16- Moving Past Trauma

A brought to you by volume only see research length can bring many difficult situations, domestic violence, addictions, poverty and even sexual abuse by your loved ones welcome, Amy, and the Q and can you have steamy capital. We are live in the eight investing online www.com, and also at ask Alexa to play 880 a.m. that best welcome to show everybody this is that I was hoping with this, how to create a platform are survivors of abuse or anyone suffering can learn from one another and periodically provide testimonials and advice from professionals in the field. We are all successful story because that's happened in the past and being in the hearing now means we have many more choices to re-create and rewrite history, and we can empower one another today so by providing transparency that we can reach closer to the and become very which is acceptance. We can learn to redefine our thoughts when we turn to prayer, and it's then that everything falls into place and we open our eyes. Eventually replacing negative coping mechanisms with healthy ones and there's always a solution.

Simply, if you believe because for me to have less cancer to all my problems, but ultimately God was made here today we have a very exciting gas. We have Blu-ray; all and I also we have an author by the name of Dave Pell, Sam, this is an author that is very very impressive as an individual who represents overcoming adversity. Dave has dedicated his life helping others to help themselves. As a former Air Force combat air crew member Dave's job and had told made air refueling of the once highly secretive SR 71 blackbird and the F1 70s Stealth fighter one duty they were selected as California volunteer the year. Dave has received personal record commendations from our US presidents. Dave was honored as one of the 10 outstanding Young Americans and leader was the only American to be honored as the outstanding young person of the world. Dave is also the recipient of the national Jefferson award, which is considered the Pulitzer Prize for the public service. Other recipients include Sandra Day O'Connor and Colin Powell.

Dave is the author of eight inspirational books. His books have been on that best sellers list for well over 13 years combined. A child called it alone has been on the New York Times bestsellers list for well over six years and Dave is the first author to have four number one international bestsellers and to have four books simultaneously on the New York Times bestsellers list so everyone please help me welcome.

An individual who believes that up only limitation is ourselves. Dave Pelzer hello Dave hello good afternoon. Thank you for joining us.

My pleasure, Dave. I read a little bit about your first child called it in your inspiration to me because for someone that has injured me know different kinds of suffering for about 25 years.

Different kinds of abuses and I thought that for someone that I had gone to something that when I read about you and what you have gone through and all that you have accomplished some inspiration to many of us want thank you so much for saying that, because, but I have to be truthful me right now I'm in the vehicle without major ports here in Northern California and on the fark out in the Russian River monorail area, like the perspective you know you click on my God I'm going through divorce, which is terrible or something happened to me or against me or maybe something happened to me. 40 years ago called me. You know there's a certain reality of life can only be God, put something up to make you realize. Okay, I survived cancer.

I survived abuse survivor divorce. So to me at this moment in my notice of my life. It is a matter of perspective. I was very lucky that I had people behind the scenes. I was very lucky that I was rescued of this approach with a very lucky fortune to have social services in foster care. So it's almost like when people say your prayers this knowledge that all that's a huge things you can't help but look at the perspective of what do you have and what have you done and no what can you do about yes. As for me, my experience was that always turn to God.

I guess I had no other choice because I absolutely had no one. And somehow, whether I knew it or not, God has always blessed me because somehow I survived. He put the right person in my path where I was in the right. Please with the right situation. Why got the right advice or part of this is about reporters about what I call tumblers life when certain things connect at the right time at the right place in the game and this is important for your audience to understand. Okay, there's a message here on receiving something would like to do about that because a lot of people get perpetual to get the same broken relationships. They continue doing self-destructive behavior.

You know there's a definition I work with those in program alcoholics and those who abuse drugs. What is the definition of family is doing the same thing over, over, over, over, and expecting oh my gosh the different results. So you have to be strong enough to give yourself permission for your I'm going to fight through this under do whatever I can may not be the thing that you want at the moment but continue to fight for what is righteous continue to fight for just cause yourself and for your own betterment and out of your family eventually you will succeed and some health be stronger. We see this all the time with athletes.

