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And love of America for this is caregiver. This is Roseburg. This is show you as a family caregiver. Those of you who are putting yourself knowingly and voluntarily between the vulnerable love one.

And even worse disaster home schooled on how you stand strong her, you rest. Are you staying healthy while you take care of someone who is not the show is all about. 888-589-8840 888-589-8843 will be a part of the show. Also, you follow along and hopefully caregiver.calm website or our street, we stream the show live.

When we do it here on American family radio or Facebook page. Hopefully caregiver on Facebook. So sometimes I have a love-hate relationship with Facebook when they get it wrong or something goes squarely so we we keep going back with optimism that we can get it right so you will follow hope for the caregiver.com. I like to start off with a him because I feel like that we have lost something as a country and those views the show regularly know that this is important to what we do here. The show was to take these films and also those he was rightly know how important hymns are to you because you've expressed this to more and more and we got away from him, which has a amazing wealth of things that can help us as caregivers in the reason I do this because some of these hymns are so will structured musically and text wise that when we are going through the craziness of our life as caregivers, we can recall may be just one line 1 Frese little melody to help us reorient ourselves as we get blown off course on any given day as a caregiver, and this one today is one that was this incredibly meaningful to me. It was it was is the first song on my CD and I put this out themselves for the caregiver and I love this. I've been playing it for a lifetime.

But there's a reason I did this because I shared the song somebody called me this week that we have phone call go through some pretty rough times and will talk about that just a minute but I will set the table you with this particular him so I will walk over here to the caregiver keyboard and just to let you know that I cannot play this in the key of D flat. Some people get all worked up about. But I put a capo on the piano now, but I love the CMC.

If you notice him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him him hello it is a great human. I shared this with the woman who called me. She resets me a text we have a phone conversation this week is going through a very difficult time and I want to explain something on the front in here this show is never meant to be a commentary on the political world and everything else the show was meant to sit down either at the kitchen table with a fellow caregiver or at the piano with a fellow caregiver and help us calm down a little bit so that we can make better decisions.

I don't have any pretext of trying to be anything other than what I am is just a caregiver who has watched someone suffer for 35 years and has lived to play a song about it, has lived to laugh about it, has lived to rejoice about it is live to live through it.

And sometimes we we have a a lot of fun on here with get.

I love comedy more than most and frustrated standup comedian. But I also understand the journey of tears that so many caregivers have and I want to speak to that with clarity in a way that a fellow caregivers understates if you're not a caregiver.

If you're not walking through anything like that, you're probably not get a lot of the show. That's okay because I know the audience that is struggling that wants to be able to have some kind of solid ground. Is there watching somebody they love spiral and and suffer and struggle and act out and in all the things that go on with watching somebody with a chronic impairment. Whether it's chronic pain, whether it's autism, whether it's Alzheimer's, whether it's addiction it there so many different kinds of chronic impairments, but there's always a caregiver.

How do you help that caregiver. What use states that caregiver to to speak to them in the midst of their distress and that brings me to a bubble if you know that some 888-589-8840 888-589-8840 that brings you to let her get from woman after the show last week and she's going through a brutal journey of caring for both parents with Alzheimer's. But she was sexually molested by her father and and she intimated her mother and now she's taking care of with Alzheimer's and these are painful realities and edits more common than you realize you have the child I was grown up. That is been abused by parents, whether sexually, verbally or physically, or all three. And they're in a position where they're taking care of this aging love one with unresolved issues and and deep deep wounds and their struggling with this journey and I encounter this sadly all too regularly and I know that when.when I speak this and I'm not a counselor I'm not a trained mental health professional. I'm not a pastor I have great here, but I'm not a preacher and I I'd know that I have to be very careful in what I say and what I what I speak into the situations and all I can do is point people to the Savior. I look at this. My job here on the show is very akin to the paramedics who helped save my wife when she was laying bleeding by the side of the road back in 1983 I wasn't there. I didn't know her.

At the time I met her cup couple years later and they did not. I've heard all the stores with affect.

Some came to visit her in the hospital later many times later, but they didn't try to tell her how to live her life. They didn't shame her from what being out there the road. What I would you do what was met with you. This is middle the date she fell asleep at the wheels and tires study and everything else and that she just drove off the road and they just kept saying over and over to hang on to get you to help you were here were here to show that's what the song is about 80 5898. This is the show the family caregiver. That is, my wife said he'll give you hope for your sorrow. Talk about today. This is a woman who understands that as she is facing a yet another very difficult journey for her surgically speaking that I can Canada be your 81st and this is what she sings and she's singing this to you in choosing this to me and we can draw strength from that because that's that's how we do that we comfort one another with the same comfort that we ourselves have been comforted by the God of all comfort and today I wanted this song to play for you in the last segment.

If you know it. 888-589-8840 888-5898 40 it was the song that came to mind when I'm talking to this woman who reached out to me who was struggling so mightily take taking care of her parents.

For with Alzheimer's and she was sexually abused and by these parents and that she's taking care of and you can't you can't counter somebody with that level of trauma and just say what God loves you and pat him on the back and sit them on and there there now. None of this is this is a gaping devastating series of ones this will mistake and now she's taking care of these people and so I quoted the lyrics from the see of this is probably the hips. Because these hymns have wrestled with these very painful things input in way that we can understand and recall to Armand you'll in limitations. Jeremiah the prophet was saying.

I remember the wormwood and the gall you could just yield the visceral angst and and heartache that Jeremiah was feeling it one point he said that he had to prophesy because it was too painful for him not to, but it was easy was just he was called the weeping prophet, but he sits in the limitation go back and read in chapter 3 to 7 of the wormwood and the gall. When these are very visceral words. He said, but this I recall the mind and therefore I have hope and he anchored himself in Scripture. Great is thy faithfulness before we get to him from, and so when we have these these moments of our lives and and then in these moments may last a long time. There is a point where we have to anchor ourselves in something or be anchored in something that will will help us back to the highway if you will.

When we get so bogged down and you think about those paramedics rescuing Gracie. There have that they get to use the they had it took about an hour and have to extracted from the car. Her legs were crushed and pushed so that her feet were over her shoulders and she's bleeding out that that the card caught on fire and and it was it was very very it what it was just as horrific wreck and to each one of these paramedics.

