How To Heal Broken Relationships | Part 1

Question what your response when someone sins against you listen to Adrian Rogers if somebody says against us. We do not have the luxury waiting for them to come to us.

We go to the Bible is very clear about this human nature says he sent against me. If he wants me to forgive him, let him come to me, but I might go to him and seek him out absolute why because the Bible says really kind tenderhearted, forgiving one another, how as God for Christ's sake gave us welcome to love and worth finding featuring the dynamic teachings of Adrian Rogers broken relationships of the church are a painful problem that disgraces the father and discourages the bride of Christ.

As Roger said there is nothing worse than a church without harmony.

There is nothing better than a church with harmony in Matthew chapter 18 Jesus reveals the problem the perspective and the procedure we should have as we work on our relationships. If you have your Bible turn there now as Adrian Rogers explains how to heal broken relationships. I was driving down the highway one day and all heart was talking and he has little witticisms of things that he says and he said there was a man appeared in the Midwestern newspaper that said this something like this will party or parties on two different occasions cut my fantasies trespassed on my property and killed some of my cow please come back just one time.

What you do when somebody trespasses against you invite them back so you can shoot well. Look at verse 15 moreover if my brother shall trespass against the go and tell him his fault between the and him alone will if he shall hear me, thou hast gained my brother, but if he will not hear the intake with the one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established and official neglect. The church, but if he neglect to hear the then let him be unto thee as a heathen and public. Verily, I say to you that whatsoever you shall bind on earth should be bound in heaven, and whatsoever you shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say to you that it is true of you shall agree on earth as touching anything the patient last. It shall be done for them of my father which is in heaven.

For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I then came Peter to him and said, Lord, will how long shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him till seven times. Jesus sent them to him. I say not under the until seven times, but to 70×7. I want to talk tonight about how to heal broken relationship.

I think all of us who been in the service of our dear Savior for very long, and had who is trespass against us.

And it is a very painful problem. Actually, the word sin is harmonic, though, which literally means to miss the mark are to be out of balance audit trespass. Now this is a painful problem when I somebody sins against another person trespasses against that person a relationship is broken a fellowship for several no limitation why such a painful problem. First of all in disgraces God the father, my daddy had a brother who never visited our home.

Brother lived in Denver and one day he was going be in West Palm Beach Florida and visit in our home. Mother had stayed up at night to cook a turkey and I had to sleep in a bed with my grown brother, both of us. By this time were big boys. I was playing football.

He come back from the Army we were sleeping on one hour bed because we had company in the house of the other bit was given to the company. My brother rolled over in the middle of the night and pulled the blanket off of me and I rolled over and pulled back off and then he gave me and me and I gave him an elbow and was dark in that room with two grown boys were up in fistfight in the middle of the night and start to disclose less comfort you and we were in fistfight making a ruckus mama was out late at night and basting that turkey she threw open the door and turned on the light.

By that time my brother had a big mouse up here own is eyebrow and the blood was coming down like that down his cheek. She looked at me just basting about that long and she said what you love your brother I said mama. He started it. She said you be quiet and she hit me with that spoon writer. She hit me with a side of their home. I own my head and when she saw that she reached up and get back her hand like what I've told Adrian folks.

It was a night. The next morning we came to breakfast. My brother came to breakfast with a great big knot up on his head, and I had this half-moon scar on my head.

There was my daddy's brother first time in our home across the table at us. My father, my mother humiliated and well they all, I wonder if there is not shame in heaven know the way some of God's children are Shane God the father when we all get along as brothers and sisters in disgraces the father he also this area do this, the faithful. Nothing worse than being in a church where it is not harmony. Nothing sweeter than being a church where there is harmony, behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity.

Our Lord Jesus in John chapter 17 pray Lord that you might be why in the world. I believe that you sent me. Did you know our unity is a form of evangelism that not only does it disgraces the father not only does it discourage the faithful but it delights the phone will allow Satan to see brothers and sisters cannot law the cause of Christ is hurt more by church squabbles and fences. I believe in my faults doctrine so and I'm certainly not making it easy for false doctrine, but I'm just simply saying that that this thing is a flexing problem to solve that problem. You're going to have to get a proper perspective. That's the second thing, like if you will, in verse 15 moreover if thy brother shall trespass against the go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone and if he shall hear the bow has gained by brother that I'm talking about a proper perspective.