We see this all the time with what one single model. We see this all the time with veterans with beautiful children who are fighting cancer was like okay I can do this and it is propelled so well in her life. I have been doing a lot of reading and I'll say a member see PTSD group and Facebook and there is a psychologist by the name of Beverly Engel who wrote an article I tell I've been telling people that they have to forgive themselves and have to learn to love themselves and that's important in order to be able to function well in society and be able to help others and is a very interesting way said it's some kind of shame that the people who survive abuses, especially long-term abuse in childhood that date.

This shame with and all they know that this children live in a very black-and-white world in the 20s were developed between Israel. All telcos are bad or disgusting or you know that are touched appropriately. It is for them normal behavior. That's why, in my case because the good of the first four years of the perimeter years bonding and trust the first eight years of our lives is 90% of our psychological makeup 90%. Your values are place in the world help people may view you, so abuses are cared for so many years is really difficult to debrief and learn new positive love and behavior.

And again I say this for the record, I was so lucky right time right place to post tumblers again audience came together well. I'll admit a long time because my example was so God and he doesn't exactly come down and talk to you so you know, basically it was my faith and my friends that came along in the right situations that God helped me do that. Also, there's this stigma that comes with people who are abused and even in the in the box what they write these kind of behaviors are almost expected of somebody who has been abused and I did go through a lot of these things that I mean not breaking the law, but turning to drugs. For example, and yell self-medicating and written exactly make the right decisions, but that doesn't do it.

I came to the realization that this it doesn't have to be me. I don't have to be a textbook case have to fall to I can make my own life and I can make my own living and I'm the one who chooses whether I live in this replete over there and that happy letter accept things as they come in. Just make the best out of them or be uncontained in this because this is just never enough.

Or, we are never enough. Or we just don't feel good about ourselves and that's what I'm trying to introduce a new way of thinking. I understand that you are supposed to hurt by it to change and for me it changed because I always believed in God and I always pray to God and shall I flee different kinds of music, and I found a song about God that I will pay for you. And here is God will open doors no man can set the you you you you you you know that I know is I know you violence and poverty, and sexual abuse for your loved ones you choose not to overcome all obstacles shouldered with the love of God, your husband and your family.

You can succeed. Love is the answer. God is the key work reveals from a very sincere and honest position in Cabo's life, a warrior who didn't give up and achieve the dream of her life. You can get to know more about her at her story on www.godisthekeyword.com buying her book on Amazon.com and now we continue with Amy Cabo on 880 so that I didn't hear how that we've opened up the lines and if anyone would like to call the numbers 305-541-2350 again that's 305-541-2350 here with voice Nicola and a very special guest Dave Pelzer and Dave have to tell you, thank you so much for taking your time even in your busy job that the fire helping people still eat the never cease to help people like that and that's just anything that you taking your time to talk to us today is lawyers. I just really appreciate your time because I know that a fireman's job is really busy right now.

The California Dave this is Boris thank you for being on the show. I just wanted to say. Maybe it's still our listeners do that is important in cases like abuse patient so persons will have been abuse to speak about about… Hide it. What you think about that some people want a 12 hour answer no simple abuse help right now in this day and age we live in a very open society. When I was raised in talk about religion money medical situations, let alone sex know we didn't really have women's rights. We didn't have much for Americans in the sense but now we live in a it's okay to get mental counseling. It's okay to whatever your sexuality is, why would someone say oh my gosh on the abuser I know about abuse. I keep my mouth know get the help you need. There's no shame in that same time. Maybe there's an old one. People will hurt people. Maybe some people were abuse. I don't know this is wrong behavior, don't realize help yourself.

Please stress cease and educate your children because I was abuse from about seven years old I can remember until 15 only occurred because I did not know what was wrong. I thought I was the one at fault. I was the bad one. And if we educate our children early and they can know something's wrong and they can come and speak to us about that. If you guys go on Amazon. You can find a child called it and David.

