How To Heal Broken Relationships | Part 2

We are to forgive one another as Christ is given us. Listen to Adrian Rogers person and ask for forgiveness. Make sure it's forgiveness is because Rob Percival so that's all right you forgetting comes as a result of forgiveness and there can be no forgetting until the slate is clean and don't be sloppy when it comes to getting forgiveness, forgive freely forgive fully and forgive. Finally buried in the grave of God forgetfulness.

We ought to forgive one another, even as God for Christ's sake has forgiven us welcome to love more in finding featuring profound truth.

He stated, pastor, teacher and author Adrian Rogers broken relationships in the church.

Disgrace. The father and discourage the bride of Christ. In part one of today's message.

We began learning about the problem of dissidents and their churches the proper perspective we should have in the procedure to make things right. According to Matthew 18. If you have your Bible turn there now is Adrian Rogers gives the conclusion of how to heal broken relationships.

I will write about how to heal broken relationships.

I think all of us who been in the service of our Savior for very long somebody is wrong us whose trespass against us. And it is a very painful problem when I somebody sins against another person trespasses against that person. Our relationship is broken a fellowship for cyber to solve that problem.

You're going to have to get a proper perspective. That's the second thing, like if you will, in verse 15 moreover if thy brother shall trespass against the go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone and if he shall hear the bow has gained by brother what this letter means is somebody out of the same will is what the word brother remain somebody that has come out of the womb of grace. Somebody who along with you calls God, and you need to consider that relationship where you say maybe he's not a brother. Babies never really been say maybe just as namely Church Road. What if he's not a brother man is loss and is blind page on the road to hell heal more deserves your pity and your prayer. But if he is then to harm him is to harm you, because pupils not only brother sister sister and sister but you are members of the same body. So just consider that relationship no matter what an individual is in no matter how they trespass against us. They are to be love.

Put these verses down first John chapter 3 verse 16 hereby perceive we the love of God, because he laid down his life for us and will to lay down our lives for the brethren to lay down our lives for the brethren and listen to Galatians chapter 6 verse 10 as we have therefore opportunity, let us do good and all-male, especially those of the household of faith.

So when you getting this proper perspective. First of all, consider the relationship.

This is a brother best. Secondly, consider the responsibility to look again if you will, in verse 15. He says that if I brother trespass against the go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone if he shall hear the guys again by brother every failing Christian is another Christian's responsibility when one brother fails. It's up to another brother about the sister lift them out because the Bible says in Galatians chapter 6 and verse one brethren, if a man be overtaken in the fall. Then you which are spiritual restore such an one in the spirit of me considering myself must now also be tempted. So consider your relationship and consider your responsibility.

If somebody trespasses against you, it is your responsibility to try to make it right and when you consider your relationship and you consider your responsibility how important it is for you to consider your self listen to Galatians 61 if a man be overtaken in a fault he which are spiritual restore such a one in the spirit of meekness, considering myself you consider yourself whereafter ask yourself if you try to straighten somebody else out. Are you sending in a similar area. The apostle Paul wrote in Romans chapter 2 verses one through three. Listen to this. Therefore, thou art inexcusable man whose ever thou art the judge just for wherein thou judge just another thou condemns myself for the Alvin judges this the same things, but we're sure that the judgment of God is according to truth against them which commit such things and think is thou this old man that judges them which do such things and just the same, that thou shall escape the judgment of God may, how dare we. How dare we go to anybody in transferring anybody out. If we ourselves are failing.

Likewise, then we have to consider, also, have we been praying for this individual who sin against us. And Samuel said in first Samuel 12 verse 23, God forbid that I should sin against the Lord in ceasing to pray for you and we have to ask ourselves about the individual and we want to go straight now that we set a good example before you we ourselves an example in that area. Hebrews 12 verse 13 make straight pass for your feet was that which is lamely turned out of the way.

That is if you walk straight somebody else is liable to be turned out of the way, I talked about a perspective, let's talk about procedure.

What is the prescribed procedure if somebody trespasses against you. Well first of all, you go see them you visit him privately, somebody sins against you, you don't tell another soul on this earth you go to that individual. Don't tell anybody else. Why should you not tell somebody else what they might take up an offense and the Bible says that is wrong for people to take up an offense.

