When the String Snaps | Part 1

Trouble of refunding studios to the city of Byron Tyler here with. For the CU of lobar fighting. Today we continue our sleep.

Your love were fighting during the month of February on love our messages for the entire month of February are centered on marriage and family, marriage and family, and I think that's the foundation upon which we all stand and you know what were to blast to be stressed.

That's right were too blessed to be stressed.

We carry today's message when the string snaps and it reminds me of a time Adrian Rogers was here in the studio and asked the question about stress in marriage isn't a bad thing.

Well, indeed, a little stress is a very good thing is like the force applied to the violent strings when you pull the ball across these strings that are taught and not tight then beautiful music comes forth, but of course if the strings are loose. Then there's just an awful sound but if the string is too tight.

The string will snap and so were talking about what happens to the music of marriage when the string snaps you know it's good to know when it's time to bring counsel into the home right. Every family has problems mono monde us, but it is crucial to attack those problems.

Byron and not each other and I think that's what we learned through not only this sermon but also this series will carry. Yes, you're right. When husbands and wives play the parts that God has designed and really equipped each of us to do in our marriage. There's not just a mere melody, but it's a wonderful harmony.

Dr. Roger said, enjoy true joy is that constant presence of God. No matter what happens, but a merry heart is the ability to capture and enjoy those wonderful times of life, then let it turn to laughter units beautiful right if you really have the joy of the Lord in your heart is going to show on your face and God is not the author of confusion.

We know that in God is the only one that can give true wisdom well before that string snaps. We need to learn to laugh, cultivate contentment, alleviate anger and walk in wisdom, a member and that's what we want our listeners to walk away with as nuggets to apply to their lives would help you along this theme of marriage and family. The entire series is I mission is in this book the music of marriage. It's a great resource available here. Love were fighting the wonderful resource in it for any any couple in any stage of life right if there a newly married if they're in the middle of life or for trying to finish well. One chapter in the book is called tuning up, tired marriages while like that because we all need a tuneup and we all need a shot in the arm. We all need to have a refresher. And that's exactly what this book is and it will help couples fine or get back to the loving song that they were meant to play in their marriage.

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Husbands and wives are to sing the same song but they sing different parts. That's what makes it harmonious, not mere melody but wonderful harmony when we play the part that God has equipped us to play so husbands and wives are singing the same song different parts. Hopefully their singing the right rhythm so they sing it together but now today I want to talk to you on this subject when the string snaps.

I'm really talking about tension in the home.

I look if you will, beginning in verse 13, a merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance, but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken heart of him that hath understanding secret knowledge, but the mouth of fools feeding on foolishness.

All the days of the afflicted or evil. But he that is of a merry heart has a continual feast. Better is little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure and trouble there with better is a dinner of herbs, where love is been a stalled that is filet mignon and hatred bear with a wrathful man stirs up strife, but he that is slow to anger Pisa strife waive the slothful man is as an hedge of form.

But the way of the righteous is made plain all wise son makes a glad father but a foolish man despise with his mother probably is joy to him that is destitute of wisdom, but a man of understanding walk uprightly without counsel purposes are disappointed, but in the multitude of counselors they are established by me to stop reading there, but I want you to notice some words just if you don't mind marking your Bible verse 13 sorrow verse 15 afflicted.

Verse 16. Trouble verse 17 hatred verse 18 strife. Verse 22 disappointed. All of these are almost synonyms for strife, just strife are tension our stress. I suppose all of these are times when the little string gets to try to know I become quite a musician preparing these messages and I found out and what I already knew, really, that when the violin string is not tight enough, then the music is flat and go, but if the string is to type then the music is shrill and high-pitched, but if the string is even, yet more type the string will snap now. I think one of the major obstacles to the music of marriage is tension in the home. It is stress and strife.

Stress is related to raising your voice. It is related to raising your polls and raising your children if you godchildren dear friend you have stress just built in and look at these words. Again, sorrow, affliction, trouble, hatred, strife, all of these are stress were and being in today's home dear friend I won't tell you the string can get mighty tight and sometimes it can snap. Did you know that domestic violence is a major problem in America, an active domestic violence.

I'm talking about horrible violence in the home happens every 15 seconds. In America 15 second. About half of all married couples have times where they have absolute violence in the home and in one fourth of all marriages. Violence is a common occurrence, and 20% of all murders in America are inside the family 20%, 13% of those are committed by spouses.

We used to say when we come home. It's a jungle out there friend may be a jungle in here.

But not only is it a damaged distress to our homes, but also to help deal stress is a terrible thing.

