21- A Strong Link in the Support Chain

Brought to you by my MIC research length can bring many difficult situations, domestic violence, addictions, poverty and even sexual abuse by your loved ones welcome, Amy, and the Q and hosting you need to live 80 and also available online.com and don't forget you can download at 880 that is where line every Friday at 2 PM and you can to last through Alexa or iHeartRadio. We had some powerful topics on the cell that have to deal with abuse. How to prevent it, how to overcome eight posttraumatic stress disorder sent send Don's treatments available, other mental health problems and any other form of suffering, whoever he may be the provider testimonials as well as professionals in the field and people who are able to help. And today, and joined by Dr. Boris Nicolaus hi Amy how are you think it we are going to soon be joined by a wonderful cast Kirk Miller and I see that he is with us now anytime you little bit about Kirk Miller who is a very impressive person, a belief Kirk Miller is the author of chaos to cure cohost of the radio show beyond calamity and founder of chaos to curate.com after overcoming and successfully managing bipolar 10 CD generalized anxiety and ADHD. Kirk Miller now coaches and helps families, couples and individuals realize there is more to who they are and their diagnosis. He has spent 10 years utilizing his unique perspective and insight to guide his clients to a more productive, positive and stable life as a mental fitness coach Mr. Miller's goal is to help each and every client realize we all stumble and struggle at times, but where there is a will healthy support and guidance. There is always hope. Hello Kirk how are you thank you for joining doing very well be wonderful Kirk I'm so very impressed because I see that you have what they call a quadruple diagnosis and I'm familiar with that person experience.

Thank you very much. I see that overcome a lot of stuff, bipolar anxiety and and you have gotten to the point were you able to help people in many different ways and what's most curious to me how did you do a Kirk how did you find a balance despite how many obstacles you've had to face will bedroom.

I very lucky that how supportive friend and family members and circle of support made a huge difference, placing it on your own. Always extremely difficult and family.

You going home. I know your story and I found it so inspirational and I did want to say you know family doesn't have to come from just your mom or dad, the people you cherish in life that are there to support you and I was very lucky to have some wonderful people and amazing, Dr. Koo really was willing to kind of work with me and that's one of the trickiest parts with having no bipolar one mixture of diagnoses that I had all problematic because the medication mixtures are cause problems with ADHD. The system stimulant that met with the bipolar all media, generalized anxiety, you depression which can definitely cause some down the mania so trying to balance all of these issues, I really struggled. I was unable to finish college and even my college transcripts you see 18 credit hours of time off an 18 credit hours, time off. I always did very well.

All but there were a lot of moments in my life that were very, very difficult point at which all I would give suicidal but then drop off their to the point where I was and all I could never go to the doctor's office on my own. I really had a hard time going different places.

Any change, but OCD was very difficult and all my I didn't want to give up the I think the main thing was I felt bad. There were answers out there that people had not explored yet and all of course that's why I wanted to work with Dr. all but I took some pretty severe risks with my own health on medical hunches. All I did massive amounts of research and I think in my book is one point I explained was cut upfield from the floor to ceiling study journals, peer-reviewed journals, I was looking at your data they had there anywhere that I could try to connect dots go out what might be an answer.

All it might be something that might help with my bipolar I gone through every medication and it was in excruciating process every time the medication changed the adjustment. And the medication the very heart of my body, my also had a lot of physical ailments I have linear IGA which is immune disorders medication for that lead to psychosis.