They all said the same thing to. We have the report of annual hang on what to get you to safety. Hang on, were here were here were here hang out. The lingo don't give up, do we say that to each other as believers when you're going through what you're going through is that something you regularly hear from believers. Hang on hang on is here to get to safety or do you here just go live Hallmark card type of catchphrases that we use in the church when I started doing the show, I knew that we had to do more on the show, and when I speak to people privately after the show, I knew that I cannot just that I want to receive. Things like that. I want to hear people say that to me platitudes and and pablum people offer. Well, God sovereign patch on the back and send you the Odyssey has a plan for Gracie.

She wouldn't be here.

I want to hear that.

I bet you don't either. I need to be anchored in something that's going to to still my soul and and help me make better decisions that this process a deed to be directed to safety.

Just like you'd so that's what I did these hymns and that's why did this particular him and if you know it.

I want you to call me and tell me about it and tell me what's important to you. 888-589-8840 those you missed it here just the course of action under the first lot because that's where you hear the title of you know that 1-888-589-8840 wouldn't go to the phone lines right now, this is Kelly in Arkansas, Kelly, good morning. Are you feeling right right. Finally, where you work. I believe that Hale most wonderful words of lot, no close not yet. That's that's one of the wonderful words of but that's a great would just one of my all-time favorites as well. Kelly so thanks you, thank you for taking a stab at the have a what you got on your mind today. I am a caregiver. Monsanto suffered from drugs and alcohol. I have got AND I'M WATCHING PEOPLE IN MY CHURCH THAT ARE CAREGIVERS IN MY GRANDMOTHER WAS A CAREGIVER FOR 13 YEARS SO YOUR SHOWS BEEN A REAL BLESSING. THE MIGHTY COUNTY KEEP ME THINKING ABOUT BUYING FOR OUTLAY AND GUIDING ME IN HAWAII. I BELIEVE IT'S JUST I CAN'T DESCRIBE WHAT A BLESSING IT IS TO HEAR YOUR STORIES AND HEAR THE PEOPLE I MEAN IT'S JUST AWESOME AWESOME PRICE BUILDER AND ENCOURAGEMENT TO MAKE WILL KELLY I APPRECIATE THAT VERY MUCH.

I SET OUT TO DO THIS FOR YOUR SITUATION JUST FOR YOU.

I DIDN'T KNOW YOU BUT I SET OUT TO DO BECAUSE OUT. I NEEDED TO. I FELT THIS URGENCY TO TO SPEAK TO CAREGIVERS IN A WAY THEY COULD UNDERSTAND AND HAVE UP AND PROVIDE A PLACE WHERE THEY CAN CALL IN AND JUST SHARE WITH SEVERAL THEIR HEART IS NOT A WRONG ANSWER.

YOU NOT DOING IT THE WRONG WAY, THING. I'M NOT HERE TO TO SCOLD OR TO ADVISE I'M HERE TO JUST SIT DOWN WITH YOU COUPLE COFFEE.

LET'S TALK ABOUT THIS AND SEE HOW YOU'RE FEELING AND THEN LET'S GO TO THE WORD OF GOD AND SEE WHAT WHAT SCRIPTURE SAYS ABOUT AN IT'S WERE NOT WERE NOT HIP AND COOL HERE, WHICH IS BEAT UP PEOPLE WHO ARE CARING FOR SOMEONE AND WE WANT TO BE STRONGER AND HEALTHIER, AND SO THANK YOU FOR THOSE KIND WORDS TELL ME HOW YOU FEELING TODAY WITH ALL THIS WALLACE GOING OUT WITH YOUR SON, YOUR NEPHEW HAPPENING MARC ALONG THE RIGHT HEART RATE AND YOU CAN SEE GOD WORKING YOU KNOW ALL CITED PEOPLE CITED PEOPLE.

I DON'T REALLY UNDERSTAND KELLER IN THE FIGHT LIKE YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT BUT I'M WATCHING PEOPLE AT MY CHURCH IN AN AROUND IN MY FAMILY MEMBERS TO ANSWER ENCOURAGING ONE PEOPLE AMAZED THEY'RE NOT LOCKED THEIR LOCK IN THERE WITH YOU AND VERIFY THE FIGHT AND AND SOMETIMES YOU DON'T HAVE TO SAY A WORD. YOU DON'T JUST WELL AND INVESTED IN OVERNIGHT TESTING USED TO SAY THAT WOULDN'T PREACH THE GOSPEL ALWAYS AND IF NECESSARY USE WORDS AND THEN HANS CHRISTIAN ANDERSON SAID, WHERE WORDS FAIL MUSIC SPEAKS AND THAT'S WHY DO HYMNS ON THE SHOW. THIS LED TO THE MUSIC THAT I DO BECAUSE WE DON'T ALWAYS HAVE THE WORD COMING YES THE SCRIPTURE IS THERE AN END, BUT IF YOU GO BACK AND LOOK AT JOB 213 WHEN MY FAVORITE VERSES IN SCRIPTURE JOB SITUATION WAS SO HORRIFIC AS FRAN SAT THERE FOR SEVEN DAYS AND DIDN'T SAY A WORD AND I THINK THAT'S THE FOUNDATION FOR WEARING THE JEWISH WORLD IS CALLED THE SITTING SHIVA AND THAT IS WIN-WIN WHEN SOMEBODY HAS IS GOING THROUGH MORNING AND AND THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE THAT THE COMMUNITY THE FRIENDS OF THE FAMILY. COME AND SIT WITH THEM BUT THEY DON'T INITIATE THE CONVERSATION. THEY JUST SIT WITH AND JUST BE AN AND WE DON'T DO THAT IN OUR CULTURE AND CONSISTENTLY AND OR ENOUGH AND AND THIS IS WHAT WERE TRYING TO DO IS LEARN TO JUST WE DON'T HAVE TO FIX IT. WE DON'T HAVE TO GIVE SOME KIND A GLIB ANSWER. SOMETIMES WE CAN JUST MOURN WITH THOSE WHO MOURN AND GRIEVE WITH THOSE WHO GRIEVE FOR YOU AND I CANNOT SAY I'M MORE THAT ALL THE TIME FROM A LOT OF PEOPLE AND AND YOU SHOULD ALWAYS IS WHERE I GET MY ENCOURAGEMENT FROM AND I'M LEARNING YOU KNOW WITH SLITS. I AM TOO OLD.

