What Anchors You?

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Maybe it's addiction maybe it's alcoholism. Whatever the chronic impairment there's always a caregiver it if that's you and you're the right place were glad that you're here this program is specifically designed to speak to the troubled heart of the family caregiver and after doing this now for a lifetime. I understand those high stress places those despairing places those fearful places those guilt ridden places those resentful places that we can get to very easily and if Armand is a squirrel cage what decisions you think we can make if the caregivers heart is in such a mess. How are we going to function in these high stress moments and what happens to our loved one. If we lose her job if we become bankrupt or our health starts to fail or were so emotionally distraught and yet were still called upon to make business financial and long-term decisions. We gotta settle ourselves down and think clearly but how you do that as a family caregiver particular, what is just relentless.

It never stops, not just the caregiver being but the challenges that come from this. There's always a crisis. There's family members or friends that want to sit on the sidelines and tell you how to do it better, or tell you what you should've done or tell you why God is done this to you or whatever all those things kind of gang up on you and beat you down. This show is for you. This show is designed to speak to those issues that I'm so glad that you're here now in my 36th year as a caregiver hard believe been doing this since the Cold War. The first one, and so are bringing a lifetime of this to offer some insights of learned every bit of it the hard way that I want to be able to speak to your heart as well and so you know what, here's a path through this. Here's what safe ground looks like, you know what he thinks of as having gone through this lengthy surgery with my wife, her 82nd and 83rd weed and plan of the 83rd with jumped in there with us you ever notice that during extended hospital stays you. You're surrounded by faceless people because everybody's in mask and then he got these these long nights where loneliness and fear serve as your constant companion. Have you made that long walk to the hospital parking lot. During those times. It's so easy for us were prone to this due to feeling disconnected and adrift and we don't really cut out weekly. We don't feel settled in our spirits and and going to the hospital, elevators, and all the Things were back and forth and and and is just you can get very very disoriented and I know for me that I long for recognizable landmarks that this signal a safe harbor for me that I have to I will I need to re-anchor myself and I'm body that have to re-anchor in a store. My brother-in-law has a boat and he lives in the water down in Florida in the bay and they have to they can't leave it tied up at the dock when hurricanes comes up with him to get out of the water little deeper in the have to specially anchor it so it can handle the waves and so for the company and that's what it feels like for us as caregivers were not able to have the looks you just had enough of the dock. We gotta get away from the dock.

Sometimes because the storm abated against it. So we have to do all kinds of sea anchors and things such as that and I don't. I'm not a sailor so I don't know these things, but I've always been intrigued by how that's done with emphasis. Caregivers and we don't get the luxury of his having a nice little tie often okay were good. Usually there's 17 things you don't blow it at us and and rain was pelting her face and we were having a hard time being able see Robert try to scramble to to anchor ourselves but I found that for me is a caregiver. It doesn't really have to be something very complicated to anchor myself and and during this time in Denver. I did something that I live in Montana but I grew up in the South of a child of the cell was born in South Carolina and I spent all my life in the South spent 35 years living in Nashville. I love waffle house. I am proud to admit that I love. I'm not sure I want to be friends with people that don't love waffle high level as a waffle house that is right near where we used to live.

It was right across interstate we would go there's maybe a mile and 1/2 away tops in the same crew worked there for years and some most of her still there. One of been there for 40 years. We would over there with our kids when they were just little kids and now we still go there fact, I was just back in Nashville.

During this time, a gray she's been in the hospital and I had to go on a marathon trip to take our corridor dogs to our son who still lives there. We went to that same waffle house.

I love waffle house so I was in Denver with the surgery with grace when they have waffle houses. Dimmer, they don't have one in the entire state of Montana. We don't have a chick like we don't have it in and out Burger. We don't have a waffle house. It's tough sometimes for assessment both and I went into this waffle house and all I did know anybody there but it all felt familiar the sites. This bills the taste that the playing around. I close my eyes and I was sitting with my wife and my kids back in that familiar waffle house in Nashville.

I could tell how they ordered out the, the, the pull one bacon you know that, stuff, and I ordered you scattered smothered diced for my hashbrowns extra crispy and for just a few moments I felt connected it anchor me something familiar waffle house and I got a takeout order and in particular the hospital share with grace, which when I show up with waffle house you know the hospital. I mean I get I get a big smile.

