Sacredness of Marriage | Part 1

God's ideal family listen to Adrian Rogers so be alert to have different ideas. They have told us that homosexuality can't be accepted as normal. What they called today that alternative lifestyle. We've been told today that nonmarried motherhood really poses no serious problem that we've been taught that marriage is not sacred because really nothing is sacred and our great commandment today is valid, shall not be judgment and so God in America is the God of all, I believe it's time somebody spoke up for the family family to find pastor, teacher and author Adrian Rogers said this real marriage did not come from the swamps of morality or by evolution marriages are made by but in this day and age, it seems the institution of marriage has become so polluted by the world.

It's hard to see it for what it is and remember God's original design. In Matthew chapter 19 Jesus speaks about marriage. If you have your Bible turn there now is Adrian Rogers, reminds us of the sacredness of marriage I want a story here from the word of God. In Matthew chapter 19 verses one through six and it came to pass that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the coast of Judea beyond Jordan and great multitudes followed him, and he healed them there. The Pharisees also came under him attempting him, and saying unto him, is it lawful for man to put away his wife for every cause he answered and said unto them, have you not read that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and God said, for this cause shall a man leave father and mother and shall cleave to his wife and they claim that they too should be one flesh. Wherefore they are no more twain are to but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. I won't talk to you about the sacredness of marriage we see marriage as we know it is God intended it to be unraveling and experts tell us that soon. Half of all children will grow up in single parent home, and most mothers will work outside the home.

Much of this problem is caused by divorce.

The first three verses of our chapter. The matter of divorce comes up and the disciples asked Jesus, I can a man just divorce his wife for any reason and Jesus in answering that question tells us about what marriage is intended to be one man one woman pulled back to the bar for this cause shall a man leave his father and his mother and cleave unto his wife. They twain shall be one flesh, and what God is, therefore, doing together, let not man put asunder. Divorce is an American tragedy because divorce parents produce broken children and broken children produce broken homes, which produce broken children, which produce broken homes, which produce broken children. It is a vicious cycle. God is said in his word in Malachi chapter 2 in verse 16 that he hates divorce God literally hate divorce. Now I know that the intellectuals of our day have different ideas. They have told us that sex between married people really is incidental. It causes no moral problems and you young people in the choir. Let me tell you, God, absolutely, totally forbids any kind of sexual liaison outside of the bonds of holy matrimony Whitman total so that homosexuality can be accepted as normal. What they called today and alternative lifestyle we been told today that nonmarried motherhood really poses no serious problems and we been taught that marriage is not sacred because really nothing is sacred and are great commandment today is thou shalt not be judgment and so the new God in America is the God of tolerance. I believe it's time somebody spoke up for the family and for family faithfulness. So I want you to see.

First of all that real marriage did not come from the swamps of immorality or by evolution, but marriages are made by heaven look in verse four and he answered these the words of Jesus now and he answered and said to them, have you not read that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, for this cause shall a man leave father and mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they twain shall be one flesh not all marriage counseling all marriage preaching all marriage design can be summed up in three words that Jesus just gave Lee clean and one flesh. Leave, cleave, and one flesh. Now what your job is as a parent. Many of your parents who have children who are getting to be marriageable age or you have little children who one day will be marginally your chief assignment from God to force the child is concerned is to prepare the child to leave home. That is to work yourself out of a job where that child no longer need to. I'm so grateful for the home. I'm grateful for the home that I have where I never, never, ever entered my mind that my father might leave my mother and of course he did not.

I cannot take the security that I had as a child now. I did not come up in a wealthy family matter fact I suppose I family be classified as lower middle class. I was born during the Great Depression and the Great Depression began in 1929.

I was born 1931. I have a real good idea that I would not plan medevac. I got bold enough to ask my mom about it one day she just smiled. I knew the answer I was not playing but I was in God's plan. I came along.

Back in those days, and work was hard to find money was hard to combine some of you who are older know something what was like in the Great Depression. In those days, it still bothers me to death to go into a restaurant in that one. My children order a hamburger and take a bite out of it and leave the rest on the plate just it didn't.

It gets all over me. Not because I'm a stingy because I don't want to spend money.

I just cannot bear to see things go to waste.

