Love and Marriage and God Pt 2

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CM is talking and walking Christian men's ministry where they're devoted to breaking down the walls of race and accommodation challenging and that take their God assigned as our host will Hardy and Roy Jones Junior, a black guy and a white guy that will Hardy restroom who talk about marriage this week so as we closed out the show last week talking to Celeste Tyson Foods was nonbelievers in connection with that opportunity for the shows out come to know Christ as a result of a listen to the program was today. That's right will Roy. We talked about that if couples have difficulty in their relationship, or having difficulty. The first thing that they need to do is establish a communication process which means you have to have faith in God that God can and will reconcile you together again. Once you understand both of you understand where the problem is, then we said, you should pray for the strength of God that God will give you that which you need in order to speak in a way that both of you can communicate without raising your voice to each other or to go outside of the bounds of getting the other one upset by name-calling in these type things and then we ended Roy last time with. We have to respect what the Bible says and receive that as the authority and our lives when it comes to the solution to our difficulties think you will one thing to come to my we were talking about the purposes that we did mention on the first series is the man it's important for you to lead family in prayer and I'm speaking from experience here was one of things that we played at the dinner table. We prayed breakfast. We prayed over to go to eat and will often prefer children if there was something going on but when the things early on.

I didn't do properly was lead in that respect with my family and speaking again from expressive just as much of this that closeness that you will develop a list of marital strife or struggles you will come close because you both pursuing God for praying together some and that's one thing that you should take even the morning time the time whenever it works best for you and your spouse and ladies, if you listen your husband is not around you encourage him to take the initiative to start praying with you every day and it's just the and it may not move within the request affect. We know we should go before our Lord and Savior and God and honoring him for all the blessings he's given us to start with and recognize his presence in our day-to-day lives. And then of those things and start the surface, the need prayer as your coming before the throne start to offer those things in the closeness that will develop between the two of you may take some time it may happen in the month. It might take six months.

It may be year, but at some point Tom listen to your spouses prayer and you want to see the heart of that person like you've never seen before in our that's that's wonderful because prayer I think it gives us the communication link between us and God and when we pray together as a family unit. We are acknowledging that we are not individualizing anything, but we are unifying it by coming together, you know, as a family and an offering up those those things and in prayer that we need to offer up to God on a daily basis. Because our minds need to be renewed according to Romans chapter 12 in verse two. You know that we if our minds are not renewed, then that gives the enemy and Avenue that the come right in and an essay you know you didn't talk to God today so maybe I can throw some thoughts into your mind that you will receive an and upset your day right so the distractions back to steal, kill and destroy us that in the sole purpose is the author of confusion, author of conflict. So when nursing start happen to report for not renewing your mind is a much easier opportunity from together we call his playground. There was a playground and its instant prescription doesn't say this is removing three new ring which means an ongoing that's exactly right. And the best way to do this. Start today in prayer or intraday in prayer before you go to bed at night, so must the woman who one of the things Pastor that you pronounce over the wedding to have now become one flesh.

So if there one then those two now one so they should be one going before the throne on the very basis to talk to God and I'll and and when you keep things in perspective. I think that's not only are you doing things according to what the word of God says but God is pleased because you're doing things according to what the word of God.

As you know now when we come to this authority piece.

I know that women use. You might have. If you listening. I know you might have an issue with this, but I gotta bring it up because it's in the word of God. Ephesians chapter 5 verses 22 through 24 talks about the wife submitting herself unto her husband, as unto the Lord. So if that man in that house if he's having an issue submitting if he's at a rough point if he's if he's in a valley in his life, then you should come alongside him and don't be critical don't don't be critical all you want amount to anything or don't don't say things like this.

But, be that uplifting spouse that encourage him where he needs to be encouraged because this is part of you coming alongside of him and him acknowledging the fact that if I have a wife was going to come alongside of me and encourage me then I'm going to seek the Lord, even the more so because I want the absolute best for my family that's good advice. We will I think too often when we were in the middle struggles we fulfilled, forget photo. Remember that the other person struggling and there's something going on deeper than what we may see your talents and couldn't dampen the one who calls even more difficult to overcome that wall between the two of you submitting to authority for Canada.

We should talk little bit more about the if you think about Christ is the ultimate servant leader servant in the keyword right so were loving ourselves. After crossing the line so I had the authority. He was always serving money. So then I think that's what we need to be keep in mind when were Scripture tells wife to submit to the authority of her husband.

That's not so dictator that's right. Not saying you're the one that commands shouts out all the orders they change and the children go going do everything that you would tell them to do this personally leading by example and that man spiritually, physically, mentally, mostly all those things become along right will I think sometimes we hear that Scripture meant the US you've got to responsibly answer to me. You got to be under my authority will it's a servant authority right is exactly right. Because if a individual simply dictates it out then that means that they really don't understand the will of God and their role as the head of that household.