We can't always change the disorienting circumstances that we find ourselves and were going to be there to find those places that we are chest all over the map that we can find new ways to connect to things that settled our hearts. We may have to be a little bit creative and sorry were creative, resourceful people we caregivers are legal. Sometimes it's something as simple as no gracious case there's always pecans coming. How many of you are like go to office to get well with the cut the gray she likes with the cows and chocolate chip it, but the time she's done with it. It's more of a cake, but that's what she likes but I I I can explain it any better than that. I just went in there and during all the unsettled. This just went into a waffle house and it felt like home.

It felt comfortable. It felt like I was connected. Trace Adkins you the countries get that bagel deep voice and really like you a lot is seems to be a great guy don't know them but like a lot is music and just what I've seen of but had a great quote he said, I've always love waffle as I try to imitate of old, I could do it I could get out that low.

He's down in the basement that I'll always love waffle house is been like an oasis in the desert many times late at night after one of my concerts a great quote what can you find in your life right now. Whatever crazy this is going on that settles it just connection.

Maybe it's something as simple waffle. Maybe it's a part that you like to stop by just sit there from. I looked at the geese that there's a lot of there at the hospital they were hanging out look at whatever it is on something that connects this is hopefully kicking the speed of those might be right back over the caregiver.

The speed Rosenberger. This is the program for you as a family caregiver want to be a part of the program. If you get thoughts comments you want us to address something specifically on the show go to hopefully caregiver.com usable form. There filled out and if you want to even call you from the program. Put your number in there and will do the best we can with that will serve talk about what's on your heart and address it to the best of our abilities. Hopefully caregiver.com.

This program is for you as a family caregiver please take advantage of love. What we get to do here and I didn't have anything left to send. And there really is still no other program like that. This is the program. This is the show for the family caregivers other places may give you tips and so forth. I don't do tips not very often I speak straight to the heart of a caregiver to help us settle down a little bit so that we can live a calm or, healthier, and dare I say it a more joyful life. Go to step over to the caregiver keyboard here for a moment and I'm going to play a song you know how much I love you simply tell you first offer me tell you about this guy's name is Dr. Ray Palmer you ever heard of him ever. Dr. Ray Palmer. He was back in the 1800s.

They wrote this poem and he took it to this guy and Dr. Lowell Mason the Ray Palmer had his Dr. theology mobile Mason is Dr. music and Lopez is called the father of American church music.

He wrote a lot of great hymns that you probably know nearby got to the Blessed be the tie that binds when I survey the wondrous Cross. Isaac Watts wrote that Larry but Lowell Mason wrote that amazing tuned to me since it was because it was kind of an American tune kind of thing that he adapted for that song and when Lowell Mason heard AE Ray Palmer gave them the lyrics of a given his little notepad. He had a leather notebook or something to give it to him and he took it home and looked at it and he was like so moved and he went wrote this tune which is called Olivet, and it's the only tune that is accompanied these amazing lyrics and so I want to play this for you today to present this him is something that can sustain you during some difficult times to speak to your heart, you will know how much I love the hymns and I get so many letters and emails and text and phone calls from you all about how much you love this audience loves hymns and so I want to continue to reinforce how important they are to assist caregivers. There is text that has dust on it in churches all over America that people are just ignoring but they have such a wealth of riches to sustain us during some some very difficult times. Listen to this lyric writer while life's dark maze.

I shred and griefs around me spread, be thou my God did darkness turn today wipe sorrow tears away nor let me ever stray from the assessment system like something that you've cried out in your caregiving journey. Yes, he says it beautifully with great poetic grace in ways that I could never say II can't write very good lyrics of written quite a few songs that I do better with the music part of is all right stuff like to care to share to be there. I have great hair. You know that kinda stuff I got. I'm not a very good lyricist will evidently Ray Palmer was while life's dark maze I treated and griefs around me spread, be thou my God did darkness turn today wipe sorrow steers away nor let me ever stray from the inside out. Here's the tune that you may recognize with this. I want to play this for you. Just minutes was devoted to the caregiver keyboard as his face looks to the such an amazing two thou Lamb of Calvary, Savior divine now hear me while I pray to, guiltily, let me from this day be holy and may the rich grace impart strength to my fainting heart.

How many of you will feel like you have a fainting work today. If you put a caregiver for any length of time. You understand that concept my fainting heart this is my is is made out of rich grace impart strength to my fainting heart.

