Q&A with Koloff #46

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The doubles welcome back your host look good all the doubles not error hey I'm here today with a dear, dear friend Donnie in Granma so excited to have Donnie on the shoulder battle Donnie will be versus welcome you to the man up the map show group probably year.

Well, it's great to have you and Donella just for our listeners or just something about just a quick background on you to little research… Not that I might've needed to but it just it's helpful because we've known each other for for quite a few years now, but I like what you got any website choice choice not chance determines success choice not chance determines success and and for all the listeners out there. Donnie is is not only as you might gather just even from that introduction. The speaker, but an author, a life performance coach, founder of of anger management group that you got such a diversified background Donnie for over 20 years you've trained and coached people not at all and all backgrounds from from sales. The sales management to call customer service, personal development and and even even personal life.

Life coaching so you want background you got.

Donnie will does amazing and around the country so you met a lot of folks we we better have a great career doing it now 22 years and therefore spent a lot of time in the Middle East, working with people in the young travel different different countries live in different country and I have found it might echo the same thing and it all boils down to the choices that they make is where they go and lock. Well, let let me let me just do a quick faucet ends and say thank you for for your your service to our to our country in your service in the military to thank you for that. Thank you, will always always appreciate those who put on the uniform and and really give us the freedom that that you were able to experience today and so you know can thank you enough for that as well and and as you mentioned an easy you travel around the world around them around the country. But you've traveled all around the world and and as you said, you gain so much experience and in all of your travels and and I and I want to talk. I want to talk more specifically about some of the things that that you Don and some of things that your will get to some of things that you're currently doing. I know you and I are are part of a dear friend L Argo couple years ago put together a monthly call that that you and I and Tracy Jones from up in Pennsylvania bring Shelton over in Maryland course Al for many years is been a missionary to the Philippines currently back in in the United States and you're in Alabama right at your home. I home homes in Alabama. They were taken off the lawn today for a new book. We we put out well.

Moreover, work, family, and promote the book and that's one of the reasons I'm glad it worked out to have you on the show.

We'll talk about that in it and what what part of Alabama do you reside.

I reside in a little town right outside of Birmingham call Oneonta only on okay outside learn Oneonta, New York, God's okay and now want to go out on a limb here and you're the Birmingham area. I know this can go.

I've got a 50-50 shot here on this, Gautam Laman and I want to say you're a roll tide fan.

I'm just saying that I am actually in Auburn Tiger is all just for me are just like folks down there about is like okay I believe you I believe one color of the other is to get pretty serious down there the whole it extremely. When I was told before I wear it well when I return airport tomorrow at interviewing the company to enter, you need to research your boss and find out which team he fork and that's where you're for real. Yeah guys, why know about my youngest daughter Colby years ago exactly back in it when we were weary recording where recorded preachers daughters a reality show for lifetime and it was back in Colby's teenage days and that she was date the guy. It seemed she had told me God is she dumb she was now dad were in fact we did a segment for for the preacher's daughter show.

We did a segment where had the two of them out to dinner and I was going. You know that a girl the guy writes you told dad protecting his daughter right is like my honey would give me you don't give me something to talk about it in offices for television, so we want you to want to be interesting right. She was well he's in Auburn Tiger fan and his mom actually was like what what I called like the Cornish, the Queen or something or what I call, you know, for the homecoming thing yeah yeah yeah he was like a homecoming queen or something red or whatever.

So I so were at dinner, and the cameras are rolling were filming right and in August, making small talk. I forget the guys name, but I go, hey, I got up totally serious. I go so I understand from Colby like so your your your role type vineyard Alabama for all my gosh if I had been so big. I think you want to come across the table. Let me know service to close off plywood Auburn Tiger fan for the Colby like did you really tell him and his mom was like homecoming queen, although it could've been more perfect for television like the real right. I got such a natural reaction out of a kid. It was whole areas so as I know I do. How serious the fads are there in Alabama so well that's okay I have other friends you were Auburn Tiger fans that I don't hold that against any of them so you anyways so but well so let's let me let's talk about Don a little bit of me and I got cut got up on the rabbit trail there but so were part we been a part of this.