I did read summary the book to share with us a little bit about your story as a writer so autobiographical, but it was a story about a little quick little kid that was very resilient and it was a story about myself being raised in the early 60s and no middle California. No upper lower class and my mother, for she was abuse as a child was raised to keep her mouth shut to marry Mr. Mandel. All but a few kids and then with the addiction with alcohol. Another targeted me as a very young child. From age 4 to basically age of 12 and was told by my teachers and other people. Years later, my case was one the most of your cases of abuse in the time and he was never a story about abuse of what was needed again… Little Rocky Balboa type thing that everybody in life takes a hit. Everybody is somehow not treated as well respected to be the safest.

They should be like what you do about it. And that's what I've been fortunate in my life is is is somehow take something for kind Abaddon just keep working at it. No keep you clawing to be a good person at the same time knowing that I'm lucky maybe you know nice spring night and I think people think ED stays much like you know is thank you for the work that you folks to think he takes a village to help those suffering you all take care and God bless. Okay, so guys basically that's what it's all about Kathy believing God's hope to share with you guys something that one want somebody had posted, and on to share it with you. She is posting for somebody who was having trouble I'm gonna say is called the strong what happened, happened. You can't change it can't go back and fixing the canteen to the will were or how they handle things. The only thing you can do now is to change internal dialogue to something positive held that little girl inside that needed someone who wasn't there. Look at yourself in the mirror and let go of those old hurts state passing stop booting stop looking back stop punishing the woman you are now for the things other people tea back then choose to become the person you needed when you were younger, seal yourself by keeping others. Imagine that good a person like you do in the world and I was so moved by that because I believe that by chance, we are not born here by chance getting birth and being born. For example, I had nine pregnancies and only three blind children born here with a purpose and with everything and I believe that our whole life is determined, but we have the choice had a choice and I how to learn through trials and tribulations in Friday because I can relate to a lot of other people that are also human. Not everyone strong all the time.

I just but it's okay to admit that you're not strong and do something about it. Just get different expectation. Don't expect to have everything done the way supposed to be discovered expectation that the realistic for you and it's okay to hurt it's okay to need help to locate any medication. It doesn't mean you're broken means of human also know that your super special that you have abilities eating even think possible as long as you have God by your side very beautiful song that I also found that for those that are teaming in. I just want to let you know this is the cure. I'm your host Amy, though you're listening to eight, 88, and that is and if anybody would like to call ran the numbers 305-541-2350 again that's 305-541-2350.

This is keeping the gospel better way all you soon. Violence, addictions, poverty and even sexual abuse by your loved ones. The issue is not stay there, but to overcome all obstacles show that with the love of God, your husband and your family. You can succeed.

Love is the answer.

God is the cure reveals from a very sincere and honest position. Amy Cabo's life, a warrior who didn't give up and achieve the dream of her life.

You can get to know more about her at her story on www.godisthekeyword.com buying her book on Amazon.com and now we continue with Amy Cabo on things for doing hosting the Navy and talking about use of nightmares where some training how to overcome it. First and different ideas.

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You versus the power and the glory and the throne produces that spouse, Kathy SK, and if you make beautiful things I can name the numbers deal 554-1235 Seo. Please be my guest and I have to tell you I try to let people know that I've been through a very difficult life and I've suffered a lot of things that somehow, someway I got soon and you know what I was actually all right time and even when times are hard hit rock bottom in Allison afraid of the unknown and hate from God. God was always there for me.

She always helped me even though it took a long time blessed me in ways I never even thought possible. I have amazing happy moments.

And yes, sometimes I suffer a little sad moment here a little sad moment, there nightmares where I wake up feeling sad but that's okay. They don't compare to the amazing moments I share with my family.

I enjoyed my little dog so much. My husband asked for one batter.

