The Care & Maintenance of Your Child | Part 1

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Today's message with Adrian Rogers the care and maintenance of your child unless the hard work right is raising children mess that's the hard work but I know that many times leadership is called along the way in and not taught in our kids are watching us and how we live in and how we live out the word in our home, so I taught a Sunday school class. Years ago a boy's class and we are talking about, you know, the things we watch the things we listen to and one of the boys in the class was very vocally so you know I don't mind giving up the music I listen to, but my parents listen to things that I don't think they should listen to, you know right you can have these double standards in the home he can be so careful when you're raising your children when you can't be lukewarm right you can't straddle the fence, and we we hear that here in the sermon this message today and also what really stood out to me is many people communicate, but very few connect young, so are we connecting with our children will carry you know Adrian Rogers was a father, a grandfather, and even a great-grandfather any priests a lot about marriage and he preached a lot about children and I know that keeping the home safe.

Her child was very important to him. This is what he had to say. I believe the greatest threat to Christian children today believe it or not is not persecution. I believe that the greatest threat to our children today is lukewarm Christianity where they are raised in homes and churches where the word of God is not emphatically taught and believed where the Spirit filled life is not demonstrated these children learn through their eyes and through the years and through observation and other ways a form of Christianity that there is so far from the biblical norm and like produces like and I believe that is a real danger hard on the heels of that is another danger and it is pornography and perverted views of sex and there's a river of sludge that's flowing over America today that is distorting the idea of true love and the family values and it is a real danger and that's enough to keep parents with their face in the book and the knees on the floor will carry in our text today.

Mark 1013 Jesus reveals his great love for children and their tremendous importance to his kingdom. Absolutely, you know, train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.

And so I a T another nugget that I pulled out of the sermon was the conversion, not just the communication, but the conversion and I was blessed as a dad years ago to lead both my children to the Lord. We were coming home from church.

I pulled over on the side of the road and we had a great conversation, and God allowed me to be a part of that I will never forget it will carry this month we have a great resource from lover finding it's available and tell us about it. I knew I it's entitled his story talk about his creation, his covenant, his cradle his cup his crown his cross, his conquest and definitely his coming. These are eight powerful messages from Adrian Rogers shares the whole Bible story in a very simple but profound way for your gift this month. We like to send you a copy of his story and you know this book will not only increase your head knowledge.

More importantly, it will increase your heart knowledge for this book can be yours. Go to LWF.org and requested or you can call 1877 love God. That's 1877 love God will happy to have Nicole from ministry services back with us this week in the studio Nicole how are you doing what you have for us. Well Byron, I have another testimony from the listener that we received and I just wanted to share it with you real quick. This listener read again and said I first found my worth finding on the radio during my work commute. It was a great encouragement to me and helped me grow as a young Christian. 30 years later I still love listening to Pastor Rogers, teachings, praise Jesus, thank you for your ministry.

This testimony, Byron just reminds me of how timeless the truth of God's word really is, no matter how young or how old a person is in their faith walk. Truth never changes. Yet Byron treated as changes from the inside out by the renewing of our minds all I love the Nicole that is a great word and a great be 30 years. Continuing to listen to the ministry. What a blessing. All that really fuels us here a little over finding and for people to let us know how long they've been getting the messages of Adrian Rogers and how they been benefiting from those what a great word. Well today's message the care and maintenance of your child hears Adrian Rogers, Mark chapter 10 and verse 13 they brought young children to him that he should touch them. And his disciples rebuked those that brought them. But when Jesus saw he was much displeased, he set under them, suffer or allow the little children to come unto me, and forbid them not for of such is the kingdom of God.

Verily, I say to you, that whosoever shall not receive the kingdom of God as a little child, he shall not enter therein. And he took them up in his arms and he put his hands upon them and bless them I want to talk to you about the care and maintenance of your child. Suppose when you went to the hospital for your little baby to be born someone were to give you a notice that said something like this congratulation. Your baby has come complete with all of the standard equipment.

However, yours is a custom-made model and is not another like it in all of your warning, your babies been carefully crafted and is extremely delicate. Be certain to follow the manufacturer's instructions are there may be a complete breakdown now focus on number of people have failed to follow the instructions and there has been a complete breakdown. What is the calls where one is fathers who fail dad Sue have failed to provide stability leadership and character and strength for the family. We got dad today who preoccupied with business with sports with sex with everything else except raising the children, but not only failing fathers, we have misdirected and misguided mothers. Mothers who have a different standard in a different priority than old-fashioned mothers used to hand the Bible clearly warns in the book of Proverbs chapter 29 in verse 15 that a child left himself bringing his mother. Shane, yet America's children are being left to themselves and the television has become the major babysitter. These children are farmed out to day care centers or other places I've already said that we respect a woman who must work to put bread on the table and a roof on the head close on the back.