All I had a host of problems and really the main thing that kept me going was a feeling that I had some kind of a purpose and a lot of times the course you know the docs you write that office delusional. I never felt like I was in the mood got what is somewhat common with bipolar, which is God complex by menus definitely made me feel invincible by I never felt like I was almost 4 wall but I did feel there was something there for me to offer and there was more to my life than the suffering that I was going to just that tiny bit of hope kept me going and I just held onto it with every ounce of strength I had and eventually I stumbled onto a couple unique treatment for bipolar and I'm still using that medication. I will never go off medication and I don't think anyone should ever discontinue without consulting their physician. Of course, and always follow the doctors the doctors are there to help and that was one thing that always was challenging just because a lot of times I felt like God doctors offices. To this day still scare me… Because I was ever mistreated, but because of misconceptions and delusions that I have going into those offices and especially with those one wonderful psychiatrist was the one who diagnosed me and I gone to a bunch of psychologists and psychiatrists before but I never really treated him very well because maybe through three years ago I called them I found number I, but I think them for being there for me because no I'm still here and I feel very blessed and lucky to be alive and I'm trying to be a voice that somebody can hear and someone that people can reach out to the really struggling and know that the matter how dark things get, we all have people that count on us and meet us there and it's worth fighting for staying alive and fighting for your dreams. I think it's really important for people to not give up on themselves world around and which is not always easy to do by always hope there's always a way for people to find peace and happiness. It's going to come in different forms and at different paces for each and every individual but that's part of everyone's journey and so you know it's important not to course compare yourself to other people would do the best you can for yourself and be patient with yourself and I think if you continue to try hard. I do believe in no plasticity. I think that really helped me retrain how I thought how I encountered each aspect of my day. So things felt like they were falling apart, or the sky was falling, I could kind of reset and focus on more stable aspect or more positive aspect that bipolar brought which will allow gifts I very good like the vile and that's what I do now is I teach, and when I first started any of my jobs I could keep one and now that I have balanced myself out. I manage my mental health issues very vigilantly and now I can actually maintain a stable job and I can actually help people to the same time, which is for me the joy and it's something that actually lightens my two every time I'm able to reach out even if one person feels helped by what I say will impact that has a positive influence on the rest of my life and I always use my hashtag kindness ripples and for me I really feel like you're kind and when you're try your best good things come your way and to feel better yourself because many times takes forever to get behaviors and get over thinking negative things about ourselves text me. Very long time. Any negligence on same line to my 40s that I realized anything every day because it's great and handy when somebody tells you in our change of dialogue from negative to positive effect of stock leaving negative and you feel like you just testing to suffer before I got married before I saw how God was blessing I thought I forgot about me or maybe I think this has helped, and that it was very difficult, and it wasn't until I got married and I realized hiking this husband.

He must love me hiking. These beautiful children must love me and his beautiful pants and then I realized later on in life after 25 years of suffering that may have contributed to, I realized that I needed to pray everything in prayer really helped because there are some days that I would think negative, and there was no way that I could possibly think positive.

So the weight I would manipulate the situation is.

I think this is the devil trying to make me think negative so that I can feel back and stray away from God and Allen said pray because I believe God is can help me. It goes away rather than unbroken. It's part of my condition – nothing I can do that for those that are just tuning the chair. Can you host any cattle. We are here speaking with Kurt Miller and distal right now we are opening up online ticketing to speak to us and number is 305-541-2350 again that's 305-541-2350, we are focusing on mental illness, breaking that have been overcoming the facts and Heidi and when we come back and like to talk about about what he means about beyond clarity sounds extremely interesting to me. This is a a.m. that is that your statement cattle. This is done blind by making a nice naval evidence, violence, addictions, poverty and even sexual abuse by your loved ones.

The issue is not stay there, but to overcome all obstacles show that with the love of God, your husband and your family.

You can succeed. Love is the answer. God is the key work reveals from a very sincere and honest position in Cabo's life, a warrior who didn't give up and you can get to know about her at her story on www.godisthekeyword.com buying her book on Amazon.com and now we continue with Amy, and the 218 80. This outfit is acting. This is a caring and you host any condo. If this is your first hunting we typically focus on topics related to mental health abuse, and treatment options today were joined by Kurt Miller talking about have come mental illness and have positive behaviors and I was very interesting that your host of ASL, beyond clarity and is just about what you mean beyond clarity will actually we started about a year will lower your ago and it was to mental health professionals and myself and we thought it would be very estimating show to offer people perspectives from both sides of the people who are working with patients and that also someone who has been through a lot of fee has gone through a lot of different trials so the listener can get both perspective and the show is done really well and right now we will all three of us have kind of gotten some unique offers and so will try to do our next step in our going to continue to do that anyone would like to listen. I thought beyond clarity.net all of our old shows are on their talk about it from health issues like suicide, tension, alcohol abuse, substance abuse in general will be doing those showed finalize that all mental health issues and it is been a wonderful experience for me just to be able to talk openly about what I dealt with theories of very heavy stigma on having mental health issues, especially bipolar and there's a few of them that when I meet people I usually get one of two reactions.

If you are familiar with bipolar and they had a family member that's really what to and they had a bad experience. They literally typically kind of way for me and are scared and I completely understand why because I was very hard on the people that were allowed the ups and downs and being very aggressive reason of violent.

