The Key to a Magnificent Marriage | Part 1

Takes a team to obtain a magnificent marriage and listen to Adrian Rogers.

What we need to do is to teach young people today how to have a godly marriage. You may be happily married you. Maybe unmarried message today still applies to you why because we have a responsibility before God. Whether or not we are married or happily married to help other people. It is a ministry we must be a Cardinal but he will come to love the word find key to a magnificent marriage is found in Exodus chapter 20 verse 14 which says thou shalt not commit adultery. As we just heard from beloved pastor and Bible teacher Adrian Rogers. Christians have a responsibility to uphold this commandment, whether or not you're married the modern world tells us the 10 Commandments, especially this one. There out of date there old-fashioned generations come and go. The 10 Commandments remain.

They don't need to be amended or revised and we are broken upon them. If we try to break them. But if we obey them. They will liberate. That's why we have to teach the next generation. God's plan for a magnificent marriage turning your Bible. If you can't Exodus chapter 20 verse 14, once again, here's Adrian Rogers clearly and plainly God says in his word. Thou shall not commit adultery. I will speak to today on the subject to keep a magnificent marriage heard about an old couple. They been married for many many years. 50 years. They were sitting by the fireside. He looked over at her and had a romantic thought.

He said to her after 50 years I have found you try and prove her hearing one. Very good. She said a he said after 50 years, I found you tried and true. She said after 50 years. I'm tired of you to I want to show you have 50 years and more by the grace of God that will be magnificent and one God wants our marriage to be magnificent. And the key to magnificent marriage is found right here now.

Generations come and generations go, but the 10 Commandments stand.

I don't need to be amended or revised, and in the truest sense of the word we are broken on them. If we try to break now the Commandments and this one is not given to be painful or onerous or to bind us in, but really to liberate us to set us free Bible says his commandments are not grievous God's laws for liberty when God says thou shalt not commit adultery but here's what we need to do. We need to take the law and put it in our hearts because of the law of God is only on the outside it would be a rule way regulation a restraint.

But if it's on the inside.

If the righteousness of the law is fulfilled in us. They want liberty, release, there is there an ancient Emperor built what we call today the great wall of China, and he built that wall to keep the enemy from the North from invading and it was so high, so great and so why the chariots could ride across the top of that wall they say is one of the few man-made things that could be seen from the moon. As you look back to the earth, but you know that wall did not keep the enemy out and you know why all the enemy did was to bribe a gate keeper. So in spite of the wall there was an enemy only inside that let the enemy on the outside in. And so the gatekeeper must be in your heart and your life.

The walls of restraint and the laws of God's word.

Do no good unless the gatekeeper is on the inside.

Now, this seventh commandment deals with all immorality and what it says, in a nutshell, is this that sexual involvement outside of marriage is a grievous sin. This means premarital sex, extramarital sex is a sin against Almighty God, that we are told today that the 10 Commandments, and especially this one are out of date old-fashioned. There is a new morality, and in the meanwhile homes are coming apart, and young people are being sucked down into swirling sewers of salmon venereal disease is rampant, we better go back to God's word.

Act 15 verse 29. Abstain from fornication first Corinthians 10 verse eight. Neither let us commit fornication. Colossians 3 verse five mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth, fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil can keep a sense and covetousness which is idolatry.

First Thessalonians 4 verse three for this is the will of God. Even your sanctification that you should abstain from fornication about the word fornication means any sexual immorality before or after marriage and if you're sexually active before marriage, you're breaking the command that says thou shall not commit adultery is that will I'm not married. If you are sexually active before marriage, you are sinning against the person you will matter and your building obstacles and barriers that you will have to overcome.

After you get married so many of us who have children and grandchildren wondering who will our children married, will there be a person sexually clean and pure. Will there be a person that our children can marry, how are our children going to find the right person. What we must teach them to be the right person. Because if they are the right person. They will have such a greater potentiality for finding the right person. I want you to imagine a mountain down at the bottom of that mountain is a beautiful valley. There is a winding road that comes down the mountainside and all that road. Their steep cliffs and sharp precipices and the obstacles on the road and few if any guardrails at the top there is a line of automobiles and their starting down that room. Two people are in that automobile, and they're heading toward the happy Valley and along the way they pick up passengers, but all along that road. Their racks and these automobiles are careening over precipices are running and obstacles in and the people who are in these automobiles are being broken and maimed and passengers that they pick up along the way are being broken and crushed when they start out to the Happy Valley they think is going to be wonderful. But along the way something happens to an illustration, a picture of marriage in America today.