My kids are perfect in my eyes and I can ask for more to be loved and to have so much to love that when I read that article about self compassion. She was talking about nothing yourself, having compassion for yourself and I thought that was very important. But what I do is I think of how God has compassion for me. If I'm capable compassion for others. I sometimes when there's aside as I can relate to that. I can empathize to the situation. If I hear of something side I can cry for them. I have a hard time crying for myself so then we can be compassionate God loves us perfectly how compassionate he is towards us and she is so forgiving and we can put ourselves and we can treat ourselves with kindness and understanding. Somebody that's tested even better and this is how God helps me. He puts things I'll be I do my grocery on Facebook and I was posting and I come across these things that sometimes show up after my Lizzie that really makes sense in my life and really helped me and I can believe easy and it isn't every day that man whenthey have wonderful this past 53 styling about God I love my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ with all of my heart is light shines bright when it seemed like life is all in adult he make you feel like your site when life is falling apart and he always did hit me when I called him the chalk he could turn your Guild and the gracious sin and the salvation so be patient when you going through trials and tribulations. He's the creator of all creation is the ruler all nations who was crucified to save us from Satan and damnation. No temptation hard to resist hypocrites to try to mislead you, but I believe in God and that he provides for his people. He which you when you lonely you hungry that he'll feed you missed the truth that money is the root of all this evil test was hard for the rich to get in heaven while photonics your soul in knowledge and understanding is better than silver and gold you lust for money could make you burn like you cooking over the storable faith to make new choices which are read this in the book of Joel. No, I was told the Bible hard to understand because they wrote it back in the days, but if you pray you will be amazed how you comprehend every page, Easter, Christmas and all the Christian holidays was made to generate people not begin to make his praise and now this world we live in them.

Been filled with hatred and war we supposed to love each other but not many spirits up your son Jesus to be back this in Matthew 24 to destroy the world with father. He did it with water before, so get on your knees and repent the king you sing the gospel.

If you believe the blessings you receive will probably shock you, you righteous and follow his commandments. They can't stop you, the devil is going to try to knock you… You from Genesis to Revelation is the Bible was education on dedicate my life to Christ instead to see but instead await if your spirit is levitate in the way cannot spell because hell was devastating yielded king then thrown you sending your skin and bone, but you I got a swim in the five your brimstone could join them in the long piece here to protect you and he never neglects you, he said except you, wrong correction which shows you the right path to live like the righteous as long as your life lays because you should love God more than you like cash live in the fast life bring in the year like phase worship the Lord.

He created the earth and heaven. And please read John chapter 1 verse seven and try to walk in the light, nobody perfect, but I believe the words of Proverbs chapter 11 and nine China not nobody else's religion.

I just opened my eyes and I made a wise decision cc in the body can't get a cocky teeny division but it's only one God he should only be one vision. When you walk with God.

No strength is also keep walking when you talk with God. No breath is also keep talking you wait on God know Tom is also keep some people hate but no love is lost.

Keep hate the evil will survive will my God, the fee see the waters going to roll in the mountains. It keeps shaking therefore the praise God will be here for the devil going trust stop you but God got you bring many difficult situations, domestic violence, addictions, poverty and even sexual abuse by your loved ones.

The issue is not stay there, but to overcome all obstacles show that with the love of God, your husband and your family. You can succeed.

Love is the answer. God is the cure reveals from a very sincere and honest position in Cabo's life, a warrior who didn't give up and achieve the dream of her life. You can get to know more about her at her story on www.godisthecure.com buying her book on Amazon.com and now we continue with daily Cabo two 880 hello welcome that she is hosting the ADA is joined by Dr. Boyce McConnell's show, abuse, mental common misconceptions treatment and healing options. I think just positive behaviors and families to achieve displayed freestyle that was amazing and you'd be surprised. I have to tell you what prayer in the morning to start your day. That way, and be surprised. After that pair you other songs, that are seeking help you. Sometimes songs that make sense. Constance is supposed to hear them. You're supposed to see that post is another way that I feel God helps me. I think he goes to people he uses children he uses animals so one time I was in and I went to find anything very long and maybe went to two and being one of the 10 people who receive 50 very nice lady who wishes to remain anonymous and stating like I wanted to charity trust in God we all have our bad. We all have IDs where we feel we can't survive. Sometimes dreams are shattered, friendships may fall apart left wants me finances may very sickness may overtake us. We may even lose people we that God will always be there to guide us through even the toughest of times.

