Tuning Up Tired Marriages | Part 2

As husbands and wives water locations toward one another to Adrian Rogers as a husband and wife heroes are low. Her leadership he owes to her loyalty. What is why the husband a submissive relationship. A supporting relationship. A sharing relationship drive. I promise you won't be authority of the word of God with music in your marriage to numbered paragraph to love finding the timeless truths of the gospel, found in the practical teaching Adrian Rogers part one of today's message. We discussed the music marriage. The man takes the lead and the Lord takes the harmony yet over time. Marriages may fall out of tune as our relationships endure hardships and children and other life changes, we may find ourselves tired and worn. We put the music back in our marriages. If you have your Bible turn to Ephesians chapter 5. Beginning in verse 22.

As Adrian Rogers shares part two of this encouraging message tuning up, tired marriages do not have a magnificent marriage.

Not even have a mediocre marriage.

Many have a miserable marriage. I want us to do something about that because the devil knows that if he can hurt us at home. He can hurt us all over. He can hurt us everywhere. They can hurt us in the church of the scope and society in the nation. He has hurt us at home and so Satan and you notice true levels.

His biggest artillery at our home did not write them. That is true now that doesn't mean that you're doing something wrong, it may mean that you're doing something right and that was trying to stop now. What Christ is to the church. The husband is to be to his wife and what the church is the Christ, the wife is to be to her husband. With that in mind, gentlemen, let's start with you first start with me.

What am I to do if I would tune up my marriage while I am to be joyous. What Jesus is to the church.

I am to give to Joyce. What Jesus gives to the church that means three major things. First of all it means leadership. What if you will, in verse 23 for the husband is the head of the wife you see that later. You see, that serve the husband is the head of the wife, how is he the head of the wife as Christ is the head which are, as you know, Jesus never makes me do anything and so you're going to be in severe difficulty. If you think that when the Bible says you are the head, you read that to say I am devolves and the dictator. No, no, no, no, Jesus is not the dictator is editor and if the wife refuses to follow been waiting to see that she's going to reap repercussions, but he never forces me to do anything at any husband who takes that attitude of the dictator is going to say that his home is in severe trouble. He goes around using the Bible as a club rather than a sword say I we talk a lot about the chain of command in the home is not so much the chain of command as it is the chain of responsibility to be the head means that you accept the responsibility serve all your desk as a husband is a sign which says stop here and I will tell you, Mr. if your home is wrong. It is probably because you are wrong.

That brings me to the second thing look at it here if you will, in verse 25. Not only does he tell the husbands to lead, but he tells the husbands to love husband love your why ask price also love the church. What kind of love is this, we think of romance is not talking about romance here at all. What kind of love is this, first of all, it is passionate love now.

Romance may be included, but he's not talking about it here.

The word for love here is not the word for erotic love is for sacrificial self giving love. Passionate love to see Jesus love the church enough to die for the church. Your to love your wife enough to die for her or you say I do. What do you want a one way I can find out do you live for rent until you die for. If you don't live for you see a man willing to die for his wife shows it. By the way that he lives for his life, and you don't have to die physically denied your private ambition, ego, and your own particular proclivities and put your why.

First you to love her with April texting love and you need to protect are many ways you need to protect emotionally.

You need to protect her physically, she is not physically strong issue that doesn't mean that she is not worth as much as you are. Because the Bible calls are the weaker vessel silk is worth more than what is more fragile but more beautiful, more delicate, but you see, dear friend, God is given a husband to protect and listen you all her parole violating love. Look, if you will, in verse 29 because it is a way to protect what no man ever hated his own flesh pushes his flesh. He cherishes his flesh even as the Lord charge matter.

Cherish I told you already in the series means to body heat entered marriage means to my trimmings to feed to mature to see when you're cold.

Don't you want to be warmed and when you're hungry, don't you want to be fair, but the apostle Paul is saying by divine inspiration is see to it that her needs are met seek to satisfy her as you would want your self-satisfied, and strangely, you will be satisfied to see a man I tell you is Satan who does not want to care for his own body and a man is committing suicide who does not care for his own body and a man is committing matrimonial suicide does not care for the needs of his wife.