This monthly call with with his got all all authors and speakers so men and women in ministry, but also out in corporate America and some of the names I mentioned I should say church tremendous Tracy Jones right right heard I had Charlie Joneses was had had a tremendous about a 50 year career travel the world and just encouraging people right in his own right, and then his daughter Tracy took over and in those calls just for the record, I do know they been so valuable and so rich for me as we as we glean from one another. We give each other different ideas what one of those calls meant for you have is anything special that that you can see the good times we spend the thing that were number one from everyone. The advice that we get you the mentoring aspect is been valuable for me as well as you know dragging each other in prayer and can hold each other up with. So where were going in and what were trying to accomplish at this is been invaluable. You can't find it anywhere yet is it yet, it's not. It's not. I was typical right it's not too bright and and each each and everyone in their own right is is had so much so much success from from from writing to speaking to you, even areas of of ministry. I know you Tracy, focuses on women's ministry. I focus on men's ministry at all you know is a missionary has has to bill why even I would say without you know he's put put out a lot of children's books and then you know I know you have you have centered and focused on on on marriage ministry in the past as well as as well as other things. What would you say Donnie is there one area that that you might target this is is a strength for you in the terms of ministry terms of ministry and in terms of ministry.

Really, everything on success in the home you my marriage ministry and couples ministry Charlotte not have done that for years we've done cope couples coaching we call it and then setting them at couples we been able to have couples you know to understand.

Most people most couples that we have found they they really don't communicate very well with each other about each other's expectations. Number one, and that Shirley be really good at that of bringing those expectations out because we had different expectations and and how we express love to each other that's been one of our key when our strength is helping people understand how to relate to each other, which is really spilled over and everything we do, especially in this book that we are. We just rode with our our sons gnarls is it yeah it's evident that people out there don't talk to each other, especially today.

We were entered just a short story or in a restaurant last night and we are waiting to be served. And of course all my sons my daughter all the grandchildren cistern over there so we're waiting for our big table and I looked over the counter you just looking down the restaurant, and 90% of the people were on her phone.

They were talking to each other just be so menial married couple. They just don't know how to communicate well today yeah and and or if they do they send in a text message to each other and there in the same howl under the same roof exactly I mean that times have changed seventh day and in the coming communication as you and I know is always been the key in the List of the font really kind of the foundation of any relationship right it is and when the communication is lacking. There's there's no it shouldn't be any wonder why why relationship is suffering.

If communication is lacking right that's a fight and you know it all. It all starts in our home. You know how your kids communicate with each other with you with a parent you know I love coming to the parents. We've got a feeling and what were failing there today. That's why we have kids, you don't know what they want to do. Don't overly want to go. They don't know what the success principles are all had a little life today. That's where life coaching is really real blossom in the in the past five or six years right just just needing that counsel meeting that wisdom and insight from others who had success with an interest for our listeners and so they understand that you met your wife Charlotte. She's recently passed and in the course so you know, once again, the oh our condolences is as your continuing to you know because you guys what you guys were together for for how long Donnie little over 46 years 46 years which that in itself is makes a statement is a milestone in and of itself and and I know that when you are together you did so much ministry together and help so many couples that weather was in the area of communication or or or just understanding one another and and in the book that you mentioned. She guys he wrote many books together.

Wonder how many books together. We we wrote a couple together all your scores you're co-authoring with each other.

We will success in the home, which is better by biggest seller in an biggest portion that for years. We talked a lot of you. We just pull together a lot of different things and then we decided enough gets about 2011, where we need to write her own book of how it works for us so we did that and published it in 2012 and that's been a really big asset to our ministry, especially in helping people and that it it it is basically no walk him through this 14 chapters of verse seven is God's principles in the last seven is how this principle should be played out in your life that's that that's good and that's the one call. Success in the home exceptional.

So 14 chapters limit is okay so for 14 chapters.

The first seven which sums good number that number completion. There are guidelines there is a guy let out principles God's principles and so and what I'm say, here's what I'm hearing from that.