What should we do what should we do will number one we need to have compassion on those whose automobile has been ranked. We need to have a heart full of love and compassion and say our hearts are open and our church is open arms are open, God is open the love of God is there. God is a God who forgives and restores any does not hold grudges. We need to teach that because a lot of broken people and they don't need somebody pointing a finger in the face they need somebody get down alongside of them and bind them up and help the bruised and broken because friend there are plenty of them in America today. They something else we need to do though we need to be building some barricades some safety rails. We need to be removing some of the obstacles that are causing some of these disastrous reqs don't we mean is dangerous for kids today to live in America because everything is against married Gypsy. As I've said before, the devil has leveled all of the artillery of hell against her home. We need to be removing obstacles in building guardrails general.

I think the main thing we need to do is to teach the drivers how to drive teach the drivers how to drive to give them some instruction to give them some help and I frankly that's what were trying to do in a series of on a perfect 10 for homes that women were trying to help young people you know that young people get married today and found a lot of digital speaking of driving that is easier to get a marriage license and a drivers license. Think about it.

It absolutely easier to get a marriage license and driver's licenses easier to get married. All you have to do is have some Notary Public or somebody say a few words over you, and I say you're married or put any money get the license ipso facto you married now. What we have today in America is a vicious cycle, broken homes produce broken people that have more broken homes that produce more broken people that produce more broken homes is not irreversible cycle.

What we need to do is to break that cycle.

What we need to do is to teach young people today how to have a godly marriage how to get from the mountaintop to the valley below. Now you may be happily married, but the message still applies to you. You may be unmarried, but the message today still applies to you why because we have a responsibility before God. Whether or not we are married are happily married to help other people. It is a ministry we must be a part of a T help young people today prepare for marriage and help those who are married to arrive safely. Here are three things I want one out the number one we got to teach our young people. God's plan for a magnificent marriage not look if you will. In Genesis chapter 2 units just just turn left the Genesis chapter 2 if you will please for a moment in Genesis chapter 2 and read a few verses of Scripture to you and in these few verses of Scripture, every problem that marriage will ever face is alluded to hear and the answer to every problem, Genesis 2, verses 21 through 24 that tells about the first marriage in the Garden of Eden. It tells about God's plan for the home and for a magnificent marriage and it says this and the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept and he that is God took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh instead thereof and the rib, which the Lord God had taken from the man, made he a woman and brought her unto the man and Adam said, this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh, she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man now knows that. Therefore, in verse 24 therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh. Any advice that you can get would simply be an enlargement and extrapolation of that one verse that one verse speaks of the priority of marriage. The highest priority of human relationships is not parent the child a child a parent but mate to mate and therefore we as parents must be preparing our children to leave us. We must be coming to a place where as the eagle stirs her nest to get rid of those little eagles in the nest we've got to be preparing to stir the nest to get rid of those children so they can go out and have a home of their own Ebola legal. I want to leave the nest fit so comfortable in the nest and the mother eagle comes with the sufficiently big fat juicy worms to feed that little England there in the nest, but there comes a time when that eagle must fly and get out of the mess that many moms and dads don't want have the empty nest so they keep the nest feathered and they make it easy for little baby Eagle and never really teach that baby Eagle how to fly. What a mistake in what we say when we overly pamper our children and take care of them beyond the time when they'll be out of the nest, we say well I want them to have the things that I never had.

I want to be able to give my children things my parents never gave to me why Wanda, are you giving your children the things your parents did give to you know I was raised in Houma.

We did have a lot of extra things and I was born in the depression and grew up in the latter years of that depression.

We didn't have money to spend on things the kids spend on the day I never knew what was to quote eat out for those kind of things with frequent thought about that that was ridiculous we would have enough trouble eating in general we used to do sometime on my bed. I did have work to do. We go to Singer Island and we kids would saying for Mentos for my dad to fish with.

We build on fire there on the beach and mom and bring to three cans of pork and beans.