I AM TO KELLY FOR FOLLOWING GOD'S PLAN AND IF THEY OCCUR IN SOME POSITIVE AND UPLIFTING. YOU KNOW, BECAUSE THERE'S GUYS THAT ARE JUST HOW YEAH THERE ARE AND YOU YOU GOT TO BE A LEADER TO BOTH THE NEPHEW AND HIS SON NOW AND THERE ARE DAYS THAT ARE TOUGH KELLY AND IN THAT YOU'RE DOING IT, AND IN THIS IS THIS IS WHERE WE DRAW STRENGTH FROM IS THE WORD OF GOD AND I'M GOING TO JUMP ON SOME OTHER CAUSE HERE WE GOT A HOPEFUL BUNCH OF FOLKS WAITING ON THIS, BUT KELLY I WANT YOU KNOW I APPRECIATE YOU CALL YOU.

YOU LISTEN YOU CALLING TIME YOU WANT OKAY ONE CAREGIVER TO ANOTHER. THIS IS WHAT WE DO AND I WANT YOU KNOW HOW MUCH IT MEANS THAT YOU TOOK THE TIME TO CALL THIS MORNING AND WHAT YOU THINK OF THE SHOW. I REALLY DO APPRECIATE THAT KELLY, THANK YOU VERY MUCH. TELL ME IN ARKANSAS, GOOD MORNING.

YOU KNOW THIS SONG YET.

I KNOW THAT VERY WELL. NEAR THE HEART OF GOD IN THE GRACE OF WHAT YOU GOT IT RIGHT THERE THAT A GREAT SONG AND I STUMBLED ON YOUR SHOW. QUITE BY ACCIDENT. I GET THAT A LOT. TOMMY YEAH I STUMBLED ON YOUR SHOW, BY ACCIDENT, IT WELL AND YOU KNOW IT, THERE'S NO GREAT NO GREAT MOLECULE THAT YOU GOT THE GOD OF ORDER SO I ACTUALLY GET BUGGED BY ACCIDENT BUT I AM NOT A CAREGIVER AT THE TIME I DID MY PARENT APPROACH HAVING A GATE LEAVING THIS WORLD. GADDY WAS IN HOSPICE CARE FOR THE MONTH EIGHT.

HE WAS VERY PLEASANT. IT WOULD GET THERE WITH BREAKFAST. NO FIVE-MINUTE BUYER ARE YOU ARE I CLEANING THE AUDIT BY BIT LATER WE CAN HAVE LUNCH IN OUR AND HE DIDN'T HAVE MUCH AND AND AND AND DEATH AND I YEAH I GOT YOU AND I WILL AND ONLY WILL THE ONLY LYRIC ACTUALLY INTERMITTENT INSTRUMENT LIKE I DON'T ALERT WELL, BUT I WAS RIGHT. MISSIONARY BAPTIST CHURCH WE FIND THE HEART OF GOD ALL THE TIME BUT OH MY GOODNESS. THE WOMAN DID YOUR TALK ABOUT IT. YOU'RE GIVING COUNSEL TO YOU KNOW A PLACE OF QUIET REST WHERE SIN CANNOT BOWL LAST.

THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT I GAVE IT TO TOMMY. THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT I GAVE TO AND THAT I YOU HANG ONTO THE BRAKES ONLY. WE GOT UP, GOT A HEARTBREAKING GO TO THE BOTTOM OF THE HOUR. HERE AND YOU ARE EXACTLY RIGHT.

THAT IS, THAT IS WHY TEXT LIST. THIS IS WHAT IS SO SCARED TO GIVE THIS TALK WITH TOM IN ARKANSAS ABOUT A MISSING FISH WITH THE SOUND OF HIS NAME IS PETER ROSENBERGER.

WE HOPE YOU ENJOY THE PODCAST WE DO SEVERAL THINGS WITH THIS PODCAST.

CERTAINLY WE AIR OUR SHOW THAT IS BROADCAST ON A COUPLE HUNDRED STATIONS EACH WEEK AND PUT THAT ON THE PODCAST BUT WE ALSO DO SPECIAL INTERVIEWS AND BONUS MATERIALS ALL KINDS OF THINGS TO HELP STRENGTHEN THE FAMILY CAREGIVER BUILDING UP PARKS ALL AROUND THE WORLD WERE DOWNLOADED OVER 100 COUNTRIES AND WE WOULD WELCOME YOUR HELP IN DOING THIS BETTER AND MORE YOU WANT TO HOPE CAREGIVER.COM/GIVING AND DONATE ONLINE TODAY IT'S NONPROFIT GRACE NOT FOUND IN MANY MANY YEARS AGO STANDING WITH HOPE IS THE PARENT COMPANY. WE HAVE A PROSTHETIC LIMB OUTREACH TO YOUR GRACE. TALK ABOUT.

QUITE OFTEN WE HAVE THIS SHOW FOR THE WOUNDED AND THOSE WHO CARE FOR THE CERTAIN YOUR TEXT HELPLESS. THIS BETTER LIVES ON YOUR HARD CAREGIVER.COM/LET'S GO HELP STRENGTHEN FAMILY CAREGIVERS. 888589589 SHOW COME TO THE TABLE COME TO THE PLACE WERE SINNERS, THAT FREE DO YOU SEE A THEME THROUGHOUT ALL SCRIPTURE WE SEE IN COME THERE'S A YOU COME UNTO ME ALL YOU WE HAVEN'T LIVED LATE THERE.

THERE'S SO MUCH DISTRESS HERE. COME OVER HERE AND THAT SOMETIMES PHYSICALLY AND THEN THAT'S ABOUT BUDDY SPEAKING SPIRITUALLY. COME OVER HERE AND THAT'S WHAT THIS HIM THAT WE DID TODAY NEAR TO THE HEART OF GOD. THERE IS A PLACE OF QUIET REST NEAR TO THE HEART OF GOD.

