Neglect, Marginalization, Orphan Spirit

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I really, you know, I don't know of a single man that doesn't deal with this issue as were talking about the tools of the devil you know the things he uses in his toolbox and I know he uses this man so simple substantially, but to get us to where we are in a Rodney where we then rewind a little bit and go back to week one before we had the Father's Day show last week we were on our puller series.

We always talk about and with tools of the enemy. We start off with the unforgiveness moved into the agreements which was about thousand bitter roots and we got in some busyness and forgot all about what we are actually talking about. About that time Zoe got in the condemnation could remember what Decker talk about. Then we took a week off and did Father's Day which is wonderful. Really enjoyed that and they were now getting into neglect and marginalization, which kinda leads to the orphan spirit right in that sense of if this can happen.

It's up to me right I'm on my own.

Nobody is here to help me. I'm all alone and so Andy your clip does at 002 Eldon.

This clip is from a movie I used to watch my daughter years ago and didn't really get the full idea of it, but it's this is a really dramatic lamp a really emotional clip. But what's happening. It's called war Kevin Costner's unit in the Lodge would a key member of the characters names but what's essentially happen as the fathers went off to war. He came back he has PTSD.

He's trying to become the father and the husband of a spouse to be struggled with that. He's had some victory and help the family out within.

Then he dies and this is his son's response to his death. Just because you just gave up owning way for me to thought he was God's will for you so you will hear English and voice and there's a lot of people that live that way and that you know presence of a father taken from a young age, from various different reasons, broken home, death, whatever it may be, and I think really I saw two of the aspects and maybe not marginalization that other parts of the movie, but you definitely see neglect where the father didn't come back and do all that the kid and I thought he should but then also him passing and feeling like his father passing and that then the child feel like he he truly is an orphan and he struggle with that in the movie goes on and tells how he's kind of trying to figure things out in his community and fight needs. These mean kids often various stuff but you know you could see where the kid in that movie two goes and takes control of his life. I don't need anyone else.

I want to do this thing on my own and that's the way so many men live is independence. That's exactly where the enemy wants you to be. That is a true tool to feel like you're isolated. It's all up to you and if I don't come through. It's not gonna happen. Which sounds good.

We've promoted that idea in society. A lot of times it sounds great but really what it does is it it eats at your heart.

It takes away from it because we were not meant to live this life without a father intimately involved in her life which sets up you know you can. Even if you worked at a second set up Ronnie's clip better than that because I had Rodney you got yeah understand in their community. Yeah, that's were meant to be. So if you are a child that has a background like you just heard in the clip and what you end up turning into his loan with McQuade, you end up with it being a man who's like no I can do it on my own. I live on my own. I live away from everybody else. And in this clip you have the Sgt. finally trying to assign them a partner because he's been by himself. This whole time he injured himself is kind of working back into Reno fighting shape is Chuck Norris so you got the young buck being partnered with them shows up stupidly at his house and let himself in and next thing here is to have the 45 Kok on the opening pole on yet you just let me know I am here because I'm your partner site. Chuck Norris is having none just doing. I wake up I'm in your partner. Remember to get out of here forget that partner Use the computer partner to turn off now than it was his wolf met with loan with McQuade's pet wolf growling at them so many he's he's deathly of a loner. You don't get many friends around when you have a wolf gardener outside and so many movies Rambo you know you just think of all of the will, the ones that essentially Lone Ranger. I mean, you know, back in the 50s or 40s. When that came out the whole idea is you know we can man up and and do this stuff and it's it it it's it's a shame it's almost glorified because it really is a heartbreak position of of being alone which is in no way means whatever. And like Jim Yardley identify with because way back last millennium when I was in school, rugged individualism was what built America that was what we are taught in school. I don't know what you're teaching now, but I'm pretty sure that he is an interesting balance to you got what it takes right that something we need from our fathers, but here working to prove what we have what it takes. You know, isolated right you know out of community and obviously you know Satan loves to select that it is think about it, Gospels, New Testament, Jesus started healing and all that stuff and even bother to call the 12 disciples. Those guys glad he came to teach him.

