R393 Living Well With One Another, Pt.1

We all could use some encouragement and will fight it together today in the Bible-based preaching of Dr. Don Wilton with a message about living well with his right. Living well with one another is our topic today on The Encouraging Word with Dr. Don Wilton well-known author evangelist seminary professor and pastor and today as he opens God's word. We gain insight on the relationships that are the most important was the one sitting nearby. As we study the word know that we be available to pray with you about your relationships at this phone number. Jot it down stored in your cell 866899 word 866899673 that will connect with one of us 24 hours a day. Also online@tewonline.org that's DEW online.org now. Today's message with Dr. Don Wilton.

Turn with me to Paul's letter to the Ephesians chapter 5. Here it is living well with one another. It's hard to avoid people's people are everywhere. In fact, I don't know that we would want to avoid one another. Some people have tried drawing hard to miss one another how you get all kinds of hermits and people who withdraw from society and become recluses but it's hard to avoid one another. Where would we be without one another how family and our friends, loved ones. What a joy to be together God's family here at First Baptist Church God tells us how to get along with one another. The Bible outlines very clearly and most distinctively God's divine order, and perhaps the root of many of the problems that we experience today whether in our marriages or at the workplace in our nation is because we don't understand all we neglected to follow God's divine order in verse 21 is the pivotal verse submit to one another out of reverence for the Lord Jesus Christ. Now it goes without saying that if you don't know the Lord Jesus Christ that's going to have no meaning or significance for you whatsoever.

Paul is talking to those who have trusted Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior, and I've got some wonderful news for you this morning.

You can give your heart and life to Jesus Christ right now you don't have to wait for the end of the service.

You don't have to wipe to speak to your posterior minister you can open your heart to Jesus. Right now the Bible puts it like this.

They call upon the name of the Lord Jesus Christ shall be saved.

You could just in your heart right now say Lord Jesus, I want to receive you as my Lord and Savior. I'm sorry for all of my sin and by faith I trust in you pulled here in verse 21. Having spoken about the fact in the verses preceding that that we need to be moved with the spirit of God, not how can you be filled with the spirit of God. In verse 18 of chapter 5. If you don't know Jesus Christ Bible says God the father, God the son and God the Holy Spirit are three and one when you receive Jesus Christ to receive God the father. You receive God the son, and you receive God the spirit you become filled with the spirit of God. God's spirit indwells you in on a day by day basis because of your relationship with God. You all be being continually filled with the spirit of God that is possible to be a born-again believer and be indwelt by the Spirit of God and yet not to be living in the fullness of the spirit of God.

There's a difference between being indwelt and being filled by the spirit to be food by the spirit means that you are living a life which is pleasing to God that you are on a daily basis. Confessing your sin Bible says if we confess our sins, Jesus Christ is faithful and just to forgive us our sin and the claims us from all unrighteousness.

And when God's word begins to talk about relationships, the fundamental basis of all of our relationships rests its case entirely and completely on the fact that we all filled with God's spirit. God's spirit is the one who controls us and gives us the wherewithal and the means to be able to interact them to love one another. According to the way in which God saves for so let me read this passage.

We got to go right through chapter 6 and verse nine verse 21. Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Why submit to your husbands as to the Lord Jesus for the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior now has Christ as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without staying or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless in the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself often role no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares. Just as Christ does the church, for we are members of his body now. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one flesh.

This is a profound mystery.

But I'm talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself and the wife must respect her husband, not children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with a promise that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth father's mother's do not exasperate your children. Instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Slaves, obey your earthly monsters with respect and fear and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but black slaves of Christ during the will of God from your heart.

Serve wholeheartedly, as if he was serving the Lord, not men, because you know that the Lord will reward everyone for whatever he does, whether he is a slave, or whether he is free whether he is an employee your or an employee. Monsters treat your slaves in the same way boss, CEO owner of the company treat those who work for you in the same way. Do not threaten them since you know that he who is both their monster and yours is in heaven. And there is no favoritism with him by the Lord, right his word upon our hearts this morning. It seems to me that Paul is spending a great deal of time talking. First of all, about our relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ and then Paul says that based upon our relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ, our relationships with one another are going to fall in line with God's divine order that God's divine order is contingent upon God's scheme of things God's way of doing things and what pulled here is magnifying in the fifth chapter and the beginning of the sixth chapter of his letter to the church in Ephesus is that there is a proverbial battle that goes on between the self and the spirit of God that frames before Jesus Christ came into my heart. The three most important people in my life where I me and myself when Jesus came into my heart. I abdicated the throne of my life and I invited Jesus to be Lord of my life but I have one struggle. I me and myself constantly want to dethrone God. I me and myself constantly want to take charge and infected you and I were to go back and we would draw life's progress in the journey that we are moving through this life. I believe that we would discover that perhaps some of the greatest struggles that we encounter in our marriages and homes and workplaces because I me and myself has got in the way of who guardians we've tried to replace the will of God with the will of man, that there are three results of a spirit filled life according to God's word.