Never lose faith. Hold on to help trust in God always adds but I always, always trust God when the homeless, I trust that God when I thought my daughter break time. I tested God when I thought my daughter would go live with her father and he hassle custody and that judge is ready to take it away and I wasn't capable of accusing her.

I trust that God and believe me I did things I never thought it's possible. I never thought was possible that maybe I was fortunate to have one Constance anymore. I guess I don't know.

I all my life and is to be solved. I just really want to help others.

I want to let everyone know that it's okay to talk about things to write things down. Join a group support and Facebook write things down talk to her friends. I believe that the more you talk about it the more you desensitize yourself, the more you begin to accept it, the more you give other people the idea that it's okay to talk about to break the assignments so that we can slow down that vicious cycle that is only promoted by signing so we have to try to make it be fair for one another and we have to try and paint my for what is right. I for your life. Don't get don't surrender. There's no reason to seeming and you're listening to chair Anja hosting Amy capital on 888 and that is and you are listening to a and now going to play sunflower I posed my loan will will you will know you know no well shall hear Amy Cabo. That song I learned to see is myself. For example, even if you don't sound that comes in contact displayed sunflower keep repeating the left in the best.

Unless I step back yeah and you know what century God and be left in the dust. I wasn't supposed to make it I can help him. I try I don't know how I was blessed. But I know that is thanking God. There's no way I'd make no matter how strong I think I may be I always turn to God for strength to pray always that stroke.

The stroke I just wanted to also mentioned that there is a lot of support groups is you guys go through anything that is bothering you or you think that you're going through abuse so you went through abuse in the past. Go look for help.this WK 30 support groups online Facebook and psych Central.com through your local hospitals or if you need to see a therapist. There is a lot of therapy so doctors can help. Just look for help. Don't let the let go, say you never know what happens if you say something… People maybe that person that's abusing you be seeing someone else to.

I thought about the because my pedophile is still loose, though he was found guilty by two judges is still out just that the justices that you never know thought about writing honestly as I want.

Others may be the same person to feel it to come out and say something I want people to know that it's okay because it's not something we need to be ashamed voluntary stuff.

It's something that was done to us something we didn't do something will not survive.

It's always good to talk about it and then even for yourself. You help yourself by talking about it when you actually pronounce it when you speak it loudly putting piece of paper. You realize that what happened is wrong, then Hugh was not your fault.

It was somebody's else the duty to and also you can be seeing someone else by encouraging someone else to do the same. You can be helping someone else and I think that's the best way to heal yourself and others like you matter that you help others that others that you know how to love that you love unconditionally that you do without expecting anything in return just for God. Just because he's done for you.

Anyhow, guys, it's hard to believe that we've come to the time of the close so I can and I just want to say a big thank you to I guess Doris Nicole and Dave Pelzer who are on earlier and I just might say they think it's for our listeners and I hope that I can speak. Talk to you guys and next Friday. Remember every Friday at 2 PM will be on this is that year and I'm your host Amy capital will will you all violence, poverty and even sexual abuse by your loved ones. The issue is not overcome all obstacles that show the love of God, your husband and your family. You can succeed. Love is the answer. God is the key work reveals from a very sincere and honest position. Cabo's wife, a warrior who didn't give up and achieve the dream of her life. You can get to know more about her at her story on www.godisthekeyword.com for buying her book on Amazon.com with Amy. Cabo was brought to you by MIC research 786-310-7477 www.godisthekeyword.com. Tune in every Friday at 2 PM with Amy Cabo right here on 880