If they in this dictatorship type of mentality and commanding and barking orders and things like that they have no ideal what their role is as a servant leader within at home. Now the question always comes always comes Roy when we talk about a wife submitting to her husband. What if that man is not submitting himself unto God. The woman might as should I still follow and obey him.

That's that's the question sure will and will let you mentioned that from the pastors perspective them will come back out from laypersons perspective I see from the pastor's perspective. If a individual is what he tells you to do or ask you to do if that which he tells you to do or ask you to do is going against the word of God. You should not do it and he said again, you should not do it because what he's asking you to do is contrary and God is not going to bless anything or any action that is contrary against his word. If the individual is drinking or if he's doing all these illicit type of drugs and in things like this and then he he's coming back and he's asking you again to do things that are a part from what the word of God says you should not do it because if he's doing all those things, then he is not submitting to his head.

The woman should not submit to someone who was submitting not submitting to his head because he is not thinking clearly. And he's not at a point to give instruction that is spiritually and emotional beneficial for the entire household rights of others can be a very difficult event happened with people. If the drawl that fine line like since my husband concerns was to happen we all think will be the wife consider some of my husband's nonbelievers so therefore perfectly.

He says is not in line with real God. What it what would you say to that person will if an individual is a nonbeliever, then nothing that he says again is pertaining to the word of God, but you are married to that individual and again you at your Mac to them and if they are not a child of God. Now the question becomes, again, what is it that he's asking you to do is he asking you, hey, why didn't you have dinner down at such and such time or things like this so I think it it depends on what it is that the individual who is a nonbeliever is asking the wife to do whether or not it should be done. So let's take a break here for just a moment would come back and pick up the question, what about the husband who's the believer and the wife is the unbeliever talk will have been with you. Thank you for listening today will be back in a few months or so much on the topic of mercy can be discussed in later the unhealthy things that certain lot healthy things to start with prayer together to skip that mantra not to purchase a truck through the positivist is all right to your CMM with love to have you join their community of men for breakfast every first and third Friday of every month, Bible discussions and fellowship at the best breakfast in town meeting location is at their voracious poster First Christian Church encouraged 1130 N. Main St. encouraged him a hard start at 7 o'clock on a hard stop at 8 o'clock.

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Remember, affordable chiropractic on the West Lexington High Point Hall 336-885-1987. Welcome back man talk with you to will party and were talking about how to overcome your marriage problems because all of us who are married, were married or will be married, you will go through something very, very good will and those who will be married please please please get premarital counts absolutely before you commit because as much as you love each other and that person there may be something services through that pre-marriage counseling. The seller could potentially be a showstopper. But more importantly it will get you started on the right foot together so that you can see the strengths and weaknesses of each other. As you can about the goods and you know a lot of couples believe and not Roy that I have counsel and premarital counseling. They always say will not always.

Not all of say it, but they say I don't need this or I don't need it for as long as you have it. Because if they come to me for premarital counseling. They're going to have to go through 12 weeks three days a week for 1 1/2 hours a day and merge bouquet and I'm glad tell them. And you know you know there's there's been a number of couples who have had that premarital counseling and they call me back couple that's living in Indiana. To this day they call me back and they'll say pastor. We thank you for all that time we put in because now we are starting to reap some benefits from those things that we didn't know, but through the question-and-answer that we had in premarital counseling. We found them out and we were dating for almost a year and a lot of these things we didn't know about each other. There is a testimony right there folks, how important premarital counseling is very important so we talked about wives submitting to their husband, man, you are not off the hook either because the word of God says in Ephesians chapter 5 verses 25, 28, 29, that husbands should love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for and submit what comes to mind unconditional word unconditionally notes the next follow-up is unconditional love right that's right unconditionally and and wives should love their husbands.

