I have grandchildren and we love our grandchildren are grandchildren obviously wonderful their maturity are growing but there still children.

So there in the give me stage. We love to do things with our grandchildren, but here's what I noticed about my grandchildren.

We never get to do what I want to do.

We always do what they won't subject they never say to me Papaw you're such a good Papo.

What would you like to do today so that's the first stage give me. Here's the second stage use me, use me. Now I'm going to shop there is a use me. That is pure and from a mature standpoint and were going to get to that. But what about a phrase a little differently than this, but the second stage we move into his use me and it's not a good use me its use me so I can be seen are significant or feel important. This is the next stage that every Christian goes for DME and then use me if we talked about a few weeks ago say how faint energy and after the fall, if that will only be significant wanting to be seen say another way we say give me because of selfishness.

We save use me because of selfish ambition.

Philippians 23 says let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Now I'd underline selfish ambition. Here's the reason underlying that's two words to us in English in the Greek it's one word it's only one word. It's in the New Testament seven times sometimes assess self-seeking James 314 says about self-seeking objects. But here's the point. What you notice when the Bible talks about ambition.

It puts the word selfish is a part of it.

A plea sermon because people say what is in Thurgood ambition listen.according Bible because here is what the definition of ambition is self seeking self promoting, so will you. Several ligament.

What about someone who has dry that's great that's great. If they have drive why save when I'm looking at training young men and young women in the gospel in the ministry. I literally am trying to beat selfish ambition out of because I know it's there ever person is born with. And that's when we move into. We move into this give me stage and then we move into this usually states only show your verse out this is still not Simon the magician he sees the laying on of hands, and the giving of the Holy Spirit from Peter and John and then this is what he says to him ask a verse 19 saying, give me give me this power also that anyone on whom I lay hands may receive the Holy Spirit. In other words, give me something so I can feel significant. So I can have power.

Kayla Miller like this again for marriage in a marriage. We start out like give me something so I feel good about myself or so I'll be happy. And then we move into. You're not meeting my needs are not making me happy so I need to do something to make me happy. Think about this now done a lot of marriage counseling, most marriage counseling fits around he's not meeting my needs are. She's not meeting my needs. That's the give me things. But then the next step.

They move into yes okay I realize I'm not going to get happiness out of this person, which I thought I would. So now I need to do something to be happy. This is normally when divorce occurs, a person lives try to do something to get happiness and happiness does not come from something that comes from someone only his name is Jesus queso in the prodigal son's life.

This is when he left to do something that will make you happy with 15 verse 13 and not many days after the younger son gathered all together journey to a far country, and there wasted his possessions with prodigal, or sexual immoral living. That's what that mean sexually immoral, so decides to do something to make you happy. Having times it was the people go through this stage. Many times it happens about 10 years in the marriage just to say that much on the security one simply said really depressing the.normally I watch around 10 years in the marriage and then sometimes it 20 and 30 as well.

All of a sudden they get tired of this person is not meeting my needs, so I'm going to try to find my needs met somewhere else now with him at the family so let me say something about marriage. I like to say things that shocking. One is a cause you to say. Secondly, it's just fun. But God did not create marriage to make you happy. Some of your thinking it's working. Here's why God created marriage God created marriage ready.

Here's another shot to kill you some of your thinking it's working. It's a slow death but is working okay. In essence, yes he created marriage to make you happy. Yes, but he knows that the only way that you'll ever be happy is if you died itself. So he created marriage to kill you think about God created Adam and he thinks okay the only way he'll ever be happy is if he's not selfish if he dies to self. So what can we do to get him to died itself. I know, but like you live with someone and let's make her listen. I love this right. The opposite sex. Less likely secondly was someone opposite of him that'll drive me crazy and she needs to died itself to. So if living with the man doesn't kill her. Let's get both of them children that will for sure children so we go from the give me to the use me stage. Here's the third stage, search me now were beginning to move into maturity, search and link 15 in the prodigal son's life. The change came verse 17 but when he came to himself.

We said another way, we begin to search his own heart. We begin the search himself. This is the way the psalmist says in Psalm 139 verse 20 through 24th.

Search me oh God, this is probably Scripture you memorized or heard at some point search real God, and know my heart try me and know my thoughts and see if there be any wicked way in. This is when we stop focusing on someone else meet your needs or what's wrong with our spouse we start focusing know what's wrong with us, you know, it's amazing when I talk about blessed families are blessed marriages. Here's what many of us are doing or thinking you know Pastor fixing. I'm glad you don't preach on family marriage because she needs it, just like several straightforwardly to your your immature believer your immature because the maturation process is that you stop focusing own.

Give me, and use makes all be a focus from attention to me to search me, I don't want to anymore search and see what I can find out what's wrong with him to find what's wrong with me if you really want to blessed marriage in the blessed family fix yourself work on yourself quick trying to work on the other will let God take care of that one fix yourself and so this process is when we begin searching I want to think about this. I remember one time say to the Lord. He was he was getting only about an attitude and I said yeah but did you see what she did and he said to me know. I was just looking at you and he gave me this low vision that I've never shared with the church and I want to share with you always think about it, God had to any put that tube over you and he was watching you from heaven ever were you whenever they did and then he sees you throw a fit and he says hi hey hey that's all right we say yeah but God did you know I'm not looking for right now I'm looking you say I'm not responsible for anyone else's actions.

I'm only responsible for my actions and my reactions by the way God could've put that to over his son and every action and every reaction was perfect even when they nailed him to the cross. Here's what God so God saw his son say father will you forgive them. They don't know what they're doing. Say this is a sign of maturity. We stop telling God with what they did to me and we start saying God search my heart search me try make search search word search I got think about that word search which we are son James when he was about to refer years old.went through this whole phase of hiding and we would have to search for him coming search for and he was really good at hiding. He didn't know how a child behind and you can go on a room first. While they hide.

