God's Pattern for Children, Part 2

Children are deficient in four areas mentally. We want to stimulate them to know the truth of God physically want to nourish them so that they can grow up socially want to teach them humility and the love of others spiritually want to confront their sin and bring them to the place of repentance and in Jesus Christ, tabula rasa. The basic idea is that a child's mind and soul is a blank slate at birth, so he's not morally good or bad, just neutral and that's a popular notion these days, but is it a biblical one. Bottom line, what does the Bible say about our moral condition. Even before were born. It would be hard to overstate just how important that question is the answer is going to affect every aspect of your parenting. From the way you discipline to what you teach your kids about God and salvation. So stay right here on grace to you as John MacArthur helps you examine your child's nature through typical lens. It's part of his current study, the fulfilled family hears John with today's lesson. Open your Bible if you will to Ephesians chapter 6 Ephesians chapter 6, the family, as we have been saying all through this series is the critical center of society.

Family is the seedbed of economic skills, social skills, morality and ethics, values, attitudes toward work.

Faith in God, you name it. When things go well in the family life is worth living.

When they don't go well in the family life falls apart and clearly in our time and in our country life is falling apart.

Children are largely the devastated ones in this disintegration without proper love without proper discipline. We are raising more better, not raising a generation of troubled angry bitter children.

They have been abandoned by their career driven fathers send their working mothers. Parents have become self-centered busy with their own enterprises they want only that the children not get in the way children are left to themselves largely left, often in the chaos of divorce, sometimes born to legitimately all of these things tragically effective criminality is on the increase because of this unloved, angry, undisciplined generation young people who are self-centered and selfish, hostile, driven by unchecked lost which escalates as this generation of rebellious children grow up against this trend stands the word of God so clear about how to raise a responsible and faithful child, and it really is not that difficult. In fact, we can understand clearly the plan is only a question of whether we will be faithful to implement it.

I can sum up all you need to know about raising your children. All you need to know about parenting in just a couple of sentences one teach them the truth about God and his law all the time. That's the first sentence. Teach them the truth about God and his law all the time that one sentence sums up all kinds of things out of Scripture. But that's the sum of it. Teach them the truth about God and his law all the time. Second sentence demand that they obey that law and punish them physically when they don't demand that they obey that law and punish them physically when they don't. Those two sentences sum up what the Bible teaches about raising children, teach them the truth about God and his law all the time. Demand that they obey that law and punish them physically when they don't. We remember what it says in Proverbs foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child with the rod of reproof will drive it from him, but the rod of reproof will not drive it from him. If he does not understand why he is being reproved and he will understand that if he understands the law which he has violated as we saw last time. Children battle the curse inside them. They battle the world system outside them. And nowadays, of course, they battle these last days dissolutions which come upon them. They must then not be left to themselves, but they must be assisted to develop as God fearing people and Ephesians chapter 6 gives us the simple pattern.

In fact, it speaks first of all to the children and it says children obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with a promise that it may be well with you and that you may live long on the earth and then to the parents and fathers, and that certainly encompasses the parental responsibility of both father and mother, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. In other words, instruct them about the Lord and discipline them to obey that instruction just that clear. There is the pattern.

Your goal is children who are obedient and who honor their mother and father.

They are the ones to whom blessing his promise now were still talking about the responsibility of children and it is this to obey your parents and to honor them. Really, that's the sphere of all of their responsibility. They are under their parents and they are called to submission and respect.

But children must be taught to do this they must be disciplined to do this they must be made to obey must be made to respect now when you have an improper or absent area in their lives in regard to teaching this one. There is a big missing element in their lives, and it is this you can give them things you can give them toys you can give them a happy environment comfortable home. But if this area of their life is missing. They will not learn self-control and if they do not learn self-control there on a fast track to being reprobate and headed for damnation.