I will mention three things very first thing you need to do is to consider your relationship to this person who has sent against you. He is your brother are speaking here using masculine terms, but it could well be assisted but what this letter means is somebody out of the same movements with the word brother literally mean somebody that has come out of the womb of grace.

Somebody who along with you calls God, and you need to consider that relationship when you say maybe he's not brother babies never even say maybe just as namely Church Road. What if he's not brother Benny's lost and is blind. He's on the road to hell heal more deserves your pity and your prayer.

But if he is then to harm him is to harm you, because you're both not only brother sister sister and sister but you are members of the same body.

So just consider that relationship no matter what an individual doesn't matter how they trespass against us. They are to be love these verses down first John chapter 3 verse 16 hereby perceive we the love of God because he lay down his life for us and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren to lay down our lives for the brethren and listen to Galatians chapter 6 verse 10 as we have therefore opportunity, let us do good and old man, especially those of the household of faith. So when you getting this proper perspective.

First of all, consider the relationship. This is a brother.

And secondly, consider the responsibility look again if you will, in verse 15. He says that if I brother trespass against the go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone if he shall hear these guys again by brother every failing Christian is another Christian's responsibility when one brother fails.

It's up to another brother about a sister to lift him up because the Bible says in Galatians chapter 6 and verse one brethren, if a man be overtaken in the fall in you which are spiritual restore such an one in the spirit of maintenance, considering myself must now also be tempted. So consider your relationship and consider your responsibility. If somebody trespasses against you, it is your responsibility to try to make it right and when you consider your relationship and you consider your responsibilities how important it is for you to consider your self listen to Galatians 61 if a man be overtaken in a fault, you which are spiritual restore such a one in the spirit of meekness tutoring by self how do you consider yourself whereafter ask yourself if you try to straighten somebody else out. Are you sending in a similar area. The apostle Paul wrote in Romans chapter 2 verses one through three. Listen to this. Therefore, thou art inexcusable man who served thou art the judge just wherein thou judge just another thou condemns myself for the Alvin judges this the same things, but we're sure that the judgment of God is according to truth against them which commit such things and think is thou this old man that judges them which do such things and just the same, that thou shall escape the judgment of God may, how dare we. How dare we go to anybody in transferring anybody out. If we ourselves are failing. Likewise, then we have to consider, also, have we been praying for this individual who sin against us. And Samuel said in first Samuel 12 verse 23, God forbid that I should sin against the Lord in ceasing to pray for you and we have to ask ourselves about the individual and we want to go straight now that we set a good example before you how we ourselves an example in that area. Hebrews 12 verse 13 make straight past for your feet was that which is lame returned out of the way. That is if you walk straight somebody else is liable to be turned out of the way I talk about a problem we talked about perspective, let's talk about procedure. What is the prescribed procedure if somebody trespasses against you. Well first of all, you go see them. You lovingly visit and confront them look in verse 15.

Moreover, if I brother shall trespass against the go and tell him his fault between the and him alone.

How are you to visit him you visit him privately.

Somebody says I guess you you don't tell another soul on this earth you go to that individual. Don't tell anybody else. Why should you not tell somebody else blame I take up an offense and the Bible says that is wrong for people to take up an offense. Proverbs chapter 16 verse 28 forward man. So with strife and a whisper separate of cheesy friendliness in Proverbs 25 in verse nine says in debate I calls with my neighbor himself and discover not a secret to another dimwit, my sins against me. I go to Jim if I perceive the gym this anyways. May I go to him. I don't need to tell Bob surround. I don't need to tell anybody else, I go to Jim and I speak to Jim alone about it. Why do I do this, or maybe Jim didn't really sin against me. Maybe I just thought he did.

Maybe I'm wrong in my fat ass sometimes, we can be wrong.

I may have told you about a little boy went to birthday parties, mother said if you misbehave out as Ms. does to send you home. Spanking when you get home again and go 10 minutes before Ms. Jones came walking back to the house. She snatched it up and spanking us and I want to do as I did nothing wrong. The party until tomorrow.

