Dealing with Loneliness

Are you dealing with loneliness. Listen to Adrian Rogers of you will have somebody below somebody to share it with you will have somebody who understand the chairs. If you have somebody who needs you really made you what you I don't care how many people around you. I don't how much money you have.

I don't care what position you occupy. So you alone to love will find featuring the real truth of the gospel that never changes presented in the messages room. Rogers now more than ever we see loneliness is so devastating to our human existence. We all have it in us and we can't stop. Loneliness is not solitude, nor is it being lonesome or being in isolation is insulation. It's being cut off, and feeling that way, unnoticed, unloved, uncared for unneeded, maybe even unnecessary. God understands this about us and his word offers promises when we experience seasons of loneliness. If you have your Bible turn to Psalm chapter 102 will begin in verse six is Adrian Rogers gives instruction on dealing with loneliness.

Psalm 102 verses six and seven. As I read these verses, I want you to mature counselor, a psychologist and I want you to tell me what the problem is and what the person is feeling.

Who wrote these words. I am like a pelican in the wilderness. I'm like an owl of the desert. I watch and I am as a sparrow follow all the house.

What's his problem.

Loneliness.

Loneliness like a pelican in the wilderness and our limit is a sparrow hello rooftop can you imagine how insignificant sparrow would feel if a sparrow can think they know that what we know that God feeds the sparrows and not a sparrow falls what he knows about so small, so on notice and our loan in the desert but who gives a for insignificant little bird robot even can see all alone.

I want to talk to you today about dealing with loneliness, when a series of handling our motions before motions handle us to say first of all, listen to me that loneliness is a common file.

Dr. Paul attorney a the noted Swiss psychiatrist said is that loneliness is the most devastating malady this a that's a pretty firm state the most devastating malady of this age in the great play.

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Thomas Wolfe said, don't think of loneliness as some curious abstraction. Don't think of loneliness as some rare phenomenon said that loneliness listen to is the central and inevitable fact of human existence. That is, we all and it's coming and we can't stop central and inevitable. I don't think is just the little widow alone in her cottage her in her apartment was lonely, the rich and the famous alone. I was reading about former United States president and he talked about the loneliness of the presidency, Janis Joplin is rockstar back in the 70s.

Janis Joplin had the world at her feet, so far as entertainment is concerned, but Janis Joplin in Los Angeles apartment went in there with a needle injected heroin into her arm until she'd taken such a dose of heroin that it took her life. I found her there with those tracks.

Thereupon her arm just before she done that, she said to a friend after I come off the stage. She said all I do is sit around and watch television and I am so very long. So very long. Hg Wells, a man with a stick mind that's one of the greatest analects of this century historian when he was 65 say this I am very long as he it is as Thomas will said the central and inevitable malady of this age.

What is loneliness in a way midday what it is not.

Loneliness is not isolation. Loneliness is not solitude.

Solitude is good. We need some solitude.

We need to get alone. You can be alone without being lonely.

If you're one of these people who can't bear to be alone.

You got a problem. Jesus would often withdraw himself to the wilderness and get alone.

The only people you know like below. Most people don't like to look God in the face and they like, look themselves in the face, loneliness is not solitude.

You can be alone without being lonely say something else about loneliness different. There's a difference between being lonely and being lonesome.

Sure you can get lonesome when you're away. There's the lonesomeness.

Those who travel traveling salesman truck drivers and so forth on the highway and so forth was separated from loved ones temporarily, but that is not the state of loneliness. That's just being lonesome and there is a different element to something else different that you can be lonely in a crowd. As a matter fact, the bigger the crowd so many times the more lonely will, loneliness is not isolation. It is insulation is feeling cut off is feeling on notice on love uncared for unneeded, maybe even unnecessary.

That's loneliness. Matteo everyone has three basic psychological and spiritual needs midday what they are number one.

Every body needs someone to love and to share intimately with me to.