That's a way we would raise but we had some wonderful times as a family we lived in Florida, which was wonderful. I was born and raised in Paradise and didn't know and really I mean I was a grown man before I'd seen snow, the first time I saw it I thought was grits all over the ground. I know I was, but because my dad sometimes did not have work is never lazy man, but there will be times when we would go to a place called Singer Island right off the coast of Florida led with the Lake Worth Lagoon between West Palm Beach and Singer Island. We would go there. The most beautiful pristine beaches you've ever seen and we kids would assign for Mentos so my dad could face my mother would bring some some Crisco big black frying pan and some bread and my dad catch fish. We build a bonfire there on the beach and fiveit goes pork and beans or whatever they called it band camp pork and beans. I remember one time at a can in the fire and it exploded and give us all about beans. I'll never forget that which I look back on those experiences.

The best times I ever had as a child I had because my parents didn't have much when we were together as a family. When dad worked.

Mom stayed home. We sat down at the table together and had a meal together and had family fellowship and live together as a family, those wonderful times but you can't live that way all the time and so my father taught reliance. He taught us to work. We had work he did give us a lot of things so many times parents are saying you know I want to give my children things I never had what you can do that. I'm happy for you but I hope that you can give your children the things you did that you learn from your parents.

Those things of honesty and decency in industry and fidelity in faithfulness and what it is. If you do all to be carried out to the woodshed and have the Board of Education applied to the seed of knowledge that happened in our home but a parent comes to the place where that parent has to work that child out of a home. The child has to learn to leave father and mother and cleave to his wife. That's difficult. Anna Mao MO W is her name wrote an interesting article that I read one time and I've never forgotten. She said there are in the child parent relationships the two kinds of love. There is need love and there is need to be needed love hello baby is going to love father and mother. Not because father and mother wise or gentler kind, or anything else. The baby just loves a parent because the baby needs the parent and that is need love, parents have children because they need to be needed and so we come in this world with me. Love and need, and parents have children they need to be needed and so we did need love and need to be needed love that is a wonderful relationship between parent and child, and that's the way God intended.

But then that child will grow when a young man begins to assert his independence is autonomy sometimes and it mostly is the mother, but sometimes the father we have this need love and so we began to create artificial needs to keep them dependent upon us to keep the apron strings time and we don't want them to go often find somebody else send Mary somebody else and that mother sometimes just commit emotional incest to keep that child dependent because while the child no longer has the need love the parent still has the need to be needed love and so when the child is trying to break away to grow up to assert his or her independence and autonomy.

The mother is making rules now that it may be unnecessary in the father is Billy Hedges.

That ought not to be there.

Now there are some restrictions that ought to be there man told me one time was a businessman. He said that Adrian raising children is like building executives and business letter make mistakes. She just a little make any big mistakes.

Now you have to like children if he wants to buy that will conquer car with her savings and you know is wrong.

Maybe that's the lesson he needs to learn that he's made about the poor money down a rat hole. You need to let them make some of those small mistakes like that but you don't let them marry the wrong girl if you can help mice enjoy spray my kids away from some and but there's that need to be needed and there is that need love. Now when the child doesn't have that need love is much as he or she ought to, and they begin to assert themselves. Sometimes a parent will say you are rebellious and then not rebellious but by calling it rebellion you sometimes engender rebellion and make rebellion out of something that ought not to be rebellion at all, folks, I'm telling you what we do as parents and do something contrary to human nature is this that we work ourselves out of a job, but not out of a relationship. The tighter you hold them, the more they don't want to get away but when you release them they don't get away or they may go up and get married.

That's what you want but when you release them they will come back as the best friends you've ever had.

You work yourself out of a job which you don't work yourself out of a relationship now for this cause shall a man leave his father and his mother. The highest relationship. The highest relationship in human relationships is not parent child.

The highest relationship is not child parent.

The highest relationship of human relationships as husband and wife. God says that is 1/we leave father and mother, but we cleave unto our may now this is God's plan for us. Parents are not the supreme commitment. Therefore, your parents are not your supreme commitment that you Donnie parents and your parents are old and feeble and is no one else. They don't have the means. It's your responsibility, your duty to take care of them in the Bible says if you don't go to.