Somebody had to talk me one friends he wanted community to understand the experience and that a lot of times we we we forget the need for that and Peter almost went right program like went that direction wears on his own and then that little boy was wishing that Harold be dead. I didn't understand that you know super old people resemble that remark. It's amazing how young 80 can be so one of the things it has intrigued me is is the way that God is created. Our minds we can think back on little tiny details when we were very young.

And then there are things that happened lastly that we can't remember.

So our minds are funny things, but God made us that way and I think it's important to two things that I think impact how we relate to other people and when my favorite sciences which is worse, ignorance or apathy. I don't know and I don't care and I think that influences how a lot of times kids are brought up. The parents are ignorant of how they ought to bring them up and apathetic because they're so wrapped up in themselves that they don't realize what they're doing to the children. I do have this coming in on. I know the stories of the men here that your particular story wise, not unlike you know that that movie war where your dad was kind of taken out of the picture. For some unknown reason and didn't really seem to qualify as a dad and that led to that whole thing with you right well there were a lot of factors in volume. My dad had a problem with alcohol and first five or six years.

He was rarely around. He was off working and when he would come in for the weekend. He'd be drunk by the time he got there so there was a lot of resentment and anger on my part. Later on he he had a statement that he made to me many times, and that didn't really fully realized the intent of it until I was much older but he told me son get yourself an education so you don't have to work like I did as he was mainly work in installing gas pipeline stuff and it didn't matter how hot it was, or how cold it was. He had to be out there in it, doing his job and it struck me many years later that he didn't.

He didn't tell me that I needed to go to school or whatever was get yourself so that instilled in me that attitude of well it's all up to me and so I did it in the United may it turned out good in that respect.

I did ask me to serve as an interesting choice of words that occur. Satan kinda twisted that so that had the bite of yourself living where your father was sure that my vote would have it back with more on this idea. The orphan spirit of marginalization.

Remember that entrenchment come in and talk about that we come to the things it's been a true joy to me is having my sons are with me to camps and watching them get an understanding that I wish I would have an area several years and I'm still probably learning a little bit as we go watching and getting settled into manhood in understanding what is and how to say we receive when journey one of my favorite things about boot camp. The favorite thing about campus every time I go and see anyone that has encounter God knows, generally speaking, it's nothing we expect this just her masculine journey.org. I know Andy that you picked that bomb very wonderful reason on a lot of levels but dandies just come back from an adventure with his family and the fascinating thing about that clip is it speaks to your heart and a great way about your father, but it was actually Satan twisted that clip to make him feel like he was on his so dad grew up to where his father left him and at an early age much lower earlier than he left mine and was raised with an alcoholic grandfather and I think probably he had a lot of that accounting transferred to my brother my brother actually played that for me one time.

Speaking of where he felt like my father had neglected him that this is your older this. My older brother yeah and you know those things are great out I think there twist. I thought I saw dad's having invested in it now.

It wasn't like me. I like sports my dad like that gave me attention that way and out but and I think my brother, felt like that he was neglected, but I think some of the some of it is the enemy twist that there's a there's a reality. The enemy take a certain amount of truth and then twist it or a perception. Maybe it's not the truth but a perception perceived truth and twisted and it can really affect things but you know my think there's been some healing about my brother and and seeing those things from dad but that's all is powerful. There are so many people that talk, go to that song when you talk about neglect or an orphan spirit that they go to great Northern cordage brother would share that grant that would go to that place where you know my goodness, you know that's an intimate, you know, I no rent revelation to some extent in Sedalia about your life.