Proverbs chapter 16 verse 28 forward man. So with strife and a whisper separated cheesy friendliness in Proverbs 25 in verse nine says debate I calls with thy neighbor himself and discover not a secret to another. Jim Whitmire sins against me.

I go to Jim if I perceive the gym. This indicates me.

I go to him.

I donated tell Bob surround.

I don't need to tell anybody else, I go to Jim and I speak to Jim alone about it. Why do I do this, or maybe Jim didn't really sin against me. Maybe I just thought he did. Maybe I'm wrong in my fat ass. And sometimes we can be wrong. I may have told you about a little boy went to birthday parties, mother said if you misbehave on as Ms. Jones to send you home. A spanking when you get home. The admin go 10 minutes before Ms. Jones came walking him back to the house.

She snatched it up and strengthen us, and I what did you do wrong is I did do nothing wrong the party until tomorrow. Sometimes we just assume things are not. And so if I go to an individual. I confronted Mrs. now wavering you that's what you think of that. Now let me give you the facts. I am to visit him privately and I am to visit him lovingly. The greatest test of love for brother is are you willing to confront him if and when he does wrong. Proverbs 27 verses five and six open rebuke is better than secret love.

Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.

Now when you go to this brother.

The sister you will go to tell them all. The Bible tells us clearly in verse 15 that we are there to gain our brother you go to winning, not condemning. So how in this thing of visitation. How do we do. We visit him privately. We visit him lovingly. We visit him humbly and hopefully there is restoration because verse 15 says that he will hear the thou hast gained thy brother. By the way, if you go to person and ask for forgiveness. Make sure it's forgiveness that you get because a proud personal cell that didn't matter, that's all right again say no.

I want to forgive. Don't just take his shrug and say doesn't matter. It does matter. For your sake and for his sake that they come closer and that if he just says I'll just forget it. Forgetting comes as a result of forgiveness and they can be no forgetting until the slate is clean and don't be sloppy when it comes to getting forgiveness, forgive freely forgive fully and forgive. Finally, I buried in the grave of God's forgetfulness. We are to forgive one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven us well and brings up a problem.

One of the individual will not hear as frequently as the case he might say I did not be wrong. I don't know you apology. I don't need forgiveness volume I say I'm doing wrong. So what get out of my face, then what you do well you you have to get some confirmation. First of all there's visitation and restoration.

But what if it if that doesn't work then you get confirmation so you get some people go back with look in verse 16, but he will not hear the then take with the water to more that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established so you need to get somebody to confirm what's going all the Bible makes it very clear that to more unnecessary to witness and to confirm something because you could be wrong and he could be right.

We all have blind spots. I have some if I knew where they were, they would be blind spots will as is good if we can get this thing done to bring somebody else there to confirm for some confirmation they are to come. Not to witness against him with the witness to him to try to win this individual back well suppose easily turns a deaf ear to the suppose he stonewalls means you've gone him privately. John him humbly you going to him lovingly.

He won't hear you. You take some godly friends back with you. They confirm that he's done wrong and he will hear them. Then after visitation and confrontation. Then what do you do well then you tell it to the church. It gets more and more serious look in verse 17 and if you neglect to hear them, let him tell it to the Shire – now this is getting very serious matter now is brought to God's leadership in the church and this individual then is confronted with spiritual leadership.

Again, the desire is not to condemn him not to expose him, but to reclaim him. This ought to cause an individual who is challenged now by the mature going to be self-examination and the church ought to examine essay have we truly ministered to this individual.

