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Take your Bibles go back to first Timothy were in chapter 5. This exceedingly practical expectation that we been looking at first Timothy chapter 5 is again Paul is writing to Timothy who is has rather been left in Ephesus to oversee the church function as the pastor is a young man and a Paul gives him some guidance about relations in the church, but particularly about how to correct people of different ages and different genders within the church. Hearsay says it first Timothy chapter 5 verses one into do not sharply rebuke an older man, but rather appealed to him as a father to the younger men as brothers. The older women as mothers and the younger women as sisters in all purity guys I said in my introduction this morning. This text teaches us quite a bit about relations about honoring those who are older than us respecting them having an esteem for them even when as a pastor, they may have to be corrected. It tells us a lot about how were to just care for one another is a familial spirit. Here he talks about you older men as fathers in the church.

Older ladies as mothers younger miniature brothers and younger ladies as sisters but the centerpiece of what is talking about is there's a way you correct one another in the church. Now I'm in a move on to new material. We talked about Tom appealing to older men as fathers we talked about some correcting the younger men but remembering their brothers.

We talked about some correcting older ladies and would appeal to them as a mother, and now we come to IV and that is correct. Younger women as sisters and then he gives the phrase in all purity list talk just for a moment about sisters now once again we see the real parallel between the previous statement of admonishing or correcting the young men in the church as brothers and cannot charge you again with the spirit of the whole text and that is this is a loving family. One of the things that we do when we are trying to mentor pastors and quite often in their churches.

They have people who are unregenerate people who are opposed to the preaching of the word.

People are who are opposed to reforming or changing the church to be biblical and that this is it like some unusual thing. This is almost always the case in a pastor gets in a float to where he views so many of those he's preaching to as being his enemies are against him, and guess what, he's right there is some of that but then slowly gossip begins to save church members.

Slowly, God begins to purge the church and slowly he has found the church in what was once just a congregation. The people and he has to learn highest no longer me against the hey there with me as long as I'm with the book there for me. Therefore, the word of God. Therefore, reforming the church biblically and it's a hard transition sometimes for a pastor. I think I struggled with that myself to go from it's me against them and them.

He gets me to. It's us against the world for the glory of God.

And that's where Paul's coming from a more than sort of that is where Paul's coming from.

As he says. Remember Timothy, this is not your father.

This is your mother. This is your brother. And now, this is your sister and love should be your motive limits city and his love is our motive when we correct an individual and in the church, our motive should be the glory of God. Because of that brother sister goes out in sin, and they're gonna damage the reputation of Christ. Secondly, our motive should be the good of the church that brother or sister continues and see and they add to the spiritual disunity and disharmony in the church and all kinds of bad repercussions can come as they will likely begin to reproduce their compromise and their error in the church and the church is damaged and hurtful. The Lord that's one of the things this baffles me and has some from the very beginning about people being adamantly opposed to any element of biblical church discipline. You know the talk of well it's going to hurt people.

People get upset, etc. set yes but it is not corrected, they continue to let a little leaven leavens the whole lump of dough that was Paul's explanation to the Corinthian church when they were negligent in removing an unrepentant immoral man in their fellowship. So the good of the church should be a loving motive and then lastly the good of that individual. You got to check yourself. I have to check myself if I met right. You just have to pray to God work in my heart make it be that I've got to deal with this but make it be that I'm consumed with your glory. The good of the church and the good of this individual. It's not about me being the great delete corrector in the church you know for a long time there was that it was real popular for churches to take spiritual gift test you member those some of God, though spiritual gift test, and there's nothing in the Bible about finding your spiritual gift. That way, by the way, and I think people trying to be helpful, but really what it is is a personality test discount tells you what your natural bent is and you know somebody would get through the spiritual gift test can they be a prophet. So from then on I had permission to be rude means everybody around them.