So she let out God's principles. But then in the last seven way I would view the last seven chapters is then the call to action with Apple without summarizing exactly what I mean because you and I know and all the seminars and conferences and and and you're not only involved in them. You do a lot of corporate speaking and corporate training and and I know you do online online coaching life coaching as well as face-to-face and you do it all your amazing you yeah well you're very good at what you do and so anyone listening out there whether weathers reading one of your books so others. This particular one about success in the home or or even outside of that working to get to the very here shortly. The very new one that that your launching in and it is is your ability to to speak into the lives of others, and again for me. Like being on those monthly calls with with with you and and Al Tracy and and Frank is been invaluable for me as well. Just gleaning from from your knowledge and your wisdom so anyone who connects with viewers sits in one of your seminars is going to walk away with with value but I said to say this to that. It's one thing to give a bunch and give out about your knowledge. What I do these in the manner, conferences, and the man camps that that Lex Lugar and I facilitate is we want to give you information we want to give you knowledge bought.

We also want to give you a call to action.

Right as soon as you can. Just want to sit absorb you want to go out and take action with what you're what you're learning or what you're hearing right exactly exactly.

And so, so you you so you've got those books and I know you've got, but let's go ahead and let's talk with some of the other books leading up to the most recent launch.

So tell us about couple the other books that you've done something about what we do know we did one person was winning the battle and you know that just talks about the actually it's God's principles and in layman's terms. We don't give Catherine burst but it's how you actually achieve success in your life because you know everything the battle today in for most people in daily battle it continuously and you know we won't hit folks navigate.

That's why we wrote the book to help Mexico navigate.

I wrote this basic for the corporate world I had and I started traveling and training on that with the financial services group and they did, they just took it to heart and sent me around the country talking to bankers and financial experts about winning the battle.

You know how to deal with customers how to communicate to them know what that build and maintain the right attitude and those kind of them is simple stuff that know people just did not understand and did not grasp it to go to the to the level that we tried to teach how would you what would you say okay because we talked about your military career in your worldwide travels where there's some some from that career with some things you learn Donnie through through your military career in those travels that have really kinda led to know not only offering these books and in traveling and speaking the things that you share with the listener or things that the reader will will learn from from experiences that you had from specifically from your military career. Yet you know a lot of it. I relate back to mom my 22 years in the Air Force and and then working and living in different countries and before you know people are all after the same thing that you think that people grasp is how that my experience casino people relate to stories.

And, I like to tell stories. Especially you know the real story that happened to me that actually brings out the principle of people can relate to that they can put himself in that picture. And when you do that, they're more likely to walk away and use that principle and in the employ that in their life. So that's what we'll that's the one thing that has has counterfeit my ministry apart in my training actually apart from other approaches to using because of a young 22 years.

Air Force 20 years in the financial industry going in teaching financial experts around the country that has helped me to understand and actually to relate to people exactly how this should be employed soon we we talk about a simple thing like attitude.

People don't grasp the power behind attitude and it is extremely powerful and it is is and in fact it's interesting what I'm hearing is is even though it I think about the 30 countries. I've traveled to you've been to a plethora of countries that that even though people speak a different language and end in some cases at the core. I guess you and I could probably will say at the core.

People are kind of all have the same needs. Don't think exactly exactly and and you know you it's in situ. You mentioned you mention attitude right.

One of things course and I try to put out every day and on social media and just out to go to. Probably 100+ and on and on group texting that I try to do my best.

I know you do to you to just just one little nugget that that may make a difference in what I posted today was one small positive thought can change the direction of the whole day right yet they cannot hear that today with all my list and I appreciate a guy that's what we we learn from one another.

Right. I learned from you.

You your your learning for me were at work were just gleaning it almost makes me it always rise me about the Scripture. Believe it or not. Proverbs 2717 as iron sharpens iron, so one man said he was the countenance of his friend right that what will tell is dealt tell us about that tell us about the new book that you launch tells about that come from a different aspect a lot of the same principles, but you know, I've been working on trying to produce this book for couple years and after my wife passed my I was sitting in the living room with my middle son and he and I were were sitting there weird is kinda contemplating and then praying and then thinking about you know what what you want to go from here.

God and God showed us right then how to write the book that I wasn't supposed be the only author that that the three boys and their why this was to write a chapter they were to take a prince by God's word explained that principle and use Charlotte's life to show how that principle is lived out and so that's what they need. I contacted them all.

They all jumped on board and they are there.