But what about those who are working for the luxuries not the necessities you know that the television now has taken the place of the mother and it has become America's babysitter elected children watching on television.

Did you know that alcohol, listen to me, is served 10 times more than any other drink on television.

The next is coughing, but for every cup of coffee that served on television there be some serving of an alcoholic beverage every time your child see somebody bring something most of the time on television. It will be an alcoholic beverage.

If there is a sexual liaison is depicted as outside the marriage relationship is either adultery or fornication are sodomy. The reason that many people think the children are doing so well is that many people don't know what the children are doing. Yet God has given us some rules in his manual on the care and the nurture of children. I want to make the message very simple and not complex, and I want you moms and dads to say pastor I'm going to take a goal to do three things with my child number one. I want to learn how to communicate with my child.

What a bundle of potentiality God has given you teach that child and to train the child. The Bible says in Proverbs chapter 22 in verse six train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. Not in this area of communication. Let me give you some steps number one began earlier this in your mind now began earlier when you start training a child as soon as that child is born you so yes as soon as that is born that child should be laid in his mother's arms for that bonding that is that training cannot begin to sue is virtually impossible to spoil the child. The first year of life, that child must be love and love and love, and love some more. The Bible says train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. Listener Proverbs chapter 19 in verse 18. Chastened by son while there is hope, that is, while he is young, before he gets too old to be chasing Proverbs 13 verse 24 he that spares his Rod hated his son but he that loveth him chase at him be times and that word be times literally means he chastens him early. He chastens him at the right time. He doesn't wait until it's too late. It is amazing what little children can learn. Think about I have a grandson who was over at my house.

I watch my grandson just a year old child and I watch that child that she is beginning to learn and listen. I said where are you two. He opened his mouth and pointed Tuesday and not amazing.

I mean that's my grandson did that. Think about that and that phenomenal, did you ever hear of such a listen folks, that little child are-year-old is learning a language as difficult as English think many of you say all I like to learn another language other than my own. I'm talking about little children. If you think that's amazing.

You know some little kids can learn Japanese and some learn all kinds of exotic languages, they are learning.

Listen to what God's word says in Isaiah chapter 20 verses nine and 10 to whom shall he that is God speak knowledge and whom shall he make to understand doctrine. Listen them that are weaned from the milk, and drawn from the breasts.

Did you hear what God says God said, give me a shy who is just being weaned from his mother's milk and I'll teach that child. Dr. think and how is he going to do it when he goes on to tell us in verse 10 for precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept, line upon line, line upon line here a little little little little home. Listen, you train a child, just with a tidbit here.

But to admit there a tidbit here in the child is listening, absorbing, absorbing, absorbing, what a wonderful time to teach. When we have these little children, their curiosity level is at an all-time high. What is the favorite word of the little toddler in your house other than no wall why day why mama why don't get exasperated when they keep asking why that's a God-given instinct. They are little intellectual sponge. What an opportunity because the curiosity factor so high and the trust factor is so high, little children will believe you.

So be careful what you tell little children will be like that. Mother said not to tell another lie is a man a little green man who lives on the moon will make you pick up sticks. The rest of your life. This children will believe what you say what a wonderful opportunity. Jesus said that we were adults need to have a trust factor like little children, we need to become like little children. Children have a God-given innate ability to believe that's the reason the Bible tells us in second Timothy chapter 3 verse 14 Paul says, but continue he's talking to Timothy continue thou in the things which thou has learn and has been assured when evidently Timothy was a great theologian Walt.

How did he learn these things and how was he assured of them, knowing from whom thou hast learned them. I watch it and that from a shy child thou hast known the holy Scriptures, which are able to make the wise of the salvation through faith which is in Jesus Christ. When should you began you Began to so tomorrow. That baby won't be rock tomorrow. That toddler will be asking why tomorrow that teenager will not need help with his homework, begin early second, you must learn to see that your child is unique. There is not another one like your child. That's the reason I said, you become the owner of a brand-new baby. But yours is a custom model are Scripture Proverbs 22 verse six says train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is old he shall not depart from the word way in the way that he should go is is a Hebrew word that literally roots back to the idea of bending a bow. People would select a rod out of the tree in order to make a bow.

Should an hour with, and that Bo would have a particular bend and it a particular set. That's the idea that your child comes into this life with out what we would call a bent, a proclivity, a disposition, a temperament God put together uniquely in his jeans and his chromosomes a child that has a particular way, that he should go.

So the way you raise one child is not the way you would raise another child.

Children are different.

You look at the children in the Bible the first two children, Cain and Abel.