Sometimes we just assume things are not so if I go to if I go to an individual. I confronted Mrs. now they bring you that's what you think of that. Now let me give you the facts. I am to visit him privately and I am to visit him lovingly. The greatest test of love for brother is are you willing to confront him if and when he does wrong. Proverbs 27 verses five and six open rebuke is better than secret love for all the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. Now when you go to this brother sister you will go to tell them all. The Bible tells us clearly in verse 15 that we are there to gain our brother you go to winning, not condemning somebody sins against you. Somebody trespasses against you being what human nature is human nature is this human nature says he sent against me. If he wants me to forgive him, let him come to me and that what human nature says if he comes to me and asked me to forgive me. I'll forget but I might go to him and seek him out. Absolutely. Why, because the Bible says really kind tenderhearted, forgiving one another, how as God for Christ's sake.

For gave us.

I will ask you a question. Did God come and seek you out.

Indeed, we love him. Why, because he first loved us. God commended his love toward us in that while we were yet sinners, that if somebody sins against us.

We do not have the luxury of waiting for them to come to us go to them and the Bible is very clear about this. So how in this thing of visitation. How do we do. We visit him privately. We visit him lovingly.

We visit him humbly again. Galatians chapter 6, verse one. He says if a man be overtaken in a fault he which are spiritual restore such a one in the spirit of meekness, considering myself less thou also be tempted. When you try to straighten somebody else out. You'd better pray a whole lot and make certain that you go very humbly because you yourself are not perfect. So what what we do.

First of all there is visitation and hopefully there is restoration because verse 15 says that he will hear the thou hast gained thy brother. Thou, Simon Peter, who was listening.

All of this got to thinking about that and evidently Simon Peter been sent against by some fella quite a bit and this guy kept coming back to Simon Peter saying Simon, I'm sorry, Simon had been going to him and confronting him in.

He been resting and repenting and saying he was sorry. So Simon now wants to know where the limits verse 21 then came Peter to him and said, Lord, I will show my brother sin against me and I forgive till seven times evidently must be some limit and I think what Peter was thinking.

The more a person sends the less possibility there is no forgiveness made after while you are saturated with the thing so that's it. Peter is wondering where that is what the Lord says is this is not a matter of mathematics when you're considering forgiveness.

Forget the arithmetic.

So Jesus says no. 70×7. And what Jesus meant when he said 70×7. I really believe is you forgive him to infinitude the he repair then you forgive him, not seven times, but until 70×7 is very interesting thing because the truth of the matter is, if you for gave him one time and you truly forgave him that sin is going. It is dissolved. It is obliterated.

You forgive him the next time that sin is gone, forgiven, obliterated, buried in the grave of God's forgetfulness and that is true you not keeping a record so every time you forgiving is really the first time is the first time is not the seventh time.

Daytime is the first time because of other times don't count there going you're not keeping score.

Love does not keep a record so you forgive that brother freely before becomes an infection you forgive him fully. By the way, if you go to person and ask for forgiveness. Make sure it's forgiveness that you get because a proud personal cell that didn't matter, that's all right say no.

I want to forgive. Don't just take his shrug and say doesn't matter. It does matter. For your sake and for his sake that they come closer and that if he just says all just forget it. Forgetting comes as a result of forgiveness and they can be no forgetting until the slate is clean and don't be sloppy when it comes to getting forgiveness, forgive freely forgive fully and forgive. Finally, I mean buried in the grave of God's forgetfulness.

We are to forgive one another, even as God for Christ's sake has forgiven us well and brings up a problem. One of the individual will not hear as frequently as the case he might say I did not be wrong. I don't know you apology. I don't need forgiveness for you might say I'm doing wrong. So what down my face, then what you do well you you have to get some confirmation.

First of all is visitation and restoration.

But what if it if if that doesn't work then you get confirmation so you get some people to go back with look in verse 16, but he will not hear the intake with the water to more that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established so you need to get somebody to confirm what's going all the Bible makes it very clear that to more unnecessary to witness and to confirm something because you could be wrong and he could be right. We all have blind spots. I have some if I knew where they were, they would be blind spots will as it was good and if we can get this thing done to bring somebody else there to confirm for some confirmation coming up tomorrow will you part two of this important message.

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