That's kind of what that amounted to well on your spiritual gift should never listen to me should never override your love for your brothers and sisters, your spiritual gift flies on the wings of love and eat it to me as our decades have gone by, together, my love for you has grown and grown and grown where if I deal with something in the church today my whole phone the whole sense of what I'm about, has changed and I'm so grateful for God drawing me that way well to the specific admonition IV Timothy, your young man and make sure when you have to correct the younger woman. You remember you to corrector as a sister when we have these pure loving spiritual mode is I've been talking about these flavor the correction with the factual honey, and here's what you should ask yourself how I want someone to correct my sister. How would I want someone to deal with my sister. She needed addressing or correcting how what I want someone to correct my daughter and by the way, are you listening to me. I want my daughters corrected by godly over older women is just astonishing to me. The people who will cover up for their children see and what are you thinking that's the salvation of our souls. That's a security that the cleansing keep us from ruling and rack had total despair and wasting our lives and being given over to the enemy.

We made one another to help us Hillary Clinton said, it takes a village to raise a child… It takes a church a local church family to write so please help me with my two whether grown now they can still use some help. But now I have grandchildren and you better help me raise them all bear witness to the judgment seat of Christ, and I'm going to help you raise years and were going to more than anything. What are we going Google level and when we do have to correct one upward unit because we love our Lord and we love our children and love our grandchildren the ghetto. Why there I just can't fathom the spirit field regenerate child of God saying I don't want godly people helping me raise my children okay, leave that alone was move all let me say this, talking about Timothy Hughes being addressed here. Specifically, a pastor whose chief motive is to exalt himself by using harshness or hardness when it's not necessary especially in dealing with ladies is not serving God, but he serving an idol himself.

He's made an idol of himself. He has evil and self-serving motives. Pulses Timothy, when you correct. Ladies, young ladies, in particular love them like you love your sister care for them spiritually.

Like you want somebody to care for your own sister or maybe some of us our own dollars V we had this other phrase that jumps out at us in verse to the last phrase in all purity are with all purity now for young pastor or for any pastor in that manner you want to make sure that you have the discipline to look upon the young ladies in your church the same way you would want someone to look upon your daughter or your sister. And when counseling and in this case correcting the young lady in the church. A man in the church pastor in the church. You can start out with pure motives, but because of the work of the enemy in the fallenness of our flesh, you can quickly flow into something that is improper and here's where I would say we have to be vigilant and discipline to be cautious about connections and that's what happens in church family special good sure precious connections are made the connection made when you corrected a person their repentance and God does a work in the sweetness of renewal and forgiveness and starting over is a precious connection, but you knew Paul pulses to Timothy but Timothy. Be careful that point special with young ladies. Thanks and quickly go to get over the impurity can go from a spiritual oneness to an emotional oneness that could end in a physical oneness is dishonoring to the Lord how true it is that a young woman can be particularly vulnerable to a man in the office of pastor and he must never cross the line abusing his status wrongly to involve himself with her pulses. Timothy have all purity. So he must never sin against her by ministering spiritually and then using that as a platform to manipulate her emotionally or physically. That's not treating her as a sister, John MacArthur's is something that I think is right on.

He says it affect.

This is spiritual adultery are spiritual incest because she's your sister and you taken advantage over we hear of this we hear a lot of this going on.

We have a lot of a bit just in our area some years ago that I think there were three staff members on the church who had been arrested for molesting children in the church.

What a horrifying and vile evil and it came back to me that one of these men had put a coverings over his windows over his door windows and over his windows outside facing the outside so he could bring children small children into the closed office of the other staff members knew this was happening. See that's not being diligent to exercise all purity and to guard yourself. We have policies here in place at our church we don't have to talk about anymore because our guys know these things and were just not going to counsel with ladies with a closed-door release the door.

That's gotta like mine has a 2' x 3' window in the wall of my secretaries always outside the door. Basically, generally speaking, we don't counsel with ladies more than one time. Sometimes at the ladies to come back than like I'm going to the young lady here in a week or so my wife will sit into that second meeting just to be just to try to maintain all purity and isn't it true that sometimes one party can be perfectly pure, but the other be impure you to sometimes lead somebody with you to be a witness and to guard against anything taking that next step will talk about those steps in just a moment and then secondly, not all do many strict policies in all of our life so that we maintain the utmost purity. Secondly as much as possible. The women in the church should be counseling the other women in the church. Small groups covers this wonderfully. Christlike church and I hear it over and over again where older spiritual ladies in small groups are bringing another lady aside in counseling and encouraging and admonishing and correcting were necessary and this is beautiful in the Lord.