I was manic was very challenging for the people that were around me so you don't. That's what reactions the other reaction that I usually get is if they haven't heard anything about it.

A lot of times they think bipolar is just all happy and sad and I think you get the same stigma and misunderstanding misconceptions with things like just depression things that we deal with unless you gone through it.

Other people don't completely understand and that's not their fault that I would want anybody to have to go to that and experience it. What I really wanted to do for me was reach out and show that it's okay to talk safe to talk about things are struggling with seeing around communicating easy to be able to do that you have to be in the right place.

You have to be willing to help yourself. I remember a time that music sounded like loud noise to me and me between kind acts. Well I didn't want to do anything so high as I get there I for some reason I do entertain myself. He spoke and I ran into the rosary when I was doing the face my Facebook and Rosie has many important things like set your heart.

Things that happen. Not that things are not swear once he started praying every day something happened like that smarter and and I don't know I just I started opening my eyes I started seeing blessings. I can see before nap in music messages that apply to me that were helpful.

I saw that was helping me to people through music to my parents to Facebook posts, I noticed the blessing he practices FET just don't take notice and take one data time doesn't mean life will be perfect or things will get better challenges will still come. That's part of life, since I think I am going to change right now it's not an accent and suffering because I suffered so much already and I deserve not to suffer any more. Now it doesn't work that way is your light. It continues to be interesting that you know I really I really like what you said about there's always blessing and a good thing there and present in our life and a lot of times we are, we struggle to find those and see and me more.

I was able to focus on the positive aspects of my life. Good things in my life all the good things that I was doing and more. My life turned towards that direction, the easier it was for me to see them and the dark side. The thoughts that I dealt with kind of fading away. I talked about in my book so I never really asked me what my favorite colors of the really common question for kids and I didn't really see color the same way I do about so I music the same thing.

There were especially moments when I was manic and I felt elated and so I would be very attached to a song or another damn same song. And if I was depressed I turn it off, so there was a struggle finding that balance and you know I there's no reason why can't show that they did very fascinating study and it was on using an anti-estrogen to treat manic episodes and that's where I started my journey of research was there and it was a long arduous trial with my doctor and I know being very cautious with medication and no course talking to work with her general practitioner and a psychiatrist by now. Psychiatrist didn't really work for me or not traditional saying and medication assistance and I was basically a guinea pig.

You know, for me it really had to start with parent that was my strength. I mean there is other things. Also that I can incorporate freight sample I learned from an existential psychologist that it's important to make a schedule of things to do throughout the day. That would make you feel accomplished, even better if you do things that make you feel better about yourself. Music can be helpful, and music can inspire you. These things can help and if he did pray eventually learn to seek God to Payson, for example, I never read the Bible and now See things in Facebook. I'm actually feeling that I'm sending to eat it because this is what I found in Facebook every day. God thinks of you. Psalm 6816 it's actually written in the Bible.

That's nice not give effect to that I don't have to be boring stuff every time he looks to millions 33 in the Bible every minute. God cares for you. Peter 570 wait, one Peter 57 because every second Nazi Jeremiah 31 all my goodness, I think what I deal with in the social media realm. I really feel like positive messages like that are the things that are good part of social media and there's so many negative things out there. So when you bring up words like that and things that bring comfort to people. Everyone is not going to work the same way and were not going to heal the same way, but I do believe I love compassion and empathy.

Those are things that we have an endless amount of, and we can give much of that is we want and I found for me all much like what you're saying when I reframed my issues around being a compassionate individual at a loving jewel, my life changed and so a lot of the things you just said I really appreciate and want to thank you for bringing up, and number two I find it very inspirational to talk to somebody who is looking at all of the positives and literally trying to find those and all that.

That's something that really just made my day so I I didn't mean to interrupt you. I just want to thank you right there for what you doing and for helping people reframe their life around things stay away from some of all the negative stuff that's out there and look at all of these beautiful things, like you said, my sister actually one thing she always did when she was young and she still does to this day she has her fibroid whenever she struggled with something she would just literally pick a random page and she said for some reason whatever page she opened up to. She said there was something in there some wisdom that help her. There was one thing that you said so what you just reminded me of my sister and I just want to tell you that I will know Massachusetts is very I think that I think of what were learning about the brain and that I think a lot of times we separate our minds from some of the other spiritual aspects such as faith and