Titus two and verse four. So seek all of this is this is acts of love. This is this is unconditional love that you are showing to one another by engaging in with each other for the difficulty that you're having an back God through his word has a solution to get you from where you are to where you need to be in Christ. So manners will say this I will ask your question about how you're treating your wives. Are you truly was with unconditional love, and if not why and second, if the road were treating your wife or someone else will treat your wife the way your children, how would that make you feel while that is really profound Roy that is really profound and I'm hoping man as you listening to this because if someone looked at your wife EDN you notice to be true.because I'm speaking to you right now you are out in the mall or walking through an amusement park or downtown and wherever you city your in and all of a sudden someone looks at your wife really really hard. Yes you get upset you will be mad and you will be ready to do some things that you shouldn't be doing or thinking some things that you shouldn't go so you've already cross that line, but see if you know that your wife is devoted to you and you alone man all kinds of men came looking you know that at the end of the day she's going home with me turn to make sure you're treating her like a lady wants to go home with exactly and don't be that man who was like a closet type of individual who has no abusive and in hateful tendencies right that this product will talk about for several occasions. What is your Monday through Saturday face look like the look on my own son and then at the totally different way. Monday through Saturday right. Love is a concern for someone else's well-being other than you and it's an attitude, not an emotion S and its choice of the will right so you have to choose to want to love. If you have not identify what issues you have in your relationship or you not talking about them then you would never get to the point of love because all of that is still a roadblock between you and where you need to get to is loving each other, so the butterflies go away if not done the homework may have some concerns exactly Ephesians again. Five 2528. Love can be commanded because it's a matter of the will.

We can choose whether or not to love just as we choose whether or not to obey the command of God, repeat that again will loose so love is a matter of the will and we can choose whether or not to love just as we can choose whether or not to obey any of the command of God it's good when God commands us to do something, you have a choice am I going to do it or am I not going to do if I'm going to do it than I'm submitting to the will of God, so I can be led by the spirit of God. So now if I'm led by the spirit of God.

Now the spirit of God is giving my spouse who is open to the spirit of God because of she's sitting here listening to me. You know we want to communicate what the word of God says she's open to that. Now the discerning spirit that she has within her.

God is showing he is sincere about what he wants to do will you now take that same approach and be sincere to him to say honey I hear you I hear you and I see that God is you know you you really letting God work in and through you and I just want to come alongside and and lift you up. Just as you have lift me up in the pass but goes back to pursuing this, but praying for you children.

It will praying together and written something their rooms to some sort just the tenderness in the approach that understand the hear your behind that unity will and Sam sorry that's both of you and is not.

Sam started to get a break in the argument or break in the conflict is to settle the conflict and to move on but to turn back and keep doing the same things over and over again a trite love must be expressed in action. Love is an action oriented word see I can have lipservice love you I love you I love you but are you showing that through the way that you are living or through the way that you're treating your spouse messy someone out there is almost like word of God is giving me a discernment right now. Somebody out there will say what you know pastor I've tried to talk to her.

I tried to talk to him and I just can't get through to them and you know that I say is because you're doing it in your own strength you are trying to make this work. Instead of letting the spirit of God.

What do you to make it work with another question be done.

The inner personal reflection with the rule in this processes with the role in this conflict. So if you're not willing to ask that question in the shortenings look until the person make the changes. That's right because change have to start with you exactly you you can't change for your spouse but you change you let God work in to you to be obedient to his will and submitting to his authority. Love is not shown in an action oriented anyway. Then is simply just lipservice.

That's not going to get you very far when you have real issues that you need to overcome. But one thing we haven't spoken on fruit for the next audience that may be listening is the bar no means fashion forms to the person remain in a physically violent environment.

You need to get yourself removed either side of the men or women because there's nothing good can come from that and it's a very unfortunate work ethic on our society will it speak to that building and asked us to some absolute taboo that needs to be extracted.

The person is to extract themselves out of the you should not stay in an abusive situation, God would not have you to stay there and be a beating pole store in OB of verbally abused which would lead to other things. And if you stay there long enough, the individual may get violent, to the point, depending on what they're going to maybe try and take your life and these are real world issues. These are real issues that man face on a daily basis you know they they come home from work.

You don't know what's going on through the head. So if they sit down and they want to have a conversation and in reference to this or that or they may not want to have a conversations that don't press but just being there for him. The man if he is open to the spirit of God, he will be there for his spouse because both have endured the wing the woman if she's a homemaker she's there making at home every day.

Getting those kids ready.

She's a mother like 24 seven right and then the other side of the coin wills will know their situations were meant to be used so the same holds true for human maternity structure so exactly can be protective of your own well-being and your children's well-being because love requires giving and it requires self sacrifice seek giving and self-sacrifice.

So if you see someone in need, just like the word of God says in first John chapter 3 voice verses 14 through 18. If you see your brother in need, and you have the means to fulfill that need, and you don't do it you just say: be warmed and filled in on Friday for Mayor Ed that's not showing the love of God, and that's not meeting the needs of those who need help right will come to an end the show. Will the consumer always push closer so that we just like to say to all the man and man live just think before you pass that as you let God working in through the member, drop us a line website T8 to see him him tell us those things that we're going to enjoy God's blessing and through us and we want to just ensure that if you don't have a church home connect your self to the church. You can get in touch with DAW CMM at the website can let us know.

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