The problem is that Joan, we fail to think of our lives as a part of this I mean we think of them as apart from us so many a man thinks of his wife as a possession like his car and when he gets a new car shows no dear friend, your wife is a part of you just like we are part of the Lord Jesus Christ look in verse 30 we are members of his body on his flesh is below for an hour today when you hurt Jesus or he's touched with the feeling of your infirmity. And so it is that husbands are to love their wives. There's 1/3 thing this deal you wife you older leadership. You may order love you all to her loyalty.

Loyalty look at it in verse 30 we are members of his body, of his flesh and of his bones and for this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife. The word limit means welded. See to his. They too shall be 1/the word leave speaks of the priority of marriage.

The word been enjoying speaks of the permanence of marriage 1/speaks of the purpose of man, it's all right there. That's God's plan.

It is okay hi Dan, I want to say, the highest of all human relationship.

Contrary to popular opinion, is not mother child, nor is it child parent it is husband and wife hope you understand.

There is no other human relationship like this, never, ever, is it said anyone else that they are on flesh and so that speaks of the priority of marriage, and to be enjoying speaks of the permanence of marriage. Divorce is never the plan of God never the plan of God. You show me a young married couple that get married with the divorce as an option now show you a home that has a great great potential for disintegration use take the word divorce and cut it out of your dictionary just cut out of my disabled if we have problems.

Maybe we divorce and start all over again. Listen to me. Couples that get divorced and couples that don't get divorce have basically the same kinds of problems, but differences not in the problems that people have the differences in the word commitment. Commitment.

It is not your love that sustains your marriage have you don't hear anything if you listen to me is not love that sustains your marriage is your marriage that sustains your love marriage is a commitment to ally myself to be happy what you enjoyed yourself to be happy when you and the marriage offer you made about you with the God to keep your bow you what your wife go to your children Bible says what God has deftly joined together, let not man put us in this.

I was happy to mail written take the broken pieces and give them to God.

You cannot scramble eggs, trying to make you feel that I'm keeping more sorrow and more pain upon your head I'm not trying to do.

I'm trying to tell you couples that are married right now that that you need to find a way to work it out in the grace of God do all that you can do the work it out in the grace of God is only one commitment. It's not business is not your position is not your service. Some men more committed to the family store to the business and they are to their wives.

My differing 1/speaks of the purpose of my we come together we not just talking about physically one flesh. That's all one flesh means to you. Just sexual union. My friend is little difference in Latin animals cohabitating together. That's not love.

That's less, I don't care much moonlight and roses.

There may be what our Lord is saying here 1/how spiritually one flesh. Psychologically 1/fees and the marriage relationship of coming together where there is a blending of lives in and the union bodies is going to be the nicest of the nastiest of all human relationships that law in front of your house that beautiful sod that's that's that's so pretty. There, somebody gets a shovel and takes part of it and throws it on the living room rug is just plain dirt hole pencil where it is what it marriage is honorable in the bed undefiled adulterers, and God will judge does not try to keep you from sex goddess try to keep sex for you every time God says thou shall not adjust.

I don't hurt yourself.

Every time God says now shall we sing up yourself to happiness. When the Bible says flee fornication. Thou shall not commit adultery. God is not a prude, God loves you so much he wants you to have the best you kids listen to this old preacher save yourself the one you married you be so cool, so Judy you eat your cake. Now you have a crummy tomorrow rather state.

The Bible teaches pre-marital chastity post marital fidelity and a man, woman, relationship scotch plan and I don't improve my dear friend you not going to change in God's not going to bend his rules for you or anybody else 1/talk about bread is not free. There is no such thing as free love, Jesus loves the church at 145 for the church.

That's why love this commitment is not free.

These kids talk about going all the way. The sad thing is just what they don't do go all the way all they do is to go up part of the way and disgrace and botch and besmirch something that is so wonderful and so beautiful what is called, shall a man leave his father and his mother, that's a priority of mine and cleave unto his wife back to the permits of marriage and they too shall be one flesh. That is the purpose of my and therefore husband owes to his wife. Loyalty. Loyalty. Loyalty. Let's look and see what the relationship will wipe your husband is just to the petard marriage.