My seal inspire the pictures we'll need inspiration, as thou hast died for me. Old made my love to the pure warm in changeless the a living fire with Dr. Palmer really hit it out of the park and the last verse as well as this, when in life, transient dream with this cold solid stream show Overby role blessed Savior didn't love, fear and distrust.

Remove O'Beirne be safe above a ransom. So there are a lot of songs out there that talk about comfort and feeling in and in very introspective and kind of self-actualization in it.

All that come stuff under great cells out there so there's wonderful salt of their but these old hymns say things in a way that get right to the core because they were written out of they were trying to write a hit song they were trying to write something clever. They were struggling with something and they wanted to make it singable but relatable to the people who desperately needed something to cling to is the struggle themselves. And we owe a great did it. I look at some the things that that you see out there it in different Christian music. For example, wonderful things, but this is corporate worship.

When you sing to him like this. This is when the congregation came together and said while life's dark maze. I tread and griefs around me spread it would sing in four-part harmony in the blending of voices of the you cannot you cannot underestimate when it you cannot select George W. Bush cannot miss underestimate you cannot overestimate the importance of the corporate worship, singing of hymns together. You cannot dismiss how important it is and we gotten away from and maybe this is the only time throughout your week that you hear somebody talk about the sort of things and usually curses the silver caregivers. But this is how I do it as a caregiver.

This is how I do it I don't whether I'm going to waffle house or go to the piano I'm connecting myself to anchor myself to settle myself down if you just joining in a block. We talked about waffle house and in my love for waffles and I make no apologies for love me some waffle house and but. But our souls are so troubled and Dr. Palmer, Dr. Ray Palmer who wrote this wonderful text while life's dark days. I and griefs's.

Be thou my God.

How many of us feel like writing dark maze and griefs are spread all around us we understand darkness turn today wipe some steers away nor let me ever stray from these ourselves and if you go back and look in Psalms when David cried these things out because of the scope sentiments of these feeling Jim I did the same thing that they would constantly remind themselves or safe ground is or safe harbor is where we talked about that and in the last block of you when you tried to anchor yourself in the midst of the storm and settle yourself down so that you can think clear so that you can be a little bit more in tune so that you can better speak into the craziness that we find ourselves in this caregivers my face looks to the thou Lamb of A love this him and evidently Lowell Mason, who wrote 1600 hymns, at least the father of American church music.

A lot of times if you notice in the hymn of the have this text with a particular tuning don't do it several different to this text. My face looks up to the and this particular to that Lowell Mason wrote were never used for anything else.

He just just hand in glove made for each other because this very elegant, faintly it says this beautifully. My faith looks health Savior divine now hear me well. I pray take all my old let me from this day be holy.

I don't know who needs to hear this day. I know I need.

And I go to the Piano in the keyboard and I play the songs for myself to strengthen my own heart when gracing are in the hospital is hymns that we see dire circumstances. This is so wanted to give these to my faith except take a look at this. This is the story of Peter's wife gracing and recently Peter talk to Gracie about all the wonderful things that have emerged from her difficult journey. Take a listen Gracie when you envision doing a prosthetic limb outreach. Did you ever think the inmates would help you do that not many. When you go to the facility run by core civic and you see the faces of these inmates that are working on prosthetic limbs that you helped collect from all of the country that you put out the plea for and their disassembly sell these legs like what you have your own prosody and arms and orange everything when you see all this makes me cry because I see this on their faces and I know what it is like someplace where you can't get out without somebody else allowing you to get out the hospital. These men are so glad that they get to be doing is one thing said something good with my did you know before you became a deputy that parts of prosthetic limbs could be recycled and had no idea I thought Peg leg.

I thought a wooden legs. I never thought of titanium and carbon legs and flex the sea legs and all that. I never thought about. As you watch these inmates participate in something like this, knowing that there helping other people all providing the means for the supplies to get over there.

What is it do to you. Just on the heart level. I wish I could explain to the world. What I see in here and I wish that I can be able to come and say the this guy right here in East Africa with that. I never not feel that way out every time you know you always make me have to leave. I don't want to leave. I feel like I'm at home with them and I feel like we have a common bond that would never expected that only God could put together. Now that you've had experience with it what you think of faith-based programs. The core civic offers. I think there is absolutely awesome and I think every prisoner out there have faith-based programs because he return right at the men that are involved in this particular faith-based program and other ones like it, but I know that this one car is amazingly low rate compared that with me just has something to do with God is broken.

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