Look how different they were one of them had a disposition that was completely different from the other disposition, and Cain slew Abel. Both of them came from the same womb. You think in the Bible about Absalom and Solomon. These were both children of David Solomon was David son Raymond. Instead, Absalom was David's son who rebelled against the same family think about Jacob and Esau same family but think how different Jacob and Esau were. I think about our four children how unique they are, how different each one of them is and how we need to find out from each child the way that he should go, and friend. There's nobody at daycare who can do that for you. Nobody can do that for you.

Did you know Thomas Alva Edison was sent home from school knew what the teacher said about Thomas Alva Edison said niche to the learn and sent him home. You know what is mama said mom said I know my boy and he is not stupid you smart about teaching myself and she did. The problem was that the teacher was so dumb she could realize how smart the boy will not that he was soda. You see, every child is different. I might try to put a guilt trip all those of you must put your children in day care, but I'm telling you, you got to double up somewhere you got to see to it dear friend that you know you meet proclivities in your child, see your child as you need before God and learn to communicate with that child created listen to Deuteronomy chapter 6 verses six and seven. These words which I command thee this day, shall be in mine heart bow shall teach them diligently unto my children I want and shall talk of them when thou sit us in Limehouse and when the walk is by the way, when thou lies down and when bow rises up a people always saying pastor. How do we have family worship how we have family over. How do we teach our children. I believe in family altar, but I don't believe the family offers the best time teach the children if you try to make your major teaching family altar your kids get sick of it to be like another class. You sit still while we instill family altar become like cod liver oil does a bail keep the devil away and they will let your family altar be bring all they'll be times when you have extended times when just to be fun. Other asking questions and they want to know more, you might talk for hours, sometimes how are families going into the night past midnight discussing the word of God, but old friend.

If you learn to teach the Bible creatively. The Bible says when you rise up. When you live down when you walk in the way that's the way Jesus taught his disciples. He said, behold the store when out to so consider the lilies everything that Jesus saw was an opportunity to T. How many wonderful ways there are to teach your children be created. And hey, there's nothing wrong with having fun. Matter fact imitate how to raise kids being firm be fair be fun.

That's the whole thing just in a nutshell, and let them enjoy Bible games Bible stories Bible baseball Christian books, Christian music, learn how to challenge your key we don't get creative enough, there's a motivational speaker.

His name is Charles tremendous Joan. He's a great guy and he knows how to motivate people, but he's a Christian. He loves the Lord. This is what he said I thought was a tremendous idea. He said to his boy when his boy was 14. He sits on it two years ago, and be able to get a drivers license and you're going to want a car and he said son I want you to have a car and I want to help you to pay for your car but sought to do so and I have some books I want you to read and write a report on and I'll give you $10 for every book that you read and write a report on Mesa get started and he said, remember, if you read as you ought to read if you read in style.

You drive in style.

But if you read like a bomb you drive like a bone. I think that's a smart phone because it take more $10 a book today to get that kid a car, but the point is that he knew how to encourage and he didn't simply ram it down his throat listen communicate creatively and then I would say this in communicating with the kids learn to be read. I have many faults. I'm not about to let my children stand up here and testifies of my faults because they might be too honest about the one thing I'm not afraid to say this, my kids know I'm real I'm not bragging, they know I love God. They know their mother loves God they know I'm not a phony.

They know I'm not a hypocrite. They know the mother is not a hypocrite. They know we believe what we preach and they we believe what we teach.

You see, one of the reasons they believe that is we been real enough to admit when we made mistakes not only have I had to apologize to my wife. I've had to apologize to my children and I still sometimes find myself thinking up things and maybe I am yet apologize to apologize to my grown children for things I did when they were little children just to keep the record straight because I fail and we all fail, but children did not demand perfection but children hate hypocrisy.

They can spot a phony mile away. One girl said to her dad. Dad you taught us how to succeed but daddy you didn't teach us how to fail. We need to teach our kids how to fail.

We need to let them see our calls. We need to let them see our pain. We need to come to them and say sweetheart I was wrong. The way I talk to your mama. I've asked mom to forgive me and I've asked God to forgive me and I will ask you to forgive me, what I said or what I did was wrong with you. Forgive me for I spoke harshly to you or I misjudged you friendless and be real. Your kids don't demand perfection, but they do demand reality. So what I'm saying is number one communication okay. Number two is the second thing, not only communication but correction learn to correct your child. Ephesians chapter 6 and verse four and he follows, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord someone is pointed out that some men spend more time training the Daltons than they do the children then the tie the dog up at night let the children one father not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord that literally means in the discipline and admonition of the Lord is coming up tomorrow will you part two of this important lesson but maybe as you listen, today you have a prayer request.

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