A PLACE WHERE SIN CANNOT MOLEST NEAR TO THE HEART OF GOD, OH JESUS, BLESSED REDEEMER SET.

HE WAS AGAIN HE WAS AT A PLACE THAT WHERE NOT HE WAS SENT TO A PLACE THAT WE ARE FROM THE HEART OF GOD HOLD US TO WAIT BEFORE THE NEAR TO THE HEART OF GOD. WE ARE SEPARATED AND AND AND THIS THIS WORLD IT IS IS BENT AWAY FROM THE HEART OF GOD AND WE CANNOT GET THERE ON HER OWN SO HE CAME TO US AND AND ARE OUR HEARTS ARE TROUBLED IN THIS WORLD, BUT THERE IS A PLACE WHERE THEY'RE NOT. AND THAT IS NEAR TO HIS HEART AND TOMMY FROM ARKANSAS CALLED IN TOMMY. ARE YOU IS YOUR ONLY WAY TO FISH AND RIGHT NOW I'M ON MY WAY RIGHT NOW HOMER'S WEDDING OF FISH FOR I AM GOING TO FISH ALL RAINBOW TROUT AND ANYTHING ELSE IN THE RIVER. THEY WANT TO BUY. I LIVE OUT HERE IN MONTANA WHERE ALL I HAVE TO OH MY GOSH WE HAVE QUITE A BIT OF FISH THAT GOES ON OUT HERE WHERE WE END YEAH I'M NOT.

YEAH I DREAM OF THE BITTERROOT. SOMEDAY YOU KNOW WHAT I LIVE. I LIVE IN THE BITTERROOT AND I NEED YOU, WILL HAVE A AFR RETREAT OUT HERE AS I WOULD TELL IT. ALL THE FOLKS AT AMERICAN RADIO THEY THEY ALL WANT HAVE THE BIG RETREAT. I HEREBY PLACE IT IS POSSIBLE WHY DO YOU NEED TO BRING ALL YOUR TRUCKS AND GUNS YOUR FISHING POLES FOR AFR RETREAT, BUT THEY DON'T CARE ABOUT ME. THEY JUST WANT TO BE OUT HERE FOR. SHE DID HUNT DOWN RIGHT WHAT WE GET IS IT WE ONLY HAVE WE ONLY HAVE TROUT HERE IN ARKANSAS AND AND OKLAHOMA BUT OUT OF THE DAM. I MEAN, IN THE COLD WATER, NO DAM AND JALOPY THE WATERS OF THE COCKPIT. I AM GOING TO WATER THE LOWER ILLINOIS PAINKILLER DAM IN OKLAHOMA BUT I WHAT YOU DO. EVEN THE LITTLE NEGLECT THAT YOU GAVE THE FIRST ARKANSAN THAT CALLED THAT WAS GREAT.

I LOVE DAD YOU'RE DOING REALLY BEING. I LOVED IT, BUT BUT WILL THANK YOU PROF. FOR THAT. JOHN ARNDT, WHO WAS STILL STAY IN TOUCH WITH THESE OVER 80 YEARS OLD IN NASHVILLE, TENNESSEE, AND HOW STILT STILL SCHOOLS ME. YOU RECORDING OUT THERE ABOUT THOSE WRITING YOU COULD GO OUT ANYWHERE WHERE THEY WERE WERE MUSIC IS SOLD STREAM TO DOWNLOAD AMAZON AND ITUNES. ALL THAT IS CALLED SONGS FOR THE CAREGIVER. THANK YOU FOR ASKING ABOUT THAT AND IF YOU WANT THE. THE CD OF THIS NEGLECT BY WEBSITE.

THERE'S A CHRISTIAN BOOKSTORE NASHVILLE. THAT'S WERE THE ONLY PLACE RELATIVE CDS BE SOLD AND YOU CAN GO OUT THERE TO THEM IT'S LOGOS BOOKSTORE NASHVILLE, TN 61529 753 88 THEY'LL BE GLAD TO SEE IF YOU WANT AN INSULT. THAT'S ALL OUT THE WEBSITE. HOPEFULLY CAREGIVER.COM UNDER MY MUSIC TAB IN THE GRACES GOT HER CD, AND SO FORTH. IT'S A BIG PART OF THE WHAT WE DO IS CAREGIVER. SO LISTEN I WILL LET YOU GET TO FISH AND TIE AND ANCHOR IN AURORA INVITING HER TO THE TABLE WILL AND I WERE QUITE WEBLIKE AND THANK YOU VERY MUCH. BLESS YOU TO LET'S US GO TO GRACE IN TEXAS GRACE GOOD MORNING, HOW ARE YOU FEELING MORNING THAT HOW YOU FEEL.

GRACE NOT GOOD, NOT TOO GOOD WHAT'S GOING ON WITH YOU. I HAVE BEEN A CAREGIVER. MY MOM THAT I TRIED CONCRETE SO I THINK I WENT TO A CADILLAC IS SUCKING WHEN I CAME BACK TO ALL LIKE THAT. DUNKEL OF YOU AND IS NOT DOING TOO GOOD. SO HERE LOOKS LIKE MAYBE I SHOULD HAVE BEEN GAY GETTING ME AS YOUR MOTHER LIVES IN AFRICA WHERE NASSAU. NIGERIA WE HAVE WE TREATED WE TREAT PATIENTS IN NIGERIA OF TREATED PATIENTS IN NIGERIA THROUGH THE PROSTHETIC LIMB OUTREACH. WE HAVE OVER IN GHANA, BUT WE HAVE PATIENTS THAT COME FROM NIGERIA AND I WILL TELL YOU THAT GRACE. AT FIRST LOVE YOUR NAME IS ONE OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL NAMES IN THE WORLD. MY WIFE'S NAME IS GRACE AND I LOVE THAT NAMES MOST BEAUTIFUL WORD IN THE WORLD I THINK IS GRACE AND I THINK IT GRACE. I CERTAINLY UNDERSTAND HOW DIFFICULT THIS MUST BE TO BE A WORLD AWAY FROM YOUR MOTHER AND I KNOW THAT YOU FEEL GUILTY ON MARCH CADILLAC AND IN THE LIFE AND MIGHT NOT TAKE CARE OF THE COMBAT LIGHT. WILL IN ENGLAND AT THIS POINT IF YOU CANNOT RETURN BACK TO NIGERIA TO TAKE CARE FOR. IT'S ONE OF THOSE THINGS WHERE THIS IS GOING TO BE A VERY DIFFICULT PLACE FOR YOU AND I WOULD ASK THAT YOU REMEMBER YOUR NAME, YOUR NAME IS GRACE YOUR NAME IS NOT GUILT IT'S GRACE. AND IF YOU'RE DOING THE BEST THAT YOU KNOW TO DO MY THAT NIGHT AT A CALL YOU TROUT ARE YOU TRYING TO GO BACK OVER THERE I CAN'T.