You see, children are deficient in four areas. You can find those areas simply by reminding yourself south of Luke 252, where it says about our Lord Jesus, and Jesus Increasing in wisdom and stature and in favor with God and man Jesus as a little child grew and grew in four areas wisdom and stature. That means he grew mentally and physically in favor with God and man. That means he grew spiritually and socially those of the four categories in which children are deficient, they are mentally deficient. What that means is they have limited knowledge and limited wisdom. They are physically deficient. They have limited strength, they are socially deficient. They are selfish and proud. You know they want what they want when they want it and they show off a lot and they are spiritually deficient and that they are sinful and do not know God personally. Parents then have to create an environment in a context which demands that they develop in these areas. Mentally we want to stimulate them to know the truth of God physically want to nourish them so that they can grow up socially want to teach them humility and the love of others and to be servants spiritually want to confront their sin and bring them to the place of repentance and faith in Jesus Christ. That's what parenting is it is teaching them about God and his law all the time and enforcing their obedience to that law by disciplining them when they disobey now. Frankly, this pattern yields marvelous results wonderful results and you don't have to be an educated PhD to figure this out. You only have to be a PhD to figure out how to control children who aren't trained this way. That's what we have today. We have a whole world of psychologists and sociologist and psychiatrist trying to figure out how to get control of a generation of children who are out of control because they have not been raised according to the principles of Scripture we have a whole generation of disobedient children in our nation who are proud, self-centered and indulgent toward their own drives and lusts. Parents who have been programmed not to spank them because that's been reclassified as child abuse parents who really don't know what moral system to teach them. Parents are too busy to bother largely are now trying to deal with these children who are angry because they're not given the love and affection and attention that they need who are uncontrolled because they have not been taught self-control. Parents are now trying to deal with these children in the most frightening ways I picked up Newsweek magazine in the main article was an article on Ritalin which is a medication being given to children today and want to give you some of what this article says because I want to show you what links parents go to to try to get control of their children when they will not do it God's way is how the article begins is another medication morning at Winnebago elementary school in the middle class Chicago suburb of Bloomingdale three pings sound precisely over the intercom at 11:45 AM, principal Mark Wagoner opens a locked file cabinet and withdraws a giant Tupperware container filled with plastic prescription files nearly a dozen students scramble to the office for their Ritalin, a drug that calms the agitated by stimulating the brain. These children all ages, mostly boys have been diagnosed with ADHD, which is attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, a complex of neurological impairment that takes the brakes off brains and derails concentration a decade ago. Wagoner, the principal remembers only to Winnebago students lined up for Ritalin. He's uncertain how many more take their medicine at home or on their own. There are no x-rays, no blood tests no CT scans to determine who needs this medicine in diagnosing attention deficit remains as much art as science. There are no definitive long-term studies to reassure parents that this stimulant isn't causing some hidden havoc to their child.

It takes time for parents and teachers to sit down and talk to kids, says Dr. Sharon Collins, a pediatrician in Cedar Rapids Iowa were reportedly 8% of the children are on Ritalin. It takes less time to get a child a pill.

I think she sees the reality evidence takes a lot of time to train a child a lot less time to give them a pill but turning your disobedient child your child that lack self-control.

Maybe your angry child because that child is not cared for properly turning that child into a drug addict is that a solution. Some students take their time-released pills before school.

Others take their doses at off hours. One boys jogging watches times to beep for Ritalin at 10 AM and 2 PM. Like many administrators right now is not sure what to make of it are doctors just catching this disabling affliction more often. In other words, why now and not a few years back as our culture gone so high body haywire that we lost patience with the demanding quirks of training our children.

ADHD has become.

This is interesting. America's number one childhood psychiatric disorder.

Experts believe that more than 2 million children have the disorder, according to an estimate by the national Institute of mental health. About one student in every classroom is believed to experience it since 1990. Dr. Daniel Seyfert of Johns Hopkins University school of medicine calculates a number of kids taking Ritalin has grown 2 1/2 times among today's 38 million children at the ages of 5 to 14. He reports 1.3 million take it regularly. Sales of the drug last year topped $350 million. This is beyond question.

