When the Trauma of Caregiver Hampers Perspective

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You have not, I'm not questioning the Lord on this other than what I'm I missing here because obviously I'm missing something here because I have felt like that run like I'm doing everything and Jesus of you spending time with Mary and and and affirming her that she's not even lifted a finger to help me kind of thing you know really ever really understood that. I think if Buffalo caregivers are honest, I think this is there's no theological judgment here… This is not jut up in the weeds. You got nothing to identify Martha and to have someone this being Jesus that you that you admire that you yelled like this. This person is important and that you know and to see that you are here doing something that I know is work. I don't really want to be doing. If I have my brothers by its bank having to resolve those emotional issues or something with which you identify. I think we all can I occasion I gotta tell you that something is I've never shift filled the air and now we know why John and I never said that on the air but I have struggled with that and and and I would be curious to find out if other caregivers do as well, but I don't. But it's it's one of the things that I is, I've wrestled with everything a stories end up in the book is because their identifiable flaws things with the faucet which we can all identify engines out there that Salish Chris media and so I just I don't. This will not be the last time we do this talk about this, but the next time we talk about it to go even deeper and deeper and deeper because I think this is the issue for us is caregivers that it doesn't matter how good we can treat a change addressing it doesn't matter how good we can multitask your cooking, cleaning and and deal with doctors and all that kind of stuff.

If our hearts are broken, if our if our souls and spirits are crushed under the weight of somebody else just constantly flinging StuffIt us and were believing lies and this is what happens when you deal with somebody who's impaired emotionally or subject with with substance abuse or or under the influence of some type of alcohol or attic addictive medicine even if it's prescription related. If they are impaired mental health issues. Please, please, please, as a caregiver. I'm asking you please please protect your heart from this. Please do this and go to the source. Go back to Scripture and anchor yourself and how much God loves start their go through the Psalms and look at Psalm 13 is a very short Psalm. I've read that when many many times and in you hear David start off of the sinks crying out his enemies that your my bunkbed is just covered with tears, but that he keeps re-anchoring himself in the provision, the faithfulness of God, and you see this theme repeated out because you're not alone and struggling of why is this going on behind us is so messed up. And yet these these wonderful sites that came before us who are just like us, just as messed up as we are just as flawed as we are, and they keep finding these these nuggets to hang onto. In the midst of a very difficult circumstances, and then I ask you to please cultivate people around you. And if all you have is this showed that listens the show. You can demo the podcast for free. We have almost 500 episodes and we have this thing is exploded. It's wherever podcast are John R podcast. This is for all the data I have weird the number one podcast for caregivers in the world of them. There's nothing I really think he blazing close in their lot podcast for caregivers but but what we've done here is is something just it it's exploded so exploded but but in Ohio Republican when everybody so if if you are if you did, it's free. Take advantage of it wherever you get a pocket you could sit and share this with people if they if they are on Apple or whatever, but the point is is that if this is your starting point of justice show. Then we are privileged to do so to be that voice speaks into you with clarity and speaks fluent caregiver and says you don't want.

You were doing something extraordinary you truly are and you are an extraordinary individual and what you're dealing with his brutal we asked to give respect to the trauma that you're taking on your own heart.

This is a place we can hopefully catch your breath taken me and then start developing healthier strategies for you to live a calm or healthier near us more joyful. This hope for the caregiver.

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John is always thank you great insight. See actually hey this is John Butler producer, hopefully caregiver and I have learned something that you probably all know that Gracie, his wife lost her legs many many years ago and started a prosthetic limb outreach ministry called standing with hope and recently they ended up with a rather unique and unexpected partner, Peter had a conversation with Gracie and Nicholas Gracie.

When you envision doing a prosthetic limb outreach.

Did you ever think that inmates would help you do that, not in a million years. When you go to the facility run by core civic over Nashville and you see the faces of these inmates that are working on prosthetic limbs that you have helped collect from all of the country that you put out the plea for and their disassembly sell these legs like what you have your own prosody and arms and arms everything when you see all this. What do you makes me cry because I see the smiles on their faces and I know I know what it is to be locked someplace where you can't get out without somebody else allowing you to get out course, being in the hospital so much and so long and so that these men are so glad that they get to be doing as as one man said something good family with my hands. Did you know before you became an amputee that parts of prosthetic limbs could be recycled now had no idea and I thought a peg leg.

I thought of wooden legs. I never thought of titanium and carbon lags and flex fate sea legs and all that.

I never thought about that as you watch these inmates participate in something like this, knowing that there there helping other people. Now walk there, providing the means for the supplies to get over there. What is it do to you.

Just on the heart level. I wish I could explain to the world. What I see in here and I wish that I could be able to go and say the this guy right here Denise go to Africa with that. I never not feel that way out every time you know you always make me have to leave. I don't want to leave them. II feel like I'm at home with them and I feel like we have a common bond that would've never expected that only God could put together.

Now that you've had experience with it what you think of the faith-based programs. The core civic offers.

I think they're just absolutely awesome and I think every prison out there should have faith-based programs like this because the return rate of the man that are involved in this particular faith-based program and other ones like it, but I know about this one are.

It is just an amazingly low rate compared to those who don't happen and I think that that says so much that has anything to do with me just has something to do with God using somebody broken to help other broken people. If people want to donate or use prosthetic limbs, whether from a loved one who passed away or you know somebody well groomed. You've donated some of your own for the did how to how to do that, please go to standing with hope.com/recycle staining with hope.com/recycle.

Thanks Grace