Most of the time a lady doesn't have to see a pastor. She just needs to see those who've been matured under a faithful pastor's ministry. Typically, ladies can counsel with ladies.

Titus 2335 reminds us older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips not enslaved to much wine teaching what is good so that they may encourage the younger women they here's one will say if if if women would get busy with these biblical admonitions it would solve a lot of the problems most women have anxieties and difficulties of mostly because are doing a lot of things God never prescribed for them to do the king a lot of burdens. God never gave them to carry some older women are to be training young women he says in Titus two verse four to love their husbands. That's if you married to me. That's what work here.

My point is, if you do what God tells you. Do you have time doing things sometimes usually get you in trouble. To love your children to be sensible, pure workers at home kind being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored. It's amazing to me as the feminist rage at those around their false gospel that so they're all against submitting to their husbands all don't they want to submit to their new surrogate postman. The federal government federal government provide all my needs federal government to give me all the healthcare federal government giving birth control federal government may not avenge her federal government be my protector overnight and they will gladly submit to one that God has not given charge. They always submit here's what interested they don't submit to the one that God says if you submit him. I'll work on his heart for you. I'll change him I'll break him will back to the thought of our text men in the church. The young men in particular in the pastorate, you must go the extra mile to make sure you function in your ministry to the young ladies in the church with all purity now so the pastor are men in general are given this exhortation in the church and I'll turn the coin over and talk about the ladies for second men are not the only ones to fail with this men are not the only ones who are schemers and manipulators and by the way, in the May to movement. Let me say it loud and clear any time anywhere.

A man is abusive assaulting hurting attacking misusing the lady sexually or otherwise that is criminal that is evil and we stand against it. 110% always, always, brothers and sisters.

The Bible tells us that this is often a two-way street is another side of that coin.

All of the young ladies that go to a movie executive hotel room some evening nose are is an innocent and how they're going and whether going there are evil seductress us women who have evil motives and women who use their wiles to get their way.

Men do that in the Bible since women do that. Matter fact go over to the Old Testament the book of Proverbs, would you go there. Proverbs chapter 6 of give me just a minute. Proverbs chapter 6 and first look at verse 23 Proverbs chapter 6 verse 23 that you know the proverb is a man riding to his son to give his young son wisdom, and in this section of Proverbs.

He's warning his son against the strange woman.

That's the way that the King James translated translates it, or in the new mega standard from this evil woman know what to say about this woman.

Proverbs 6 verse 23 for the commandment is a lamp in the teaching is a light and reproduce for discipline or the way of life to keep you from the evil woman from the smooth tongue a bit off Chris do not desire her beauty and hurt your heart. No let her capture you with her eyelids from account of a harlot one is reduced to a loaf of bread and adulterous fonts for the precious life we talk about that for just a moment your precious life means it generally means that when it has the greatest value for the things of God.

The writer proverb says there are evil women set on fire of hell itself and back. Not only is to bring down the men that may be greatly used by the Lord, the one Paul tells Timothy Timothy maintain all purity stay away from danger zones she hunts. Notice that she hunts for the precious life. Then he says in verse 27. Can a man take fire in his bosom and his clothes not be burned, you can't get by with this without it burning Proverbs chapter 7 verse six chapter 7 verse six he writes for at the window of my house. I looked up through my lattice and I saw among the naïve and discern them under you so young man lacking sin pricing to the street near her at her corner and he takes the way to her house in the twilight in the evening in the middle of the night in the darkness, and behold, a woman comes to meet him dressed as a harlot and cunning of heart, that means she has honed her craft. She is boisterous and rebellious. Her feet do not remain at home. She is now in the streets.

