This Is Not Your Grandfather's Family, Part 1

Today Chuck Swindoll on changing times member who is to be men and women were being seen only as babies who were door husband enjoy family finding fulfillment in their husbands, love somehow that's not will put down as a result, little girls weren't sure what it means to be a little girl and little boys are confused knowing how to be. This is not your grandfather's people who advocate traditional view marriage and the family kind that honors the biblical model have been flummoxed by our changing times.

It seems our culture has completely abandoned the institution of marriage effect believes that relationships are self defined rather than ordained by God today on Insight for living. Chuck Swindoll begins a practical series on marriage. It's intended to shine a spotlight on God's magnificent plan for husbands and wives teach us how to navigate our shifting times titled his first message. This is not your grandfather's family series on the Holman family and sensory to help us do that we want to read from the scriptures for guidance as well as look over an outline.

I provided for you.

You'll find that in your worship folder which you'd like to take out perhaps right now and place it here in the second chapter of Genesis where we will begin our reading together Genesis 2, when all began at verse 18 and then will move over to Deuteronomy chapter 6 Genesis 218 then the Lord God said it is not good for the man to be alone I will make him a helper suitable for him out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the sky and brought them to the man to see what he would call them and whatever the man called a living creature that was its name. The man gave names to all the cattle to the birds of the sky to every beast of the field, but for Adam there was not found a helper suitable for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man and he slipped then he took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that plate Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which he had taken from the man and brought her to the man. The man said, this is now bone of my bones, flesh of my flesh, she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man that if you will please turn to the fifth book of your Bible, Moses final written work.

Deuteronomy chapter 6 and will begin reading at verse four. Deuteronomy 64 here oh Israel, the Lord is our God, the Lord is one. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul, with all your mind.

These words which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house when you walk by the way, when you lie down and when you rise up.

You shall bind them as a sign on your hand and they shall be as frontals on your four you shall write them on the door posts of your house and on your gates. Then it showed come about when the Lord your God brings you into the land which he swore to your fathers, Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, to give you great and splendid cities which you did not build houses full of all good things which you did not fill in human cisterns, which you did not dig vineyards and olive trees which you did not plant you shall eat and be satisfied and watch yourself that you do not forget the Lord who brought you from the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery. You shall fear only the Lord your God and you shall worship him and swear by his name. Verse 24 so the Lord commanded us to observe all the statute to fear the Lord our God for our good always and for her survival as it is today for the next few moments. Let's please let's pretend let's pretend you're a modern-day Rip van Winkle and it's back in the mid-60s and you decide to lie down and take a nap when you do your kids are all 10 years old and younger. And you got four of them. Your mate is right there nearby enjoying life with you as it is rolling along rather spas met spasmodically your aware is you go to sleep that you times were little uneasy. There's this unusual war going on over there in Southeast Asia. Probably not an amount to much. Your bothered because the president was assassinated and now there's a 36 president to his taken office. Linda Johnson, you're getting a little concerned about your kids listen to the beach boys and watching the swiveling hips of Elvis Pressley when they do allow that to be shown on television you much rather be sitting by him. Well, you kind of endure the Smothers Brothers and some of those off-color jokes on laughing in sort of a conflict concerned to get you much further.

They enjoy Lawrence Welk OnStar divider and ends on Sunday. Back in those days we need is what grew in your garden and pot is what you put plants in a mouse was a rodent and the coat was a soft drink J meant you were happy back then words like pregnant and abortion, incest, condom and homosexuality were never used in pulpits and occasionally you'd read some of those words and you'd pass on by knowing so little role that beatniks had become hippies but you weren't worried about him because you live in Texas and are all out there somewhere between Santa Cruz and Portland, Oregon or maybe up to Cape Cod. Nobody with here that long to show up in your state space of the living communes. Most of all, and best of all, you enjoyed your home. It was a safe place to be electric kids. They could still take bike rides leaving in the morning on Saturday and not come back till noon for lunch and you never worry about your really didn't. And then last week you woke that gives new meaning to the words shock and all this you will not only are your kids surprisingly older 50 and in their 40s but your mates God she decided. You never would wake up so she walked out on you and your homesteads been taken down another high-rises work pretty affluent people live alongside another high-rises neighborhood doesn't even look like the neighborhood used to look in. There's a green screen in the study and amazingly by simply pointing and clicking. Pornography is on.

And prayer is is illegal and abortion is legal and four letter words are not only on most of the programs, including especially the late-night talk shows that there even used on newscast and sport shows and sex scenes are not that uncommon in if not the movie you going to see at least in the preview of what's coming suddenly were no longer playing.

Let's pretend I remember distinctly back in the I guess the late 60s listening to a three day lectureship by Francis Schaeffer. I said spellbound as he made sense out of the art out of the literature of our day and days past.

I saw him as something of profit. I'll never forget how we ended the lectureship and where I was at the time sitting between good friends. As we were all busy taking notes from this unusual man standing there and turtleneck sweater knickers. He closed his lectures with these very words some day we will wake up and find out that the America we once knew was gone.

The room was silent as you are right now. He turned in with explosion of applause, standing ovation. We said farewell days, I don't speak today as a politician. I don't know that life and I have no interest in that personal year professionally I speak today is a dad is a granddad is a pastor of this church as a husband as a friend. My messages pointed to direct but it's not meant to sound cranky or old-fashioned. I have no interest in returning to yesteryear. I love the conveniences and delights of this current time. I wouldn't go back if I could, I wouldn't be another age. If I had the choice, but being the age I am has given me, shall we say of fresh and a little more clear perspective, much of which I'll be sharing with you in our series together on the family don't turn me off. Please don't see it as some old fuddy-duddy sort of getting a lot crankiness out of his system.