Stress will do the same thing to you that sand will do the machinery I read something interesting the other day, these boys who land these fighter jets on the decks of aircraft carriers would you think that stressful for. And I'll guarantee that stressful would be to me the land. One of these jets on the deck of an aircraft carrier. The pilots who land those aircraft on the deck so that ship have a much higher cholesterol level and that something is he that stress. Not all stress is bad. I mean, it takes certain tension to make the violin played all you got to have some stress but I'm telling you, dear friend that too much stress is dangerous to the home it's dangerous to the health and obviously then it's dangerous to our happiness solemnly before things for things now just to relieve stress in your home just to the music of marriage back there when the stream gets so tight when the upright get so uptight that the string snaps that he was so stressed up that you don't want to do that is your all stressed up and nowhere to go. I want you to pay attention because were going to go to the word of God and this passage that I just read to you from the book of Proverbs that deals with stress. As for very wonderful wonderful wonderful admonitions for your home my home your heart. My heart number one you be surprised at this. Learn to laugh just learn to laugh. Look, if you will, in verse 13.

Amy maketh a cheerful countenance harassing people they claim to be saved, but they look like they have a gallbladder attack. I mean it if they have a merry heart. The Bible says is going to show up on the face, a merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance, but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken. Now what is says the spirit is broken. What he means is the string snaps the spirit that's the wellspring of life that is the true inner man. And when that spirit is broken is asked the enthusiasm the spark. The thrill of the fight is gone out of life that you'd better dear friend learned that having a merry heart is wonderful medicine.

A merry heart is the sign of happiness, not happiness and joy are not the same thing but they are related. Their first cousin joy is that constant presence of God.

No matter what happened, but a merry heart is the ability to capture and enjoy those wonderful times of life, and let it turn to laughter. Windham said that laughter is the mind sneezing. I like that. Did you know that there are three things that animals don't do that human beings do animals don't blush man is the only animal that can blush if you call him an animal. He's the only one that needs to second animals don't do. They don't cry.

Animals don't weep no animal weeps. You might think your dog is weeping.

That didn't matter in his eyes. That's all that is dogs don't cry third thing. Animals don't do is they don't life they don't life they don't blush they don't weep and they don't laugh. That tells me that man made in the image of God reflects the character of God and God is a God of joy and laughter is a gift from God. Now there's nothing wrong with laughter as a matter fact, laughter comes innately. You don't have to teach children the life you have to teach children when not to laugh.

And if you really have the joy of the Lord in your heart is going to show up on your face look at it again, a merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance. What's another word for a cheerful countenance smile.

Let me read something about a smile. This was written by an anonymous author but I think it is incredible. It costs nothing but creates much good it enriches those who receive it without impoverishing those who give away it happens in a flash, but the memory of it can last forever. No one is so rich that he can get along without it. No one is too poor to feel rich when receiving.

It creates happiness in the home fosters goodwill in business and is the countersign of friend. It is rest to the weary daylight to the discouraged sunshine to the sad and natures best antidote for trouble. Yet it cannot be bought bag borrowed our stolen thought is something of no earthly good to anyone until it is given away willingly. I love that. Hey listen folks, when you dress up in the morning. Don't forget to put on a smile and no be ashamed of your sense of humor lessen your sense of humor is a gift from God and it has been documented.

I mean psychologically documented that laughter along with our well-rounded sense of humor is one of the sure signs of intelligent man was going around smiling. Listen, I'm not talking about unwholesome laughter. I'm not talking about cheap course degrading humor. The Bible warns against that. The Bible says in Ephesians chapter 5 verse four that we are warned against filthiness and foolish talking, ingesting which is not convenient.

Crude jokes sexual innuendos and all of these things that have no place but good wholesome laughter is a gift from God, and Abraham Lincoln said one time that God must've meant for us to laugh or else he would not of made so many new parents and monkeys and human beings.

God wants us to live God gave Sarah a little child, and God taught Sarah to name that child laughter we call his name Isaac but the name Isaac means laughter.

Genesis 21 verse six and Sarah said God hath made me to laugh so that all that will hear will laugh with me laughing at what God did when he gave that hole a little boy that brought such joy that they called his name laughter is a versatile laughter. I want to put down. Luke chapter 6 and verse 21 Jesus is looking at people who were downtrodden and sorrowful and he said blessed are ye that hunger now, for ye shall be filled. Blessed are ye that we now for ye shall. That's what Jesus said ye shall laugh. Yes, there's a time to weep. We don't have to go around like sanctified buffoons and morons with no serious thoughts.