I JUST CAME BACK AND HAD TO TAKE CARE OF A SINGLE MOM GRACE YOUR CHILDREN LEAD YOU. YOUR CHILDREN NEED YOU. YOU HAVE YOUR MOTHER HAS FAMILY BACK THERE AND I KNOW IT'S VERY DIFFICULT FOR YOU BUT YOUR CHILDREN NEED YOU AS WELL AND YOU, YOUR MOTHER HAS A SAVIOR. YOUR MOTHER HAS A SAVIOR YOU'RE NOT THAT SAVIOR CHILDREN, BUT ALL WELL AND WE ALL NEED TO HEAR THIS BECAUSE IT'S VERY DIFFICULT WITH TORN WHEN YOU'RE TORN BETWEEN TAKING CARE OF THOSE LIKE YOUR MOTHER AND SO FORTH. AND IT'S IT'S VERY DIFFICULT TO DO THIS, YOUR CHILDREN, HOW OLD ARE YOUR CHILDREN LIKE HEAVEN ARE YOU IN A POSITION NOW ARE THEY LIVING INDEPENDENTLY OF YOU NOW KNOW EVERYTHING OKAY. GOING TO SCHOOL WALKING WILL FAIRLY SOON THEY SHOULD DO IF THIS 2720 THEY SHOULD BE ABLE TO FUNCTION A LITTLE BIT BETTER BY THEMSELVES AND THEY CAN YOU'VE RAISED THEM AND NOW THEY CAN STAND ON THEIR OWN 2 FEET AND MAYBE YOU CAN LOOK AT GOING BACK TO NIGERIA IN CARING FOR YOUR MOTHER AND LETTING YOUR CHILDREN OUT. IF THEY'RE NOT LITTLE CHILDREN. THAT'S ONE THING BUT HAVING BUT SINCE THEY'RE GROWN. MAYBE IT'S A SITUATION WHERE YOU COULD PIVOT BACK TO NIGERIA AND SPILL A BIT MORE TIMES.

MOTHER COME BACK TO WORK.

I HAVE PART-TIME JOB THAT YOU GOT MY FAMILY AND I DON'T MAKE MUCH LIKE PUTTING UP THEY'LL UNDERSTAND AND YOU HAVE SIBLINGS IN AFRICA WITH YOUR MOTHER CORRECT HAVE BEEN SO I HAVE TO PAY SOMEBODY TO CARE THE WHITE WIRE USE. DO YOU KNOW WHY YOUR SIBLINGS AREN'T HELPING. I HAVE I KNOW HOW AND I SAT BACK BACK CANNOT CANNOT CANNOT CAN YOU – STRUGGLING BUT IT'S LIKE THEY'VE BEEN FIGHTING NO DOUBT THAT PLEASE Print OUT MY NIGHT BEFORE. I THINK THAT I CAME ABOUT BECAUSE OF MY WILL, YOU'RE HERE NOW AND THIS IS WHERE WE ARE AIMING THIS AT THEIR SISTERS THERE SO MANY DIFFERENT FACETS OF THIS MATURE WORLD AWAY.

THERE'S NOT MUCH YOU CAN DO AND I KNOW THAT YOUR GRIEVING OVER THIS, BUT UNLESS YOUR WILLING TO GO BACK INTO THE SITUATION. TAKE CARE OF YOUR MOTHER. YOU COULD HAVE TO WATCH FROM A DISTANCE AND TRY TO SEND AS MUCH RESOURCE TO HER AS YOU CAN TO CARE FOR HER.

IN THE ABSENCE OF ANYBODY ELSE DOING IT AND I KNOW THAT'S PAINFUL FOR YOU AND HOPEFULLY MAYBE YOU CAN.

YOUR SISTERS ARE YOUR BROTHERS CAN BEING ABLE TO RECONCILE AND START TO STEP UP UNDER THE RESOURCES ARE SLIM AND PARTICULAR WITH COVERT AND EVERYTHING ELSE. HOWEVER, YOUR MOTHER'S CARE HOW OLD IS YOUR MOTHER.