We get some Crisco to fry the fish in and catch those fish hey folks, those are my best memories things that we did because week if we can have money to do anything else. Those were the times when we because we have things we were forced to gather as a family. The question is are you giving them the things that your parents didn't give you. Are you giving them the things that your parents did give you there is a priority of marriage and and this is what the Bible teaches parents are not our supreme commitment. Children are not our supreme commitment now. Not only is there the priority marriage told in this verse. There is the permanence of marriage. The Bible says he shall cleave unto his wife.

The Hebrew word has the idea of welding or gluing.

It's not people put themselves together.

It's God that puts them together. Mark 10 verse nine says what. Therefore God hath joined together, what Todd had joined together, let not man put asunder. Marriage is permanent. Marriage is till death do us part. Show me to kids who consider divorce as an option now surely to young people have a greatly increased potentiality for a breakup of their marriage, you say well we got divorced because we had problems. I have news for you people to stay married and people get divorced at basically the same kind of problem.

The difference is not in the problems they have. The difference is in commitment. I mean everybody has problems in the marriage.

You have to watch. Amanda says he understands women. He lied about other things and it's a minefield.

You got to be careful. One woman husband walked in. She was in tears and she said I believe this is the worst meal I have ever caught. He said oh no it isn't as dangerous.

Being married but just just get rid of the idea of divorce. Just take a scissors and cut that word out of the dictionary. Divorce is the only game in which role players to everybody is a loser and a no-fault divorce is a contradiction in terms. There is no such thing. Everybody has problems in the matter but you have a wonderful marriage and 90% of marriage is wonderful and 10% of the marriage is in trouble so you throughout the 90% because of the 10% that's in trouble because of a lack of commitment. This verse speaks of the priority of marriage is speaks of the permanence of marriage is speaks of the purpose of marriage, they too will be 1/this deals with more than simply a sexual union.

But that is included means that they will be one flesh. Physically, emotionally and spiritually to become while marriage is a romance, and in the first chapter both the hero and heroine die and then they become one new person marriage is very much like a violin.

The violin without the bow is no music but without the violin. There is no music but when the two come together then there is that music that's the way marriage is God takes to, and God makes them one way say that's old-fashioned. Yes old-fashioned, but it still mighty good to know that the latest poll results are in.

All of these people been telling us we need to be liberated is what the latest poll say the best physical and sexual relationships as well as emotional stability comes to those who wait upon God and keep himself pure for marriage new survey commissioned by the family research Council, a profamily lobbying group based in Washington DC, found that people most likely to report that they are very satisfied with the current sex life are married people who strongly believe that sex outside of marriage is wrong. The poll found out that 72% of these married traditionalists reported sexual satisfaction. This is 31% higher than unmarried non-traditionalist, and 13% higher than married non-traditionalist, and then this: on the show that sexually happy people also tend to go to church. The poll found that two thirds of responders who attend church weekly are very satisfied with the sex lives compared to barely half of those who never attend the church's amazing thing when all fails, just go back and read the directions. Marriage is for more than the mere propagation of the race. It's for mutual love and comfort and joy to see God loves you. I've said this over and over this series. When God says thou shalt not eat just saying don't hurt yourself. When God says thou shall he say, help yourself to happen. If you are not smarter than God.

God loves you. And when God says thou shall not commit adultery. He's not trying to keep you from sex. He is trying to keep sex for you. It is a wonderful gift of God. Marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled, but adulterers and warmongers God will judge. So what we have to do. First of all we get these kids down from the mountaintop to the Happy Valley we have to show them God's plan for magnificent marriage and God's plan is very, very simply, the priority of marriage. The premise of marriage purpose of marriage that they become one flesh and achieve that happiness that satisfaction that joy that fulfillment that God has intended. In spite of all of the difficulties along the way. Now the second thing we need to do is not only teach them but we need to warn them. We need one and this message today is going be very solemn and very stern because there's no equivocation here when God says thou shall not commit adultery to adulterate means, to make in fuel and when you adulterate marriage. You have made in fuel or something that God values so highly and so wonderful. Let me tell you why. Adultery is a sin. First of all, it's a sin against one's own self. The Bible says is an interesting verse. I hope you jot these verses them for Sprint's chapter 6, verse 18. The Bible says flee fornication & that a man do it is with out the body that is outside of his body but he that committed fornication center against his own body. There is no sin that will do you more personal damage, spiritually, mentally and physically in them around. What a convicting word for us today from God's word and will hear part two of this message tomorrow and I love worth finding. It's one of our greatest honors to come alongside you and pray for you and as you listen today or something rolling around your soul.

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