There's a time to weep, my dear friend, you had better put some laughter in your home, and special when times get tough.

Laughter is God's way just to break the tension.

When the string gets to type God here speaks of a merry heart.

Again he says a merry heart does good like a medicine I thought to myself, will illustrate this about some laughter in our home and I said where when I start to know where to start.

I mean, it's everywhere all the time and I thank God for that. I was thinking of the condo home. I was raised in when I was a kid. I was raised in a homework constantly.

We were laughing and home was the most fun place to be that I knew.

I remember down in Florida. One time we had one of those great Americans that came to West Palm Beach Florida. I mean it was a time when my dad was out with the rest of the men they were nailing up shutters and boarding up the houses and trying to keep everything we have from blowing away all of the power lines of been blown down. There was no electricity. We were in the dark. My dad came in.

His hair was blown he was soaked to the bone.

He came into the kitchen.

I was a little fella just watching my dad wondering really how serious the situation was, you know kids keel their parents and my dad came in and he with his shoulders work group. Lily was so tired.

The young man then I was just a very little boy. He said my mama I give five dollars for a cup of coffee. Well, the electricity was off and everything mama just open the tap, but some water in and turn on the stove. The gas went off. He forgotten that she turned on the snow.

We had a gas go and she made him a cup of coffee and I watch my dad reach in his pocket and pull out five dollars and give it to my mom and I just as a kid and they both just laugh me right in the middle of the storm. I just watch them sit down.

My dad gave mom a five dollars and said that drink that cup of coffee. There was something about that. That just made her cannot seem important at all, just that act of humor just that goodwill here. They are just laughing in the face of the storm wasn't to say that they didn't think the storm was important it wasn't to say that there may be some danger, but it was just something to little boys heart to say you know God's in control and mom and dad just laugh in the face of the stone.

If in your home you have tension. May God help you to learn what he says here a merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance, but by sorrow the heart the spirit is broken, you see a good laugh is just sunshine him the whole three things you will give your children life, love and laughter and I can give you three simple rules for raising kids be fair, be firm and be fun. I just about sums it up. Just be fair for the bank will take the tension out of this awful awful wonderful that we live in today.

Number two, number two not only learn to laugh but number two. Cultivate contentment, cultivate contentment, like if you will now beginning in verse 16. The Bible says better is little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure and trouble there with better is a dinner of herbs, where love is been a stalled ox and hatred there with what is talking about what the Lord is telling us that so many of us are uptight because our value system is wrong will always think we have to have more and more and more we think that the house the gourmet food. The toll is the travel. These things are going to bring happiness. But many times the striving for these things is what brings tension into the hole.

I am not saying that you can't be rich and have love some of the sweetest homes I know of have all of those things and love, including if you got it. I'm so grateful for you and it's a gift of God and enjoy God gives us richly all things to enjoy. I'm not against you having nice things but I'm just saying different.

You better get your value straight you better find out what really matters. Listen better is little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure and trouble there with better is a vegetable plate were lobbyist and filet mignon. That's what this verse is saying here in verse 17 gets your value system straight that you be aware of the tyranny of things. Listen the first Timothy chapter 6 verse six godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into this world and it is certain that we can carry nothing out and having food and clothes lettuce there with the content but they that will be rich and say they that are rich, but those who have set their mind on being written.

Those who will be with rich have you ever done that.

Mr. you are in great danger. They whose determination is to be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and into many foolish and hurtful lust which drown men in destruction and perdition for the love of money is the root of all evil even say money is the root of all evil is real love of money, which is the root of all evil. Cultivate contentment, cultivate contentment, the love of money is the root of all evil that literally means all kinds of evil which while some coveted after they've aired from the fate and pierced themselves through with many sorrows will look back in chapter 15. If you will.

Proverbs a look in verse six in the house of the righteous is much treasure but in the revenues of the wicked is trouble, like if you will, in chapter 15 verse 27 he that is greedy again problem with his own house, you girls are not yet married. Let your pastor give you some advice. It's far better to marry a man is worth a million that don't have a sense than to marry a man has a million, not worth a cent you find out what the character that man is see if he loves God. Listen godliness with contentment is great gain.

Having food and clothing be content.

That doesn't mean that you can't try formal doesn't mean that God want you to prosper. The Bible says God takes pleasure in the prosperity of the service, but you learn to be content with whatever you have and praise God and if you don't I can tell you before long the string is going to snap and that big house won't mean anything to you not a thing timeless truth from God's word and pastor Adrian Rogers coming up tomorrow. Part two of this important message at love worth finding.

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