IF I AND YOUR ISSUE INVOLVED IN THE CHURCH THERE ARE NO QUICK When I TRAVEL BY NIGHT THAT WHEN I SAW ACTUALLY PLACED ON WHAT OPENING SHE FELT THAT I COULD SEE. I THINK 100 KIII DON'T WANT TO LIVE IN ABUNDANCE FOR DIABETIC THEY GIVE THAT CONVENIENT CAN'T IT NOT WHAT THEY ACTUALLY NEED TARGETING NOT TO HAVE. I DON'T FEEL LIKE MAKING SIMILAR AT MCKAY PALACE TO LICK, INDIA, ITALY, K CAME BACK TO COMPLAIN ABOUT HUNTING THAT I DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS SOMETHING DEEP INSIDE INSIDE INSIDE BECAUSE BILL IS NOT GOING OUTSIDE BUT I WILL NEED A CHANGE BACK! THIS She ATE THE DICTATION ONE MAN MAY BE PR HANDBOOK STAND OUT LIKE I THOUGHT I GOT THERE, INDICATING THAT GRACE THE IMPACT IT SOUNDS IT SOUNDS LIKE SHE NEEDS SERIOUS MEDICAL CARE. BUT YOU'RE A WORLD AWAY AND SO LET'S SAY LET'S HOLD ON JUST A SECOND. GRACE IS WERE GOING UP GOING UP AGAINST A BREAK HERE, BUT IT SOUNDS LIKE, THOUGH SHE DOES NEED SERIOUS MEDICAL CARE. BEST THING AT THIS POINT, IT SOUNDS LIKE IS FOR YOU TO STAY ENGAGED EVEN FROM A DISTANCE, WHETHER SENDING RESOURCES OR CONTACTING SOMEBODY IN HER TOWN WHO CAN HELP WITH THESE THINGS IS YOU CIRCUIT IF YOU WILL UNTIL YOU'RE ABLE TO GET BACK. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO TRY TO COURT WITH ON THE GROUND. HAVE YOU EVER STRUGGLED TO TRUST GOD WHEN LOUSY THINGS HAPPEN TO YOU. I'M GRACIE ROSENBERGER IN 1983 I EXPERIENCED A HORRIFIC CAR ACCIDENT LEADING 80 SURGERIES IN BOTH LEGS AND BECAME I QUESTIONED WHY GOD ALLOWED SOMETHING SO BRUTAL TO HAPPEN TO ME. BUT OVER TIME, MY QUESTIONS CHANGED AND I DISCOVERED COURAGE TO TRUST GOD THAT UNDERSTANDING ALONG WITH AN APPRECIATION FOR QUALITY PROSTHETIC LIMBS LED ME TO ESTABLISH STANDING WITH HELP MORE THAN A DOZEN YEARS WE BEEN WORKING WITH THE GOVERNMENT OF GHANA AND WEST AFRICA, EQUIPPING AND TRAINING LOCAL WORKERS TO BUILD AND MAINTAIN QUALITY PROSTHETIC LIMBS FOR THEIR OWN PEOPLE ON A REGULAR BASIS.

WE PURCHASED SHIP EQUIPMENT AND SUPPLIES AND WITH THE HELP OF INMATES IN A TENNESSEE PRISON. WE ALSO RECYCLE PARTS FROM DONATED LAMBS ALL — IS TO POINT OTHERS TO CHRIST. THE SOURCE OF MY HELP AND STRENGTH THESE VISIT STANDING WITH HELP.COM TO LEARN MORE AND PARTICIPATE IN LIFTING OTHERS STANDING WITHOUT.COM. I'M GRACIE. I AM STAINING WITH HELP THIS SHOW AS A FAMILY CAREGIVER ARE GLAD TO HAVE 89 8840 SOFTLY GRACE IN TEXAS.

WE ARE ABOUT THAT GRACE. THE LAST THOUGHT IS YOU KNOW YOU LIVE A WORLD AWAY FROM YOUR MOTHER AND I KNOW THIS IS A VERY TROUBLING SITUATION YOU GOT SIBLINGS WHO WERE NOT CARING FOR HER IN THE WAY THAT YOU WOULD LIKE AND YOU'RE NOT ABLE TO DO THINGS YOU GOTTA WORK HERE YOU CABLE HERE YOU GET MARRIED YOU CAME OVER HERE AND YOU'VE RAISED YOUR CHILDREN NOW, AND THE DECISION POINT YOU HAVE TO MAKE IS OKAY LIKE TO GO BACK TO NIGERIA AND TAKE CARE OF MY MOTHER MYSELF AND MY GOING TO COORDINATE WITH SOMEONE WHO CAN HELP HER IN MY STEAD AND MY GOING TO CONFRONT MY SIBLINGS. IF THEY'RE UNWILLING TO DO IT AND IF THEY'RE UNABLE TO DO IT IN MY GOING TO PROVIDE RESOURCES FOR THEM AND THAT THOSE OF THE DECISION POINT YOU HAVE TO MAKE. THEY'RE NOT EASY.

NONE OF THEM ARE EASY DECISIONS AND I AND I I HURT WITH YOU ON THAT AND I'M SORRY THAT YOU'RE IN THE SITUATION WHERE THIS IS OCCURRING, BUT YOU YOU GOT THE BEST SHOT AT MAKING THE RIGHT AND HELP WITH THE HEALTHY TO SIT ON. OTHERS ARE RIGHT OR WRONG DECISION, BUT I THINK THERE'S A HEALTHIER PATH FOR YOU THROUGH THIS, BUT IT STARTS WITH YOU SETTLING DOWN AGAIN RECOGNIZING YOUR NAME IS GRACE, NOT GUILT AND LETTING GO OF THAT AND UNDERSTAND. OKAY, HERE'S WHERE I AM NOW. WHAT IS THE WAS THE PATH FORWARD AND YOU CAN SIT DOWN HERE WITH YOUR PASTOR INCIDENT WITH THE COUNSELOR SOMEBODY AND HELP SORT THIS THROUGH. LOOK AT YOUR RESOURCES. SEE WHAT YOU CAN DO TO HELP YOUR MOTHER FROM A DISTANCE THEY HELP YOUR SIBLINGS TAKE CARE OF YOUR MOTHER FROM A DISTANCE. COORDINATE WITH PEOPLE THAT YOU KNOW THEY'RE IN NIGERIA WHO CAN HELP HER OR YOU CAN MAKE THE DECISION TO GO BACK TO NIGERIA FOR AN EXTENDED AMOUNT OF TIME TO HELP HER. NONE OF THESE ARE TO BE EASY AND SO IT'S IMPORTANT THAT YOU APPROACH THESE DECISIONS WITH AS MUCH CLARITY AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN TO MAKE A DECISION THAT'S GOING TO BE THE MOST EFFECTIVE FOR YOU AND WHAT YOU HAVE TO TO SPEND WITH YOUR RESOURCES AND SO FORTH.