An American phenomenon, the rate of Ritalin use in the United States is at least five times higher than in the rest of the world is so common in some upscale precincts that a mini black market has emerged in a handful of playgrounds and campuses, and vitamin are as it is called cells for three to $15 per pill. Some kids are now using it to crush and snort for a cheap and relatively modest buzz.

The article concludes by saying to researchers is a classic pay now or pay more later situation. Studies indicate this notice that those with untreated ADHD are more likely to become alcoholics, smokers and drug abusers than the general population sure undisciplined people with no self-control are more likely to be like that more than one third drop out of school.

Of course in about 1/10 of ADHD. Adults attempt suicide. What you have is a dysfunctional antisocial unlogged, angry, upset, undisciplined, lacking self-control child who becomes that kind of an adult formula for disaster.

Now, in case you wanted look at the diagnostic list. I'll give you a checklist professionals base their diagnosis of ADHD on the following guidelines in the give a whole bunch of men might be a 20 of them.

Then they say.

If, for any six of these applies to you.

You've got it.

You can pick your six first pays little attention to detail makes careless mistakes has a short attention span doesn't listen when spoken to. Doesn't follow instructions fails to finish tasks has difficulty getting organized, avoids tasks that require sustained effort loses things, is easily distracted, forgets things during the day fidgets squirms in seat leaves seat when remaining seated is expected runs about climes excessively has difficult playing quietly acts as if driven by a motor talks a lot and blurts out answers before the question is complete. No other describing all of our children don't kid me. That's all my children. That's all my grandchildren, that's me. I don't have a disease every kid is like that if he's not taught self-control every report card I got the first user now and I'm telling you the deep secrets folks every report card I got as a little kid in my early years of school said the same thing Johnny doesn't pay attention. Johnny talks too much. Johnny won't stay in his seat. Johnny fiddles and makes noises with his pencil Johnny lack self-control. Johnny doesn't do his best and every time I took home a note like that. I got staked I had a lot going on in my head and I couldn't concentrate on just one thing, because I was busy with a whole lot of thing God made me certain way wired me to be able to deal with a lot of stuff that's my life now. I'm glad my parents didn't turn me into a drug addict. I didn't have a disease or disorder that was just me.

My parents had a tremendous challenge teaching me self-control because I had so much mental energy and so much physical energy. I still have a lot of energy. Even now you can only imagine what I was like before I was 12 I was a rocket going in every direction. My parents worked very hard to harness me.

I'm so glad the took the effort to do that so that God could use the abilities that he gave me they loved me and they spank me.

They taught me God's truth all the time by instruction and example and when I didn't abide by the discipline and I learned self-control, sad, sad situation in our society. All the psychologist or psychiatrist running around front to solve a problem that can only be solved in a home where the word of God reigns supreme. No other way and we are called parents to teach our children to obey us and not just because we have this own independent agenda, but because we represent to them the truth of God in our morals and our ethics and our values and our truths are God's were passing them on children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right, obey your parents in the Lord was happening for the Lord's sake because your parents are teaching you the things that are precious to the Lord. Children you should obey your parents willingly. You should obey your parents unconditionally. You should or obey your parents gladly and joyfully because they are teaching you the truth of God in all these efforts that go on in our culture. All these efforts at going to liberate children from parental authority and H children from physical punishment are disastrous, and violate God's law a few years ago, I read quote a disgruntled schoolteacher handed in her resignation with the following comment in our public schools today. The teachers are afraid of the principles the principals are afraid of the superintendents superintendents are afraid of the board members the board members are afraid of the parents.

The parents are fair to the children and the children are Freda nobody one foreigner to our country, said the thing that impressed you most about America was the way parents obey their children a tragic children, obey your parents in the Lord and why was it say this is right. This is right.

Who says where the psychological evidence God says it's right, you're gonna know it's right by looking around at the disaster of this culture.

When children don't do it. God said do it.

God said it's right. And he wrote the book on right that's grace to you with John MacArthur thanks for tuning in today. John's current study from the book of Ephesians is titled the fulfilled family know there's plenty more ground to cover in this study of the fulfilled family, including four programs on God's plan for parents.

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