Now the squares and marks by every corner, so she seizes him and kisses and looks for aggressiveness and with brazen face. He says to him, I was did offer peace offerings.

Today I paid my bowels their heart, for I've come out to meet you to seek your presence earnestly and I have found you.

I have spread my accounts with coverings with colored linens of Egypt. I've sprinkled my bed with myrrh and aloes, and cinnamon come let us drink our fill of love into the morning let us delight ourselves with caresses for my husband is not home is going a long journey is taken a bag of money with him, and in full moon. He will return come home. Notice verse 21 with her many persuasion. She entices him with her flattering lips. She seduces him. Suddenly he follows her as an ox goes to the slaughter as one in fetters to the discipline of a fool until an arrow pierces through his liver as a bird hastens to the snare, so he does not know that it will cost him his life.

Verse 24, and therefore my sons listen to me and pay attention to the words of my mouth.

Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways. Do not stray into her paths for many of the victims she's cast down, and numerous are her slain. Her house is the way to shield the sending to the chambers of death brothers and sisters. Satan plants these wicked seducers in churches and I hunt for the precious life, the minister of God are any man in the church that considers himself spiritual man. He has to be vigilant to be aware and maintain all purity so be cautious about the connections that are naturally made in the church there beautiful and sweet and pure and holy but easily the enemy can switch them over to impropriety. Real quick. I'm going to give you some challenges.

And these are things that I purpose to challenge my own self with an walk-in will call this fighting for purity fighting for purity. None of you are trysting pure note to call a man or woman who says I had not one trace of info for an improper, thinking our lust in my heart and my life. You know what you call it first to call him a liar. Jesus said if you have had lust in your heart you committed adultery already know I said that I don't all the regions but I can surmise one reason is because that made everyone guilty. So what I like to say is there lines you must not cross you must fight in certain arenas and never let things escalate the devastating state of immoralities number one fight in the arena of looking and thinking fight their fight to catch it. There fight to grab it. Call it what it is and repent of it. There, that's the arena divided that's the arena to kitchen and Job said Job 31 verse one. I've made a covenant with my eyes. How then could I gaze at a virgin of the word gaze is interesting.

Matter fact of the King James probably has a little better think on a virgin then have the idea of looking at a man or woman and noticing that there attractive are beautiful. The Bible even talks about those who had external beauty, but it means to go from there to begin to cultivate lust in the heart to begin to look with thoughts to pursue improper ends in this relationship, cultivating something forward you look at been the thinking starts repent their note a great thing to do is say Lord is an attractive man. He's appealing.

He's kind and caring, but he's not mine, and you've not given him to me, Lord. That's a beautiful woman. She's been attractive physically. She's kind and caring and affirms me in so many ways. But Lord, she's not mine I can go down that road fight in the arena of looking and thinking Proverbs 625 reminds us do not desire her beauty to notice this in your heart.

This is a cultivation more than an acknowledgment. It's a cultivate your you are willfully cultivating something that's when the sea and occurs it must be called that, and named that because it just as inactive. This was say that's a Evo I'm not going there. I remember what it is that money funny how little incidents you just remember in your life. This is kind of funny but it's not kinda funny but it's kind of funny. I was a little boy and we were at a sporting event that I was participating in and there was a man there who was middle-aged man who was a professional man and a wealthy man and just be gone. Is he.

He looked better than most men in my time.

I mean he just was dressed nice and cured himself with an air of confidence and he was a con man and I remember he walked by and I remember my mama say into her friend sitting there all he he is distinguished is a lie. Don't know where else it went. That's fine. What thinking do you allow to be cultivated after that is the question fight in the arena of looking and thinking with the King David do on the balcony. As he looked and saw Bathsheba. He didn't fight. At that point he began cultivating. How can I have her as mine if you don't fight, they hear the dominoes are going to fall and you're going to go deeper.

Secondly, not only find in the arena of looking and thinking fight in the arena of physical proximity fight in the arena of physical proximity. This is that time when that person just seems to be around and you realize there could be an attraction there that's unholy and you decide. I'm not going there anymore. I'm not going that place any longer. I'm not going to allow myself to get near that place again where he usually is or where she usually is.