You can still see no bike but they're not.

They don't think you see the leg sticking out from the bed, but you know you will smarter realize you can say okay, but you can go on a room and you can say like is James in this room know when you hear this hee hee and so you know is there's enough he never hee hee never and he was quiet it was just crazy and he would hide them for family asparagus and literally odd boardrooms and site James. I'm not planning more and if you don't come out right now I am going to spank you understand right now. Come out about my porch as I thought about this word search I thought we used after search diligently think about if you lost a child in a mall or some some of you have done it, which was don't know that yet, but and you just you frantically search. Here's my question diligently researching your own heart. That's what David said search me search my heart try my faults and see if there's any which way this is a sign of maturity. Here's the fourth stage is make me make me say we start with. Give me remove to use me, but it's for the wrong reason. We then start saying God search me, I really want to have purity on the inside. And then we moved to make me money distilling the blank here of vessel fit for the Masters use. We save another way make me a servant to my spouse to my family to the church to you Lord to show to you in the in the prodigal son's life with 15 verse 19 I'm no longer worthy to be called your son. Make me there. They are stewards make me like one of your heart. Serve now you're actually thinking, saying that he is actually saying.

I know I'm your son, but make me a servant. I never had a servant's heart or service attitude make me now when we talk about the prodigal son sometimes we could have the tendency to say that really doesn't relate to me.

I'm never going to see him like that. Remember that this father had two sons and did you know that the same attitude that was a younger son was in the older son he just did leave home. Remember what a younger son started.

Give me the portion of goods, or possibly give me will start with give me that's the very first page, watch what the older son remember the younger son comes home but the dad chose the party and the older son won't go in, watch what the older sunset with 15 verse 29 so he answered and said to his father, lo these many years I've been serving you. I never transgressed her commandment anytime, and yet you never gave me a still in the give me stage you never even gave me a young goat that I might make merry with my friends.

By the way, the father response. Verse 31, setting them, son. You are always with me and all that I have is yours.

Dante, the answer to the maturing process and that give me attitude that we all have, God is trying to tell us listen. It's not what I can give you. It's that you can be with me and when you're with me.

Everything I have pictures is not even that I need to give you something to make you happy and more happy because you're with me. But when you're with me. Everything I have pictures you get it all when you're with me.

I was thinking about this series blessed families. I want to just remind you that the word blessed means happy word blasters. The Hebrew word for blasting the Greek work.

The Greek word is my Coriolis and it means happy if you go to the Beatitudes, and blessed are the poor in spirit. Blessed are you when your persecuted Fleming say all the blessed, blessed are those who seek God all that listen when means happy happy so little by being blessed while talk about financial blessings or anything like that. I'm talking about happy just being happy and happy, joyful, happy some people. I feel actually feel guilty when God starts blessed because they come from such a brokenness, but they don't feel worthy will you need to know first of all, you're not worthy, but you believe in Jesus with work and the father wants to bless you dislike you want to bless your kids someone it is the blessing really doesn't have anything to do with you or your performance yesterday with him and who he is is nitric but I got think about this blasting one notorious hour just sharing closing and phenomenal phenomenal testimony. I will not mention Pastor JK for the moment ago about seven or eight years ago. Pastor Jack was walking. He walks around in his neighborhood in the mornings and evenings for exercise in the praying things and he was walking and he just had this fall. Just a thought came as my you know years ago he had a golden lamp and he just thought I'd collected a golden lab again to walk around the block with Heather and then went right.

Never thought I did think about it for more than that one state. A few days later.

This is when this first wife Anna was still alive. They were driving to a vacation only have about the country came up over heel. There was a car parked on the side of the room they could see a man saying to a dog stay and then he got in his car and drove off. And I thought, I think the man's abandonment and they drove up the doll just sitting there and another card was coming the other way and the lady stopped and said to Josie that it looks like this man, abandonment, abandonment, all nice and we did I say we have a home nearby, and so will take him and call the vet call the shelter.

See if someone's Mexican baby maybe give the God benefited out.

Maybe the dog found the dog himself and thought know this like the dog needs go home and this is where I found human normal go back home. Your some envelopes so Jack went over to Gilliam and he was just know you can see it in the month just wagging his tail and they smile and states and spoke.

He named him Mac, short for notorious which means happy and sweet… Dog puts him in the backseat goes to the vet techs and the bad says hazing 154 lost all that know they call the shelter they check them out. Was there and he said he's already had a shots you know the dog.

This is very good health is one to two years old is just perfect because he's out of that puppy stage was changed forever. And a few weeks went by. No one called and so they thought this is just a gift from the Lord, you know, and so things walking again one day… Besides anything that same place and he remembered just a few weeks earlier he'd had that fault. I'd like a golden lab to walk with me and now appears that all and they had this thought why would I think that God would arrange all those details just because I had the thought that I wanted and he said as soon as I thought a piece of the Lord spoke to him and said why would I ring's.

Why wouldn't you blush.

Her smile and say quit thinking.

Why would God will bless me start thinking I wouldn't not the God that sent his own son to die for you and purchase your salvation. Why wouldn't he will have less wanting to take a moment to think about what Pastor Robert Scheer today and listen to what the Holy Spirit if you want to get a copy of any of the messages in the series, visit Pastor Robert.you can also follow Pastor Robert on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Next time, Pastor Robert has a great message for parents and children, adolescents, and believe it or not, yes, adult children. Until then, we pray you have a blessed week