First of all current relationship is to be as the church is the Christ, a submissive relationship. Go back to Ephesians chapter 5 and look in verse 22 wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord. How how opposite this is to always of the world. When is that you meet Mona submit to him about me. Not me.

I'm not submitting anybody I know my rights dear friend when you talk about your rights. Number one. You're so foolish because you see as a Christian you don't have any rights. What rights does a dead man were crucified with Christ. We belong there were not our own were bought with a price, but the second thing is that when you refuse God's plan. You help yourself you hurt yourself. I mean, for example, let's look at feminism, the feminist movement. Now they have many alignments I mean that much of feminism is a rebellion against men that a fail and I admit that, but we need to correct the problem and not throw away the word of God. You see this, God loves you dearly. God loves you what is the wisdom of this world nonporous homes better today because of the feminist movement, I'm talking about the unwillingness to assume the God given place in the home our homes better.

Of course, of course not see a woman fails to submit according to God's plan. First of all, she don't have problems with go hey by the way if you're feminist.

Did I mean that one of these radical feminist who don't accept what God is written here don't write many letters just take the time when you write the letter and is read Ephesians 5 and right got a letter if you want okay I am talking you different about the word of God. Wives submit to your own husband. You have difficulty with God because your rebellion just got to have difficulty with your husband you will never meet your husband one God made you to be God made you to be a help meet for him. You are to be as complete or not is complete.

Her and you could have difficulty with your children and I'll tell you why, because God only gives authority to those who are under authority, and if you never learn to be under God will never make you will you will never have authority in the home you are building rebellion in the lives of your kids and you will pay dearly for failing to obey Lord God, not anyone else know you have difficulty with God not only don't have difficulty with your husband not only going to have difficulty with children by different you're going to have personal difficulty because you are never going to have your deepest needs truly meant yours number one my friend is a submissive relationship that does not mean that you are inferior. One whit submission does not mean inferiority in more than I'm inferior to policeman when I turn right and he tells me to turn right is just simply that case, the delegate appointed authority.

Secondly, not only do you owe to your husband a submissive relationship which you owe to him a supporting relationship. Jesus has given his work to us.

To us he has no hands but I he has no feet, but I think and I am here because I love my Lord and submission of our Lord was supporting my Lord and I am a part of him.

I want his name exalted. I will just call us to go lady that your relationship to your husband a submissive relationship.

A supportive relationship, but all lesson a sharing relationship. Look at look at it here in the word of God. For we are members of his body, of his flesh of his blowholes.

What a wonderful, wonderful relationship. Christ and the church.

The most intimate of all relationships there is emotional share. There is financial share. He is committed his riches to me various responsibility share. He has given the great commission to me. Hey Mr. you got room to rent upstairs unfurnished. If you don't bring your wife in and share with your wife.

There is nothing that Jesus done share with the church. He said I will call you in more service but friends the servant on the what is mastodons manifest himself to office and therefore husbands and wives are to share together you say. Will Rogers. I don't want that to what I want faster want to be free you to mask your question when is a train more free.

What is on the tracks or one is off the tracks trying to go through the meadow. You see God's plan.

God's way is not the way to stultified you not the way they hid you all. It is God's way to give you glorious, glorious liberty. What is a husband over the wife he owes her love guyots to her dear friend leadership.

He owes to her loyalty.

What does the Y02, a husband, a submissive relationship.

A supporting relationship. A sharing relationship try. I promise you on the authority of the word of God to put music in your marriage and tuna petard marriage (father God, I pray Lord that you help us to learn just to learn what your word says Lord I'm not tried this morning to be cuter created with just dear Lord to take your word and explain Lord I pray that husbands and wives together today would just come to make the commitment. Lord, that you want estimate in Jesus holding a man there prayer here love worth finding is that if you are married this message by Adrian Rogers is given you a glimpse of how to get a tuneup for a tired marriage. Now you may have questions regarding your faith in Jesus Christ today if that's you would love to offer you an insightful resource on the website. It's or find answers.

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