When did you decide it was up to you. I can never remember not thinking it was up to me. Yeah it is interesting because I was thinking about my son and my wife gave me a hustle word for Father's Day, but you know our attributes are like double-edged swords. There is that God-given part of independence and and that that do-it-yourself kind of thing that is God-given, but enemy twisted to be well I've got to do it because there's nobody around to help me and I can remember being I think they call it a strong-willed child and if mom are still here. She's a amen and but and Matt is in my daughter. But the thing is is that I the enemy twisted that to be nobody's going to help you they pick on you and even God takes on you so you gonna have to learn to do-it-yourself and that added to that orphan spirit that Dakota had good parents had a good home life, but yet there was something in this makeup that said nobody's going to help you and you know your your your the lone wolf you're marginalized so it's got figures out on your own and that has caused me much grief in my life, but also has those I will say Robby. There is some Prego sauce and I am because there has to be something about that that God put their that that I needed times, but to you can't use it by yourself that that's the key is you were made for community were wired that way and when you take it to the lone wolf mentality. I think that's where we get in trouble a scribe do. I don't know much. How many already good decent folk know how to help out after David about you when when when your life.

What happens where you thought well I guess I'm on the sign. I got a handle it myself.

You know so, the enemy uses and twisted around to really just turn it where were by ourselves and nobody likes you and everybody hates you. It happens you know throughout life all the time especially has many knowledge sentiments were not longer where I was tell a story and immediately he had with Allie. Nobody cares what your standby will solicit for me really change when I kept neglecting my faith in an and God speaking to me. Finally when God stepped in and said you not like that anymore and basically put no another human being that she's been my daughter. My whole life. Both my kids are at them, but you want to live with me since you know they're barely walking so we put Ashlyn back in my life and had to class to take care of him and she really basically broke down that wall of where you whiten it. I mean, I went by myself on me now had to take care of her to and even though we still have the taxes like you know you're by yourself on this to nowise come and help you and you know about band of brothers here. You know my family there for me my life there for me. So really that's where Sartre opened the door for me on that. That's that's awesome insight and really really is. I hadn't put that angle to it for our actual families well Jim you got a clip man I gotta say for a lot of clips for this one.

This one I think it's going to grab you but I'll let you set it up to. I liked often happens, I was trying very hard to find a clip for hours failed and I just started looking up words and that didn't help much but I finally landed on abandoned which goes along with this and found a short clip and I think it's six minutes movie you can get on YouTube called abandoned so it's easy to remember and this is a daughter that is lost her mom.

She's very close to her dad and then they found out she has cancer and she loses her eyesight and her father abandons her and that's where we jump into this A lot of other things it like I did afterwards but you go for he abandons her because he feels like it will strengthen her Brett here at the end of the clip.

I think it's important to note, he he's been whether he's been moving the toothpaste in the you know where it would be easy for you to get.

He's been there, but she's a runner in and she wants to run and that's a deal in the near and they were running together before all this happened inside and so on that and you're good to hear him say I you know, I've got you, and she was fixed run off a cliff, but all the sudden he reaches out and grabs her and then you get to hear what's coming for me and tell me how to be everything Seth left her in as much as it pains me to hear that she's right and left to realize she's more courageous than she ever met left to discover how beautiful she is and sign letter to challenge herself way she never considered left her to discover she really is.

It's me.

I was I was always new answers he gave me when I need what I wanted is allowing someone to see their true way my dreams wherever never even now I can't seem entirely. That's the retrospective life that we should have identified with her at a level of the same one you guys have. We often feel like were all alone and I had a great family, but I felt that way with God then anyone else in my life. I hope and I knew he was there, but I didn't think he was there.

Other than that bail me out of the worst of circumstances. And that's what happened in this and that appealed to me that he he was doing little things for to make her life better before he actually saved her life edge of the cliff, but God does that with us he's not going to let us hurt ourselves but we do get to do what we called with learning benign neglect, you leave us on our own so that we can learn from our mistakes that aren't going to be life-threatening but he's never going to let go of this so that will fall completely.

Let us falling get back up, come to him when we meet him something less than I am sure I feel confident you can relate like wow I mean my heart goes all sorts of places when I hear those clips and so what's cool is you gotta go deep in order to allow Jesus to come managed in and work through some of these things are really affecting your whole life and so we got this entrenchment can't come up. It is FREE free. It's a weekend that since it's going to be up near Reidsville.

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