I would pray for him or her. Have we lovingly entreated this individual well. Suppose he will not hear the church, then what have, then he must be excommunicated and put out of the church like if you will, in the last part of verse 17 and he neglect a of the church, let him be unto thee as a heathen man and a publican heathen man was a man outside the household of faith. That is, he needs to be told we're sorry my friend but you cannot continue to live that way to disgrace the father to distressed the faithful to delight the phone, you cannot do that and be in communion in this church and the apostle Paul wrote in second Thessalonians chapter 3 verses 14 and 15 if any man will may not word by this epistle know that man have no company within that he may be a shame yet county not as an enemy but admonished him as a brother, Don. Just keep fellowship in him no let him feel that he still in the communion and fellowship admonished loving pray for, but don't let him continue to disgrace God in the Corinthian church. There was a man who was living in incest. Actually, he was sleeping with his father's wife had taken to mean by that language. When does say his mother but his father's wife and this was a stepmother. The terrible thing Paul said why we don't even see the heathen acting that way and it was a man member of the Corinthian church, and Paul said in first grade. This chapter 5 verse five he told them to deliver such a one onto Satan for the destruction of the flash that the spirit may be saved in the day the Lord Jesus. Now what that meant to delivering to Satan was to take away that umbrella of protection and these excommunicated he is turned out not because we know loving but because we we talk about the destruction of the flesh with him about actually is physical body are that carnal fleshly nature could be one of the other could be both.

Paul had another man that he dealt with in the two of them Hymenaeus and Alexander first Timothy one verse 20 he speaks of whom is Hymenaeus and Alexander whom I have delivered him to Satan that they may learn not to blaspheme. They had been members of the fellowship. They had living now in spiritual sin, blasphemy.

So we are to excommunicate put out of the Fellowship. Now this is to be done as the last last last resort is not. If we find somebody who is failed, that would for the amount of fellowship. I mean people all people fail.

One man said he was so distressed with evil in the world today.

He got to talking with God and he said to God, and God, why don't you destroy these evil people, and God said all right I will start with you.

That is what you imagine hearing God say I'll start with you. All of us, even the best of us fail at a church is not a museum for Saints as a hospital for sin in Romans 14 wanting to paraphrase says receive a brother into the church even if he scarcely believes Christ can save and we all dictate babes in Christ week stumbling people. People who fail people get into sin, and love them, confront them, help them build them up, not exclude them. They mean the church but what this is talking about is a recalcitrant person a stubborn person and during person. A person who says no I will change this is my chosen way.

This is my lifestyle. I repudiate his love. I am stubbornly said in my own way.

I will not hear a brother who's going to me. I will not hear committee that's come to me.

I will not hear the church that has challenged me that we say with a broken heart with Sartre.

We are so sorry my sister were suffering but you cannot continue to live that way and be the Fellowship of this church.

We count you as a heathen what what you do with a heathen you love them and try to win them to Christ doesn't mean that we are not concerned about this individual.

We love and try to win them to Christ. But we do not let poison the Fellowship. We do not let them hurt and distort the cause of Christ.

So if there's somebody that has sin against you. Don't make a matter of gossip go, tell me what some church member has done a role go to that individual. Pray, consider yourself go lovingly, humbly generate and try to win your brother and if he wanted to a few trusted friends spiritually mature people and go back if he won't hear them. She won't hear them bring into the church and the church must confront that if they won't hear the church would break our heart but we would have to treat as though they've never met and known the Lord and Savior Jesus Christ attempt with all of our heart to win them to Christ. I say that to say this some years ago I told our deacon that I was not satisfied with the way that we are practicing church discipline. We do practice church discipline. We have practiced it, and we will continue to practice it and we're trying to find even better ways to practice church discipline in our church because what we want is a holy church. Amen we want a holy church. We only church where we think we are better than other people. We only church that has no room for those who fall in and hurting. We want to help those concrete but we want church that when we sale God bless America and send revival to America they got will have to say to us, why don't you clean up your own act.

First of all why do you allow why do you countenance things that I have clearly forbidden in my word, Lord Jesus, we thank you so very much that you will leave us floundering around you. Don't leave us helpless. You show us dear Lord in your ward how to behave and how to love others and how to restore and reclaim brothers and sisters.

Lord help us to know how to mend a broken brothers how to reclaim those dear Lord, who have fallen but help us oh Lord. Also, not to countenance things that would hurt your church grieve the Holy Spirit are calls and unsaved world to stumble. Lord we need such wisdom. We need such love and we know dear Lord, you will give your holy name we pray, and into Dave you have questions regarding your faith in Jesus Christ. Would love to offer you an insightful resource on our website. It's our discovery. Jesus speech financers you may need about your faith is a response section as well.

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