IN THIS SITUATION. A LOT OF PEOPLE FIND THEMSELVES IN WITH HER CAREGIVING. FROM A DISTANCE WEATHERS ALL THE WAY ACROSS THE WORLD AND NIGERIA OR IF IT'S ACROSS THE COUNTRY OR WHATEVER AND YOU CAN'T JUST UPROOT YOUR JOB AND YOUR FAMILY. EVERYTHING BUT YOUR TORN BETWEEN THESE THESE RESPONSIBILITIES AND THESE OBLIGATIONS THAT YOU FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE AND THESE ARE QUESTIONS THAT NEED TO BE ASKED AND ANSWERED IN YOUR HEART AND THEN YOU MAKE THE DECISION TO THE BEST OF YOUR ABILITIES AND TRUST THAT GOD WILL GIVE YOU THE CLARITY AS YOU MOVE THROUGH THIS. THAT WORD IS A LAMP UNTO MY FEET, NOT A SEARCHLIGHT SO THERE'S NOT GOING TO BE UP HEY DO THIS THIS AND THIS AND THIS AND YOU'LL BE OKAY.

NO, THESE ARE THESE ARE YOUR PAST AND YOU GOING TO HAVE TO SIT DOWN WITH MAYBE SOME GOOD COUNSEL AROUND YOU TO HELP YOU GUIDE YOU AS YOU MAKE YOUR DECISION ON WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO DO IT MAY BE A MULTIPART DECISION MAY NOT BE SOMETHING YOU CAN DO THIS FINAL DECISION ONE MOMENT OKAY I'M GOING TO GO BACK TO NIGERIA WELL OKAY THAT'S A BIG DECISION SO THAT YOU CAN MAKE TO DO THIS IN STAGES OR PHASES GO BACK AND GET TO REMEMBER WHAT YOUR NAME IS YOUR NAME IS GRACE AND GIVE YOURSELF SOME GRACE. GIVE YOUR MOTHER GRACE. GIVE YOUR FAMILY GRACE AND RECOGNIZE OKAY THIS IS A VERY BIG SET OF CIRCUMSTANCES. LET'S LAID OUT A PIECE OF PAPER WAS LOOK AT THE PROS AND CONS FOR ALL THESE THINGS RUN IT BY SOME PEOPLE THAT YOU TRUST AND THEN MAKE THE CALL AND BE AT PEACE WITH THAT AND TRUST THAT GOD IS GUIDING YOUR STEPS THROUGH THIS STEPS OF A RIGHTEOUS MAN ARE ORDERED BY THE LORD SCRIPTURE SAYS, AND THAT INCLUDES YOU AS WELL. GRACE, SO I HOPE THAT GIVES YOU SOME DIRECTION FOR TODAY THAT THAT YOU'RE NOT HAVING TO FLAIL AROUND THIS THING THAT YOU CAN START LOOKING AT THIS THING AND CHIPPING WHAT YOU DIDN'T GET HERE OVERNIGHT. YOU'RE KNOCKING TO GET THROUGH THIS OVERNIGHT. THIS IS A MULTI-DECADE ISSUE THAT IS GOING ON.

AND SO IT'S GOING TO TAKE SOME TIME TO SORT THROUGH THIS IN YOUR GO TO GET TO THE PLACE THAT YOU WOULD IDEALLY LIKE BUT BUT YOU CAN MAKE PROGRESS THROUGH IT. I LET'S GO TO SHELLEY IN NORTH CAROLINA. SHELLEY GOOD MORNING, HOW ARE YOU FEELING YOU KNOW I'M ALRIGHT I I I SHARE THE FRUSTRATION OF OF OUR LAST CALL WITH GRACE OF HER OF HER DISCOMFORT WITH THIS. I YOU KNOW AND YOU KNOW YOU WANT TO JUST REACH THROUGH THE PHONE LINES AND DO MORE BUT SOMETIMES THAT THAT THAT IT IS WHAT IT IS AND ACCEPTING REALITY FOR ME AS A CAREGIVER, EXCEPT THANK YOU FOR ASKING ABOUT ME BUT FOR ME AS A CAREGIVER. I THINK ONE OF THE BIGGEST ISSUES I'VE HAD TO DEAL WITH THIS, EXCEPT THAT THIS IS WHAT IT IS.

IT IS WHAT IT IS AND NOT WHAT I WANTED TO BE WHAT IT IS SO. BUT THANK YOU FOR ASKING. ON THAT WHATEVER WAS GOING ON WITH YOU AND MY MOM NOT WITH MY FATHER-IN-LAW HERE WITH MY MOTHER-IN-LAW FOR A YEAR.

IT GOT MY FATHER. MY FATHER AND MY GOD WILL AND I CAN'T EAT MY WAY AND FELL AND ALL THAT AND NOT A LOVING FATHER. MY CARE MUCH MORE HEART. HER LITTLE GIRL HIT HIM BACK NOW CARING FOR MY MOTHER, WHO WITHOUT AN ALCOHOLIC.

HE WORKED AND NOW SHE HAD MENTIONED ALL PRIMARY MEMORY OF SHORT-TERM EVENT TO TAKE CARE OF A LOT OF HER.