I speak today. Hopefully to help you see some things you've not seen before, or perhaps you haven't thought about for a long time now. You talk about major changes in radical changes. I sat down at my study and on 8.5 x 11 piece of tablet paper I wrote out 3 1/2 pages changes single space so I have condensed goes to a few that I think are worth mentioning that describe our times. Listen closely. Same-sex marriages are now legal and you are considered a person of hate speech, if you will speak out against it. Condoms are now distributed freely and without parental approval to the young based on the fact that they promote safe sex, even though no one would ever say they're safer than 85 to 87% and I also asked you on your own to describe yourself with safe sex me domestic roles were no longer clearly defined.

At least they're not as defined as in 40 and 50 years ago, the masculine father who enjoys his role in delights in being a spiritual leader and truly a man.

The feminine mother who delights in her role and sees the joy of the dignity of being the mother of the young and growing children. The authority of parents and the corresponding obedience of children, never knowing that rebellion is even a possibility. Though all of us have rebuilt the time in the home is no longer a safe place. I just finished reading a number of pages out of the day America told the truth by Patterson encampment was taken back once again with her statement that America is the most violent country on the planet in the home is often the core of the file. It isn't uncommon now to read of wife and/or husband abuse of child abuse. The sacredness and the permanence of marriage being trivialized.

We are no longer really shocked to read of mothers who killed her children or of wives who run over their husbands deliberately murdering them.

If you're a person of some financial means you're considered foolish if you marry without prenuptial contract and there is this myth that life doesn't really begin at conception in the womb. But whenever we say it does affairs and unashamed acts of adultery are not new, though they are certainly more common now. The differences there in the church.

Men are hesitant to be men and women are offended being seen only as feminine ladies who would door husbands and enjoy families finding fulfillment in their husbands, love and protection. Somehow that's now a put down the woman as a result, little girls aren't sure what it means to be a little girl and little boys are confused knowing how to be little boys and their course exists, the misguided stand stance that homosexuality is a valid and acceptable lifestyle. If you disagree with that publicly your homophobic and now, since it takes a village to rear our children were not sure his parents that were qualified to do it on her own.

So were unsure of our roles because of the fallout of all its moral sewage that's now flowing through our homes.

Pornography is taking a major toll if the statistics are reader accurate. Some of the better estimates are that about 50% of Americans view it regularly.

Many of them children under 12. Some of you this is not your grandfather's family.

This is another world and we live in it and we must make a living in it and we must continue on through it and none of it comes as a surprise to God. I have observed in my years on this earth that there sort of an evolution of responses. First, when some of this occurs for the first time the shock I remember the chill that ran down my spine when I read the article of the mother who drowned all of her children and a number of others I could mention to hollering to repeat shock is then because of the frequency of such similar amazing and shocking event turns to acceptance, which is a big leap. Who am I just one. Who are we just a couple so we then decide to be indifferent about I live my life and I'll let others live theirs. I certainly don't want to be misunderstood or unpopular apathy reigns. Can't remember a friend of mine who taught math in high school. Tough subject for that age, and the kids couldn't get there early enough to get a backseat couple of the boys that really hated the subject were forced to sit on the front row. They sat right next to each other is to athletes and they thought they would endure another class and they yawned and rolled her eyes and sloughs didn't cope one another, and finally the teacher my friend got his belly full of any turnaround with chalk it talks barking over the room. He mirrors a T a THY on the chalkboard. Big inch high letters and underlined that is the problem in this class one kids as to the other of hazy. What's up PC.

His buddy says, who care who hears there's a plan underway to desensitize us, never doubted in an article titled, the gospel according to St. Madonna out of a magazine called the advocate, which is a homosexual magazine entertainer Madonna understands this all too well in an interview with the publishers of the advocate, the queen of shock rock assess the impact homosexual imagery in music videos will have on street viewers. These are her words they meaning the American public, digest it on a lot of different levels, some people will see it and be disgusted by but maybe they'll be unconsciously aroused by people keep seeing it and seeing it and seeing it eventually is not going to be such a strange thing. Another producer of a homosexual cable shows that their goal and I quote is to desensitize the audience so that people will realize were just like everybody else.

Now pause here and put your heart at ease. I realize in the congregation are size there are many who struggle with some of the things I'm addressing. I'm too much a realist to live in a dream world. I spent 40+ years in ministry not only addressing these things, but trying my best to help those who struggle with.

If you are homosexual, you are welcome in this church. If you struggle with some of the things related to home and family that horse you're welcome in this church. We want to be of help we want to offer hope there isn't one cell of my body that has heat in it, for any of you I miss you greatly. While I was away on vacation. I thought a lot about these things.

Thinking is this the message you want to deliver my first Sunday back.

Sounds like I've gotten older and cranky, or while I've been gone. On the contrary, my love is deeper in my appreciation for this congregation is broader than it is ever been before. It only deepens as the years go by, and that includes all visitor friend member line. We may not agree with the lifestyle and we may not agree with the way you're acting it out, but we want to help you see in the Scriptures. There is hope there is. There are answers you've not been able to find in the system that's long since lost its way and my hope is that we as a flock will broaden our arms and open them to those who were different than we are understanding that if they can't find hope here is another were off to a good start. Relevant series on marriage and the family, recognizing our changing times.

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