Worse than an infidel. But your parents are not your supreme commitment and your children are not your supreme commitment, according to the Bible made to me is higher than parent to child our child parent I would save you businessman your business is not your supreme commitment. I'm sick and tired of seeing these corporations move people around to the hurt of the hello a man is not a success when he has a divorce 28 ulcer 35 and a cardiac it 50. He may have a pocket full of money but God's plan is that a man puts his wife first of all human relationships. For this cause shall a man leave father and mother leave is the first word cleave unto his wife. That's the second word cleave unto his wife. The word cleave means to weld our to glue. You know when a thing is welded together is many times stronger that part that it is at any other time.

Divorce is never even be thought up when you get on the matrimonial airplane, you throw away your parachute. You show me couples who think of divorce as an option and I will show you a couple that have already a great potential for the distant integration of the matter, which you show me a couple, just as it were, clipped the word divorce out of the dictionary now show you a couple are going to stand together now people whether they are stay married or they get divorced they all have problem I tell our young people. When I counsel with the mental problems too big to solve. They just people too small to solve the so our job is to leave father and mother. Our job is to cleave to our wives. That is, we become mentally Marley psychologically and spiritually. 1/and then the Bible says that we are one flesh.

That's the third word, one flesh to leave speaks of the priority of marriage to cleave the speaks of the permanence of marriage and 1/speaks of the purpose of marriage that we come to be 1/now where one flesh. Why, what does that mean why one flesh. This is why homosexuality at least the homosexual marriage is such a misnomer. One reason for the one flesh in this is for multiplication. God said to be fruitful and multiply, and replenish their Malachi chapter 2 verse five, and wherefore, one that he might seek a godly see I tell our young people when they are planning to get married.

I hope you plan to have children. Children are meant to be a blessing, where something happening in America today with a growing number of young married adults who have decided not to have children dear why they decided not to have children.

They think they don't have more freedom.

They think that they don't have more possessions if they don't have children. They say children are too costly and we have children we going to have to decrease our standard of living, a friend, there is no higher standard of living than to have blessed children. What a blessing to what I call these people are doing this being DIN KS double income no kids tried they named that's the philosophy no wire we one flesh for multiplication, be fruitful and multiply not only for multiplication but that's a physically but psychologically we are one flesh for communication.

Not only are we to be lovers. We be friends, your wife is not to be your computer.

She's to be you complete. She is your helpmeet husband and wife are like a bowl and a violin separate. They don't make music together. They make wonderful music and then we to be one flesh, not only physically and one flesh. Psychologically, but would be one flesh. Spiritually Joyce is my soulmate spiritually. We pray together and we have that communion and that love that spiritual love. If people don't know that I feel sorry for these kids are having sexual liaisons and I talked about going all the way.

That's the one thing they don't do.

They don't go all the way you going all the way until you have that commitment that love that leads to that physical, psychological and spiritual union and communion together the spiritual community.

I feel sorry for these people think this Marvin God Madeline Murray O'Hare, the famous atheist.

She acted so self-sufficient.

But they found her diaries and somehow they became public properties might affect her diaries were auctioned off to pay a tax bill but in her diary many many many times.

Was this statement or something like somebody please love me is not said. Somebody please love me and I hear was a person acted so self-sufficient, but she needed love somebody somewhere love me now.

There are many reasons that people give for divorce and their fallacious reasons.

They will not pass that the judgment bar of God. For example, that people say well we getting divorce because the love has grown out our marriage. If you don't hear anything else. I want you to.

What about the same now is not love that keeps your marriage together. It is your marriage that sustains your love.

I remember that. Don't just simply get the idea that because something called love has gone away then you are free to get a divorce. Jesus has commanded us to love. Ephesians chapter 5 in verse 25 he says husbands love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it are literally gave himself up for sometimes a man will come to me and Sam would get a divorce. I say why because I don't love my wife anymore. He didn't get any sympathy for me. I say will choose to love learned a lot. God has commanded that you love coming up tomorrow will report to this important lesson. In the meantime maybe you have a prayer request that you'd like to share that love with finding it's a great honor to come alongside you and pray with you and for you if you can go to our website homepage@lwf.org/radio and scroll down to our prayer wall.

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