The first is loneliness. Jesus spoke about this and Jesus demonstrated this trust repeatedly throughout Scripture and right throughout his earthly ministry loneliness what God's word was teaching here was that I buy product of being food with the spirit of God is a spirit of humility that men and women in Boys and Girls Club had in their hearts and lives because of the Lord Jesus number two subservience.

Now the word subservience is interesting.

Paul speaks about it repeatedly right throughout the possibly personals when he said I am a servant of also I am a loss.

I am a bondslave. I am the servant of the servant that's getting pretty down to grassroots liberalism, and what the apostle Paul was saying is just simply this, that if we are going to be delayed and guided by the spirit of God. We not only going to be given to loneliness and that is a God-given humility, but regained to be given to subservience. In other words, that is going to lead to the third dynamic of a spirit for life, that whatever we do is going to want to lift and elevate someone else wrong other than ourselves. This is God's order that folks if we are going to try and understand this we need understand some basic fundamentals that Paul teaches us here in verse 22. There is a word there that causes the jitterbug's all over America to wives, submit horror upon horrors. What about the Constitution of the United States of America.

There is no way that I'm going to submit he saying yes everybody is equal.

You see friends. The word submit that it all better translated to be subject, the word actually submit is a derivative here of the word who put Tasso in the Greek New Testament which means to be subject to, and when you are subject to what Paul is using here is a military term whereby he is in ranking in order of a certain order in order to accomplish an ultimate goal or purpose that God has set before we spend a great deal of time honoring our veterans.

And rightly we should do so. I love to study history the battlefield see how great the walls were one. I'm going to say to you, my friends, that there's never been a battle that hasn't been one that was not based upon a fundamental military order. Otherwise you'll never win the battle. You see what Paul is saying here is that if we understand the vital essence of what it means to put Tasso what it means to be subject to one another, as unto the Lord Jesus Christ.

It means my friends that we are never going to have absolute efficiency in our relationships.

We are never going to enjoy a smooth working in our relationship and we are never going to experience complete an ultimate victory in our relationship.

What God is saying here is listen if you want to know how to get along with one another. You need to understand God's order your listing to Dr. Don Wilton our teacher here on The Encouraging Word. Please don't go away will be back with more of today's message living well with one another in just a moment, but he wants me to remind you that this is not just a presentation. It's a conversation and we would love to pray with you about what God stirs in your heart as God's word is being presented and taught were here 24 hours a day at 866-899-WORD chapter number down and store it yourself. It's 86689673 and anytime day or night will connect with one of us having to talk or listen or pray or connect with wonderful resources you need to know where here to encourage you to many of you are asking how can you encourage us prayerfully and financially. Well, it's by becoming an encourager the month of July. Remind us to be. Think, for the freedoms that we enjoy roaming Jesus on the cross is satisfactory.

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What is poolside. He saying here that the whole idea behind our relationships with one another must carry with it the complete relinquishing of our rights to one another. First Corinthians 1616 Paul said be in subjection to faithful ministers and everyone who helps in first Peter chapter 2 verses 13 through 15.

Submit ourselves for the Lord site for such is the will of God nations you have no order resulting anarchy folks are being around some of those nations many years ago I was given some of those nations. Anarchy when order begins to break down anarchy breaks loose. That's when we usually have to send in the United States troops and try to arouse the United Nations from their lethargy to do something about it and all these things. Anarchy breaks loose because there is no order.

And God says if you want to get along with one another follow my order of things. The writer to the Hebrews in chapter 13 in verse 17 talking about the church, put it like this. He said obey our leaders and submit to them.