As a result of that, they need someone who can understand the know how they feel somebody says yes I under stand. I care number three everybody needs to be needed and wanted that you will have somebody to love somebody to share intimately with, if you will have somebody who understands who cares if you'll have somebody who needs you really mean she really wants you I don't care how many people around you. I don't how much money you have. I don't care what position you occupy you, sir, are you mad alone. One of the causes of his loneliness. Wiser, such a common fact, but a several of the causes.

One of the causes is this feeling of rejection but so many people have so many people have tried to have friends and they been rejected. They have been burned, perhaps in a love relationship. Perhaps even spurn they been ignored in town and had their motions burned out.

They have a deep wound and it hasn't healed and what it takes to slide again is not going to do it or not going to expose themselves to him or her and then their people very closely candidate is not exactly same people necessarily been rejected, with their people just have a basic sense of insecurity. They'll have any sense of self-worth. They don't really see themselves as worthy of being accepted. They will see themselves as worthy of having a friend they have never ever really accepted themselves and therefore they really don't believe anybody else can accept them and so rather than building bridges subconsciously they built walls and they close themselves in a Matteo third reason that some people are lonely is a no fault of their own. Really. But because they go through deep sorrow. The tragedy deep loss.

They lose a sense of perspective. They feel like nobody really really cares. Nobody really understands and nothing really makes sense to them.

Joe said in the seventh chapter of Job, let me alone. Leave me alone for all my days are vanity nothing really makes sense because I just turn left. The book of Job, let me show you a few verses here.

Talk about a lonely man Job 19 verse 13 he had put my brethren, far from me and mine acquaintance are verily estranged from me. My kinsfolk, a failed my familiar friends and forgot me they that dwell in my house and my maids count me for stranger. I am an alien in their sight. I call my servant, and he gave me no answer. I am treated him with my mouth. My breath estranged. My wife even my wife thinks about that breath through what he says let me in. My breath is repulsive to my wife and and then he goes to say my I am treated for the children's sake of my own body. You young children despise me. I rose and they spake against me in my inward friend support me and Dave.

All my love are turned against me. I said it, I believe, will Joe begun things out of perspective and joy because he had gone through such sorrow. Such grieving.

He turned inward and is sorrow all present bicycles around about some of your grieving the loss of a loved one right now are some deep sorrow and because of that is loneliness. There they know the reason for loneliness and that selfishness selfishness. Now sorrow you can't control the sorrow that comes with selfishness. Perhaps you can receive a lot of people who just are lonely because of their own fault that they are just self-centered there wrapped up in their lives. Somebody said there's no life so empty as a self-centered life and there is no life so centered as a self empty life and people will not living now. Not enough manna in the present bicycles are living in a prison of Lexa Glass made applied self-sufficiency and they turn themselves in word and is a form of sin, and sin always separates in sin always isolate brings death to relationships is one reason some folks alone don't a real sense, loneliness, and to build and not an end of this this area. This this age this day in which we live. Everything is so deep personal. I asked you to store and buy something. You stand there before.

The clerk can you take out the credit card and you put it down. If you take a credit card right through that machine and come back though that you sign it and you want to be able to get a person in the you a piece of plastic number was so depersonalized and and we live so in fear is just hard of his age in which Willie everybody's been so depersonalized thank God for Jesus.

He gives a name rather than a number. A man, but I will you tell different that Jesus knows his sheep he calls and gives them by name. We live in an age of the personalization. All of these and many other reasons that are not mentioned are things that made this thing called loneliness. A common fact. I will say something else about loneliness.

Not only is loneliness a common fact that loneliness is a crippling force. They did a survey of some people have heart attacks and they found that these people have heart attacks 50% of them testified that they were feeling depressed and lonely when they had a heart attack was is not to say all people have heart attacks at heart – because the loan is not to say either that loneliness is the only cause of heart attacks but still something to think about and some psychiatrist tested those who came to them and the psychiatrist said that 80% of those who sought psychiatric help came primarily because of loneliness and anybody who's dealt with those who are suicidal. That's all it is that the D loneliness.