She got it so excited about it. So we put it together in a short amount of time really, basically four months from the time that they have due to the publication until it's the eye doctor today so will you let that little kids, we call it real freedom and basically what we're talking about is just kingdom principles actually is is is is what it consist of, but you still unit is is just kingdom principles that lead you to a live joy and fulfillment in eternal success and as my wife showed a legacy of love, a legacy of love itself interest associated here's an interesting perspective. So for all all all the listeners out there so so both of you collaborated together is not just you writing the book. This time you collaborated together with your sons and their wives all bringing a a different perspective on guess into the table that for the reader will get will then it so a.k.a. could perhaps speak volumes to two many different ways or an age range are a target that you think people that could benefit from this newest book, not really think late teens to grandparents know that I don't think it's too unit is never too late. In order to do the right thing and I do not have, but you know what we know that really well right now. I just think you earlier that you can get a grasp in an earlier that you can employ those present in your life. The greater own experiences are going to have the greater success you have in this life and that's that that's good. I just like the four of the whole format of in the whole thought process behind it bringing everyone's in bringing different perspectives in there that that can teach it in a given right at the end of the damning freedom, wholeness, health, healing right can you know all fall factor into that joy that peace that we can all all walk in and it and so I think that's that's incredible perspective and then you factor in a likely set the and you factor in the legacy of love that that your bride of 46 years and not only instilled in him within the boundaries of your family but but that I'm sure anyone who came and in in touch work or cross the path with her and I communicate are you doing the things that we have learned since she passed. I think her dad had more effect on people than her life. Although she touched thousands and thousands of people we have found out and gotten stories that we knew nothing about. I got a call from a young lady in California who said I would not be here today if it had not been permit Charlotte when I was in high school and that on and then today she's 42 years old and then she said I was going to commit suicide because she had such a bad home life and she is going out at it and she said Ms. Charlotte found me and because she was friends with one of my sons and she said she talked me out of it and I've had a fabulous career and a wonderful life and I would not have had that had it not been for her.

Wow, that's just what one is and it glad you want me yeah such essay sounds like one of many many stories and of of of who sees and Pat, who she impacted then and you bring up an interesting point here. We got just a couple of minutes left on it but you bring up an interesting point here that not only cannot can our lives impact people while we are living blood, how much the greater of an impact, especially as as an author who is don't we pass this life onto the next year. The books that we've written you know this does stay behind, but they can continue in those stories can continue to impact lives for generations. Right right right well that's that one want one thing that I wanted want to understand the information is out there and sometimes sometimes people don't grasp it fast enough or don't grasp it holy and Charlotte and I made a decision in the early 19 will run after we came back and then 20 20 January 2020 with my decision to give success in the home away so anybody who wants that book sale. Just email me at Donnie and that's done it with a Y.Ingram.com I will send him down a free download of that book okay that just leads right into into before wrap up the silly or just how how can people get the get this newest book, how can we get your other books and is her eyes on Amazon is a website tell tell them how they can be hidden on Amazon. Most of the books are on Amazon again.This new book today that they launched this morning at the unit for a dollar 99 and it it also has a free book inside of it.

Call untitled leading with purpose that they can get but this is a dollar 99 that I can get this this book today will likely put today and tomorrow will be a dollar nine and it is going to go up so you I'm hoping it that everybody would get it. We want to live through the medium. Micah become a bestseller, but the real key is we want to get out to touch people's lives to change them. That's awesome and in and in and you'll website Donnie like 71 corporate want to come after you speak what what your website donnie@donnieingram.com donnie@donnieingram.com knows that an email or a website that will let the website Donnie.com I'm sorry okay yeah Islamic silly metal Donnie with a Y deal and NY. Yep, that's it. Donnie Inc.com and then the course. The other was your email address will. But listen, it is been such a pleasure and in which can be praying about the success of that book in such a pleasure to have you as I appreciate you taking set some time aside on on your on your launch and and I know that the books can impact a lot of people's life, as well as all the other books that you've written so thank you later. Well Donnie thanks for tuning today to two. It's time to man up, Donnie, a man's man and an ally food.

He and is is ole wife Charlotte who have impacted many people's lives. Hey I want you to consider that you've never given your life to Jesus. I want to kill want you to consider doing that today I want you to consider surrendering submitting your life to Jesus and John is you can probably even here in Donnie's voice and from some of his stories and now he and his family are our change in impacting lives that your life can be impacted. Starting with your submission your surrender to Jesus Christ and so make that decision today. Don't wait another day there. There's no promise of tomorrow. Thanks for getting in to the map show. God bless. See you next time. This is the Truth Network