Why because they watch over our souls, as those who will give account and so God takes these principles and he applies them to the hello what is he say husbands, love your wives, wives, submit to your husbands, children, obey your parents. Employees submit to your employer. That's what God says and he uses as his illustration.

The church now because of political correctness and nervous tension.

The questionable authority has become misdirected and distorted its become sometimes abused and misused in the hello in other words, friends, how can anybody expect a wire who is being abused by ungodly behavior on the part of the husband to submit to him, how can. How can anybody, Paul says, how can anybody expect the child to obey parents when those parents are exasperatingly children and are abusing them in whatever form or fashion that might take you see friends, not even the smallest household can function if each member to moms his or her her own way all the time. It's not going to happen. And here Paul explains that the structural function of the family like the church requires two things authority and submission that you have. I listen carefully you type those two things out of your home out of your school out of your workplace out of your nation out of your state and you got the ground root of major problems authority and mutual submission that you can work it anyway you want to you can throw the Constitution of America edit. You can conjure up the ACLU to bring about a lawsuit you can devise every kind of plan and strategy ever known to man, but I'm going to say to you, beloved friends what God is saying is this like authority and submission out of reverence for the Lord out of any institution and you got the makings for cardio you got the root of the seedbed of problems down the road. There are two factors which are vital in the home and the church. Number one, it must be controlled by love and number two it must be modified by mutual and I want to emphasize by mutual submission. I love being a husband because most husbands boys.

I love to talk about verse 22. But what we husbands don't seem to understand that if we looking at ratio and proportion fall more time is spent in the fifth chapter talking about husbands than about five. I think there's a reason for what is poolside full says that the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head of the church. The husband must love his wife. In verse 25. Just as Christ loved the church. The husband must love his wife. In verse 28 and 33 just as he loves his own body and here's the clincher.

This is the one where God just kind of goes overboard. He says the husband must give himself to his wife in the same way that Jesus Christ gave himself to his bride. Now, what did Jesus Christ do for his bride. He gave his life for her. He gave his life for his church husbands today are you willing to give your life for your wife.

Are you willing to submit to that extent. How far are we willing to go in order to submit to one another. This submission that God talks about in chapter 5.

My friend is not a one-way street. God is not saying that wives need to get on their knees. He's talking about equal status in the glorious divine balance of the makeup of the female and the Maio and he says wives you submit to the headship of your husband in the home because and on the basis of the absolute sacrificial giving of the husband in love to his wife in the hope if you don't do that. How can your wife submit to you as the leader of the home. Every obedience and spirit filled Christian is a submitting Christian. That's what Paul is saying it's not just husbands or wives and the husband the mom submission but does not recognize these own obligation to submit to his wife, distorts God's standards and cannot be a godly husband. That's what Paul is saying parents to do more on the obedience of their children, but are not adhering to God's standards are distorting God's divine order and all duty of upsetting the wonderful balance that God has in store for his children, not right through the apostles and through his letters talks about this for example in first Corinthians chapter 7 he talks about the physical relationship between a husband and wife and something very interesting that Paul says now folks listen very carefully this morning.

You can go to a therapist. You can go to a marriage counselor.

You can read every book that's ever been printed about our physical relationships together because what Paul says in first Corinthians chapter 7 he gives us the secret he gives us the key, according to God's divine order of mutual submission. What is a site he says the husband is not in charge of his own body, but the wife and the wife is not in charge of her own body, but the husband what is poolside Paul is saying that if you want the key to absolute unity in marriage, physically, emotionally, spiritually and in every other way and in this instance he's talking about the physical relationship between a man and a woman he says he has the key selfishness has no part. If you are selfish as a man, or if you are selfish as a woman you're going to have problems in your marriage. That's what he sighed you have to do what you've got to know so you gotta say what I have for you and what I want is absolutely irrelevant compared to what my spouse feel and what my spouse wants. It is a dictation of me and myself, because of the spirit of God in honor of my spouse. That's what submission is all about a powerful message from Dr. Don Wilton today, but the concept submission to each other as spouse starts with the submission to God is our maker, creator. Perhaps you've been blessed by what Dr. Donna shared as he's been preaching from God's word today, but now he steps in studio shares heart. Are you ready to give your heart and life to the Lord Jesus, why don't you pray this prayer with me right now. Dear God, I know that on the center and I know that Jesus died for me cross the day I repainted my sin and by faith I receive you into my in Jesus name, my friend. I welcome you today into the family of God.

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