Nobody knows nobody cares nobody understands what the person knows and cares understands or not is not the point.

Nobody knows nobody cares nobody understands a lot a lot of people, alcoholics, loneliness be a lot of people overeat, loneliness, dear.

A lot of people can't eat loneliness a lot a lot of people can't sleep, loneliness, and a lot of people over sleep loneliness they don't like people cannot concentrate this day our baby in the wilderness, like in the desert on the roof. Well, did God say it is not good that man should be alone. It is a destructive force, but I will get to a good part loneliness may be a defeated foe. Let me tell you why. Let me tell you what the answer. Loneliness is no I take that back. Let me tell you who the answer to loneliness is Jesus alone is the answer to loneliness mate while in the first place. Jesus understands your loneliness. He knows what it is to be lonely, was Jesus lonely you read Isaiah chapter 53 verse three he is despised and rejected of men, a man of sorrows reading John one verse 11. He came unto his own and his own received him not to live the life of loneliness when he died on the cross he was suspended between heaven and earth, and because he had taken the sin of the world upon himself. Even God his father and his righteousness could not look upon him, because the Bible says of God the father. He is up your eyes and hold an equity and arrival in the crowd taunted him. His disciples forsook him and Jesus died alone my mind, why has thou forsaken me when David David could say yay though I walk to the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no evil for thou art with me, but I want to tell you that Jesus walk that lonesome balling all by himself. He died alone, nobody ever really understood the heart of Jesus. Even when he was facing the cross, he could not make his disciples understand he is like a sparrow rooftop hello hello. He suffered what is that mean to me what is it mean to you mate one thing it means there for him. He knows how you feel. Jesus was long seatless friend.

He knows how you see something else. He alone meets those needs that you have given what we said you had three basically. First of all, you have need someone to love and to share intimately with, that's Jesus to save somebody real. That's your problem right there folks. He is real whiny somebody here now he is here is that I will never leave you or forsake you see Jesus and henceforth I don't call you servants. I call you friends what a friend we have in Jesus is with Jesus is real high gopher driver.

Jesus, I go for walk with Jesus. I talk with Jesus, I have a friend someone that I can allot I love Jesus and he asked me and I can share anything with something else we all need somebody who understands and frame.

He does is what I feel is mine down sitting. He knows my uprising is my going on in my coming in the very hairs of my had a number knows he cares he understands I'm to cast all my care upon him for he cares for me to something else friend he needs me me sign his body on his hand.

His eyes his mouth remembers IKEA's little guy who was a tax collector, lonely, despised, rejected, shut off by himself, but heard of Jesus in some strange stirrings will in his heart and he ran ahead and climbed up into a sycamore tree thought maybe just catch a glimpse of Jesus Christ and Jesus came along and looked up in that sycamore tree and said Zaki: right by his name and what I think you must've saw. He knows me he knows me he'd call me by my name for then Jesus said Zaki is come down like you said he wants me he wants me me then he said Zaki us.

I must abide at your house. He needs me and I will tell you ever want to be sitting at that he knows you. He wants you in each periodic he knows you. He knows you right now. He knows your name. You are precious to him. He would've died for you and not so, he would've died for you alone. He knows the very hairs of your head. He wants you he needs you, through Jesus Christ, you have significance not to something else, dear friend. Not only does he understand how you feel. Not only does he meet your need for friend but there's something else. He's always there is a friend the sticker closer than a brother.

You may be alone, but never alone. Romans chapter 8 verses 38 and 39. The apostle Paul said from persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, or powers. The high or any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. He is always there friend of no one else understands. He does everybody else fails you, he will not get to the bottom line. Jesus alone is the answer alone. Jesus alone is the answer to loneliness. Maybe today you have questions about placing your faith fully in Jesus Christ, we have an insightful resource on our website. It's our find God's love page.

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If you're dealing with loneliness understand it's a common fact that it can be crippling to your life, but more than that.

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