The Bible says in Proverbs 725. Do not let your heart turn aside to her waist do not stray into her paths earlier. He talks about going near her door and you know where her glorious you don't go there. Can I say to you leave that area can I say to you leave that job if you have to. Don't ruin your life. Don't ruin the testimony of Christ.

Don't ruin your marriage, get out of that this happened to a relative of mine years ago on in this. This lady was a relative of mine said that that she had left her job and I said what you mean you left her job and she said well I was an environment that was just wicked.

It was just people shacking up the immoralities. It was just awful and my husband learned what was going on there. She said I would involve no one interested in any of it. I was fine but he found out was going on there. He called my boss and said she will not be coming in next week he got her out of the arena.

Even though she was. But sometimes you gotta do those things leave that job if you have to leave that GM if you need to leave that hobby. If you have to. Don't be in that prep the presence of that person for you since I don't know for sure. And by the way can I say something to the person you're thinking that you don't need me around made love the Lord might be the time of weakness and by you taking the first step you save them to. I met I had. They don't have to be an evil man lightly saw our talk better if I don't have to be an evil seductress necessary that we talk about he could just be the wrong time in the wrong place and you just need to make sure you don't go near her door fight in the arena of physical proximity number three fight in the arena of emotional offense at the affinity rather affinity and with the idea of agreement that this is a very tricky thing when you're trying to counsel and care for someone they can be emotionally affected you not know their mostly affected, but you do know when it goes too far in your beginning to talk about things about how you connect with them and how you're in agreement with them and how they understand you, and you understand them. Those are lines you should be crossing find it there. Stop it. There repent at that level don't go forward. You start spending time with that person. You don't need to spend with them. You start giving them energy you don't need to give them you start giving them attention, which is inappropriate for him to get you start neglecting these things in your own spouse would you say well, but you don't understand my spouse didn't get me and my spouse is not the million. They don't affirm and I don't understand me so what does that mean you're to love your husband or to love your wife that needs to forgive yourself and yourself. I get it again and calling God to be the strength you need is J. Adam said before, when you come into counseling with Jay Adams. No damages, or the father true biblical counseling, you could say a person would come in and though safe at this point, you know, my spouse acts like my enemy just is just horrible and it's so difficult. He said what was the Bible say about your enemy pieces to love your enemies, so this level not your enemy for a while to get better avoid the arena of emotional affinity. That's the only way if you don't find I'm convinced in those three areas and I doubt you're going to make it their life and score hundred but you better score high if you don't find in those three areas. You are highly likely to fail an out and out sexually more immoralities and sin.

These things just don't happen, listen their lines. You cross to get there pulses Timothy maintain all purity.

Don't cross those lines. Proverbs 713, so she seizes him and kisses him with the brazen face.

She says to him. Proverbs 725 between 27 do not let your heart turn aside to her waist do not stray into her past for me near the victim. She's cast down in numerous or all her slain. Her house is the way to shield the sin into the chambers and our God is God's grace is God's mercy is God, the second chance and the third chance, and hundreds chance and I know their brothers and sisters in this room who love Jesus, who want to be devoted to him and serve him with all their hearts they cross the lines in the past that committed those top sins. In the past. Your soul and fill you and you be the greatest warrior going forward to protect younger brothers and sisters in the future and I want to tell you if God's forgiven you. We certainly forgive God's forgiven you. We certainly love you but you make sure that's in the past.

There's a difference between something the past you've repented of in a pattern you're walking in my fact, the Greek temps of the verbs concerning sin has the idea of of a pattern of continuing on in embracing fight in these arenas and don't fall into impurities willing men and men nothing but the word of God has the stuff.

It dismembered him for you.

I love you less fight for each other. Spot for children and their marriages and their children's children and their marriages know some of the greatest saints of God. I've seen that effective for the Lord have something in their past that they give a million. Last they could erase it she know you can go forward and know God's coveted in his blood. Hallelujah praise God for that