HE REALLY GOT ALL WORKING OUT FOR MY NOW GOING TO SEE MY MOTHER AND TAKE CARE OF HER AND ME DON'T COUNT OF ALCOHOLIC GENERATIONAL AND KNOW WHAT TO SAY YOU YOU YOU ARE WHY I DO THE SHOW AND I II THINK I CAN SPEAK FOR THE ENTIRE AUDIENCE WHEN I SAY THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR HEART ON THIS. I BET YOU THERE ARE PEOPLE ALL OVER THIS LISTENING AUDIENCE RIGHT NOW AND THEN. LISTEN LATER ON WHO HAVE BIG TEARS IN THEIR EYES BECAUSE THEY'RE WALKING THE SAME PATH IN THEIR DRAWING STRENGTH FROM WHAT YOU'VE DONE. SHELLEY AND I I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT IT'S EXTRAORDINARY WHAT YOU'VE DONE. I NEED YOU TO HOLD ON BECAUSE I WANT TO SEND YOU IF IT'S ALL RIGHT WITH YOU I'D LIKE TO SEND YOU MY CD JUST BECAUSE YOU TOUCH ME AND I JUST LIKE TO PLAY THE PIANO FOR USE IN THE BEST WAY I CAN DO THAT JUST SEND YOU MY CD AND HOW I WILL THEN PLAY ALONG WITH THAT THERE'S A LIVE RECORDING OF THAT WE DID AT CHURCH IN NASHVILLE WITH A FRIEND OF MINE ON THE VIOLIN OF THE OLD RUGGED CROSS REPLACED DURING COMMUNION WAS SUNNY AND I LOVE THE RECORDING OF IT SO MUCH YOU COULD HEAR COMMUNION TRACEROUTE CLINK AROUND LITTLE BIT IN IT BUT I LOVE THE RECORDING OF SO MUCH THAT I PUT IT ON HERE. WE DID IT OF THE OLD RUGGED CROSS IN NEAR THE CROSS AND YOU LOVE THE WAY THIS Place IN. I HOPE THAT YOU PLAY ALONG WITH THAT, THE WHOLE CD AND BUT PLEASE KNOW THAT THAT YOUR WHY I GAVE THAT HIM THERE IS A PLACE OF QUIET REST NEAR TO THE HEART OF GOD. A PLACE WHERE SIN CANNOT MOLEST NEAR TO THE HEART OF GOD AND THAT THAT'S THAT'S WHY THAT THAT'S WHY DO THESE HYMNS BECAUSE THEY SAY THEY SPEAK DIRECTLY TO THAT LEVEL OF PAIN AND SORROW AND HEARTACHE AND LOSS THAT YOU'VE WALK THROUGH AND YOU FOUND GOD TO BE DEEPER STILL.

AND THAT IS THE MESSAGE OF THIS ENTIRE SHOW AND I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT YOU HAVE BEEN WHAT A BLESSING HAVING HOLLY CHURCH LITERALLY UP UNTIL STROKE AND MATTER FACT, ONE OF MY STRUGGLES WITH GOD OF THE CHILD. IF WE WENT TO CHURCH THAT I CAN PAINT IT ALL THINK ONE DAY HE TOLD ME NOT, MY DEAR TIME REAL QUICK HERE BECAUSE YOU WILL WANT TO GET INFORMATION, TO HAVE HER BACK ON THE SHOW SUGGESTED BUILDING UP SHELLEY INFORMATION HERE. THANK YOU VERY MUCH HOPE FOR THE CAREGIVER.COM WILL SEE NEXT WEEK. SOME OF YOU KNOW THE REMARKABLE STORY OF PETER'S WIFE GRACE AND RECENTLY PETER TALK TO GRACIE ABOUT ALL THE WONDERFUL THINGS THAT EMERGE FROM HER DIFFICULT JOURNEY. TAKE A LISTEN GRACIE. WHEN YOU ENVISION DOING A PROSTHETIC LIMB OUTREACH. DID YOU EVER THINK THE INMATES WOULD HELP YOU DO THAT, NOT IN A MILLION YEARS. WHEN YOU GO TO THE FACILITY RUN BY CORE CIVIC AND YOU SEE THE FACES OF THESE INMATES THAT ARE WORKING ON PROSTHETIC LIMBS THAT YOU HELPED COLLECT FROM ALL OF THE COUNTRY THAT YOU PUT OUT THE PLEA FOR AND THEIR DISASSEMBLY SELL THESE LEGS LIKE WHAT YOU HAVE YOUR OWN PROSODY AND ARMS AND ARMS EVERYTHING WHEN YOU SEE ALL THIS MAKES ME CRY BECAUSE I SEE THIS ON THEIR FACES AND I KNOW WHAT IT IS LIKE SOMEPLACE WHERE YOU CAN'T GET OUT WITHOUT SOMEBODY ELSE ALLOWING YOU TO GET OUT THE HOSPITAL. THESE MEN ARE SO GLAD THAT THEY GET TO BE DOING IS ONE THING SAID SOMETHING GOOD WITH MY DID YOU KNOW BEFORE YOU BECAME IN A PT THAT PARTS OF PROSTHETIC LIMBS COULD BE RECYCLED AND I LIKE PEG LEG. I THOUGHT A WOODEN LEGS. I NEVER THOUGHT OF TITANIUM AND CARBON LEGS AND FLEXIBLY SEE LEGS AND ALL THAT. I NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT.

AS YOU WATCH THESE INMATES PARTICIPATE IN SOMETHING LIKE THIS, KNOWING THAT THERE HELPING OTHER PEOPLE ALL PROVIDING THE MEANS FOR THE SUPPLIES TO GET OVER THERE. WHAT IS IT YOU JUST ON THE HEART LEVEL. I WISH I COULD EXPLAIN TO THE WORLD. WHAT I SEE IN HERE AND I WISH THAT I CAN ABLE TO COME AND SAY THE THIS GUY RIGHT HERE IN EAST AFRICA WITH THAT.

I NEVER NOT FEEL THAT WAY OUT EVERY TIME YOU KNOW YOU ALWAYS MAKE ME HAVE TO LEAVE. I DON'T WANT TO LEAVE. I FEEL LIKE I'M AT HOME WITH THEM AND I FEEL LIKE WE HAVE A COMMON BOND THAT WOULD NEVER EXPECT THAT ONLY GOD COULD PUT TOGETHER.

NOW THAT YOU'VE HAD EXPERIENCE WITH IT WHAT YOU THINK OF FAITH-BASED PROGRAMS OR CORE CIVIC OFFERS. I THINK THERE IS ABSOLUTELY AWESOME AND I THINK EVERY PRISONER OUT THERE FOR HALF FAITH-BASED PROGRAM BECAUSE HE RETURN RIGHT AT THE MEN THAT ARE INVOLVED IN THIS PARTICULAR FAITH-BASED PROGRAM AND OTHER ONES LIKE IT, BUT I KNOW THAT THIS ONE CAR IS AMAZINGLY LOW RATE COMPARED AND I THINK THAT THAT IS ME JUST HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH GOD TO HELP PEOPLE WANT TO DONATE AND USE PROSTHETIC LIMBS, WHETHER FROM A LOVED ONE WHO PASSED AWAY OR YOU SOMEBODY WELL-GROOMED YOU DONATED SOME OF YOUR OWN FOR THE HABIT OUT OF THE PLEASE GO TO STAINING WITH.COM/RECYCLE GAIN. WE